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5 Qualities of Positive Role Models

The top five qualities of role models described by students in my study are listed below. These qualities were woven through hundreds of stories and life experiences that helped children form a vision for their own futures. By far, the greatest attribute of a positive role model is the ability to inspire others.

1. Passion and Ability to Inspire

Role models show passion for their work and have the capacity to infect others with their passion. Speaking of several of his teachers, one student said, “They’re so dedicated to teaching students and helping students and empowering students. That is such a meaningful gesture. They are always trying to give back to the next generation. That really inspires me.”

2. Clear Set of Values

Role models live their values in the world. Children admire people who act in ways that support their beliefs. It helps them understand how their own values are part of who they are and how they might seek fulfilling roles as adults. For example, students spoke of many people who supported causes from education to poverty to the environment. Role models helped these students understand the underlying values that motivated people to become advocates for social change and innovation.

3. Commitment to Community

A role model is other-focused as opposed to self-focused. Role models are usually active in their communities, freely giving of their time and talents to benefit people. Students admired people who served on local boards, reached out to neighbors in need, voted, and were active members of community organizations.

4. Selflessness and Acceptance of Others

Related to the idea that role models show a commitment to their communities, students also admired people for their selflessness and acceptance of others who were different from them. One student spoke of her father, saying “He never saw social barriers. He saw people’s needs and acted on them, no matter what their background or circumstances. He was never afraid to get his hands dirty. His lifestyle was a type of service. My father taught me to serve.”

5. Ability to Overcome Obstacles

As Booker T. Washington once said, “Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which one has overcome.” Young people echoed this sentiment, showing how they developed the skills and abilities of initiative when they learned to overcome obstacles. Not surprisingly, they admire people who show them that success is possible.


Seven Traits of Role Models

1. Demonstrate confidence and leadership. A good role model is someone who is always positive, calm, and confident in themselves. You don’t want someone who is down or tries to bring you down. Everyone likes a person who is happy with their achievements but continues to strive for bigger and better objectives.

2. Don’t be afraid to be unique. Whatever you choose to do with your life, be proud of the person you’ve become, even if that means accepting some ridicule. You want role models who won’t pretend to be someone they are not, and won’t be fake just to suit other people.

3. Communicate and interact with everyone. Good communication means listening as well as talking. People are energized by leaders who explain why and where they are going. Great role models know they have to have a consistent message and business plan, and repeat it over and over again until everyone understands.

4. Show respect and concern for others. You may be driven, successful, and smart, but whether you choose to show respect or not speaks volumes about how other people see you. Everyone notices if you are taking people for granted, not showing gratitude, or stepping on others to get ahead.

5. Be knowledgeable and well rounded. Great role models aren’t just “teachers.” They are constant learners, challenge themselves to get out of their comfort zones, and surround themselves with smarter people. When team members see that their role model can be many things, they will learn to stretch themselves in order to be successful.

6. Have humility and willingness to admit mistakes. Nobody is perfect. When you make a bad decision, let those who are watching and learning from you know that you made a mistake and how you plan to correct it. By apologizing, accepting accountability, and correcting course, you will be demonstrating an often overlooked part of being a role model.

7. Do good things outside the job. People who do the work, yet find time for good causes outside of work, such as raising money for charity, saving lives, and helping people in need get extra credit. Commitment to a good cause implies a strong commitment to the business.

True role models are those who possess the qualities that we would like to have, and those who have affected us in a way that makes us want to be better people. They help us to advocate for ourselves and take a leadership position on the issues that we believe in. (The Seven Traits of a Role Model ( )

Here’s what I look for in a good role model:

1. Honesty is the best policy. If a character is not honest with themselves and others they do not deserve respect. I can understand a coming of age story where the character learns the value of honesty by at first lying, then suffering the consequences and ultimately choosing the path of sincerity and Truth.

2. Faithful and Trustworthy are traits I honor the most. It is my goal and the goal I expect in characters I follow (people I know). The road for Role Models is a two-way street. This is their purpose. As I do, so do you. As above, so below. The world is my mirror.

3. Wholesome and Sense of Humor go well together because they are complimentary. Being whole requires a healthy sense of humor. The ability to laugh at difficulty and anything which makes no logical sense defines resilience in my view, though the role model does not laugh at people in a derogatory way. Good humor is a trait we can all respect.

4. Selflessness almost goes without saying. A good person is selfless! However, selflessness has its limits because one must take care of themselves if they are to go on caring for others. Which leads us to the next trait of a good role model, NOT being broken.

5. Most story telling these days requires the main character to be “broken”, because this makes the character more “interesting”. By broken, I mean major personality flaws or mental illness. While this tactic can be effective in an opposites attract sort of way, I believe this undermines the whole story by removing the character as a role model.

6. A good role model does the right thing when that can be determined. By “right thing” I mean the character has a strong moral code and sticks to it. Good stories often contain an ethical dilemma or moral issue the main character must deal with. If the story has characters who play both sides of things, as in good/evil, hero/villian, or simply a two-face character it weakens the impact of the story by maintaining confusion in the audience. A good role model is clear to the viewer.

So there you have it, 3 perspectives on Role Models. It is easy to see the overlap and by this you can come up with your own view on what makes a good role model. For clarity, I made my list before finding the others which were basically the top picks on a google search. I find that with a clear mind and intention internet searches will take you right where you need to be, giving you the answers you seek.

Obviously, not all characters in a story are role models, though I believe the main characters should be. For instance, in a romance story the love birds need to complement each other by both being role models or not. In stories with a clear villain the character will be an obvious opposite to the hero, though there may be a few traits in common to bring the characters into conflict.

The purpose of this blog is mainly for my own research into writing for the new millennium. It is creating a story for our evolution to 4th density or simply providing a story to aspire to. Evolution happens regardless of our desire for it. One’s desire and focus quicken the pace for it though. We should all have role models in our lives. For me it was my mother and to some degree my father. I can think of no other person besides my grandmother who really inspired me. I have had lots of good teachers and coaches over the years, though they were so temporary I can hardly call them role models.

My writing project in process can be found here if you are interested. I suppose I should clarify that role models have a very important place in story telling because without them, the story has no teeth, no purpose, no message in my view. Since our lives are our story, this applies to us as individuals as well. We are the authors of our life, after all.

Sequoia Elisabeth

Oneness Ministry

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Honest, Responsible and True

Today’s Transition Blog considers the words Truth, Responsible, and Honest.  Noble words to be sure, but what do they really mean?  How do they fit into your life, or to reverse that, how do you fit into the definition of these words?  Let us look deeper to get a better feel for these words and the importance they play in everyone’s life.


1. Honorable in principles, intentions, and actions; upright and fair: an honest person.

2. Showing uprightness and fairness: honest dealings.

3. Gained or obtained fairly: honest wealth.

4. Sincere; frank: an honest face.

5. Genuine or unadulterated: honest commodities.” (

So who embodies these qualities?  Do you?  Every day in everything you do the opportunity to embody these traits exists, so you make this decision, albeit unconsciously most of the time, to be honest or not.  Consider how these actions define you and who they impact the most.  It certainly affects those you are dealing with, but more importantly how does it affect you?   Honesty is essential to self respect and self worth.  Being honorable is an act done for the self and that benefit then flows out to all those involved!


1. Answerable or accountable, as for something within one’s power, control, or management (often followed by to or for): He is responsible to the president for his decisions.

2. Involving accountability or responsibility: a responsible position.

3. Chargeable with being the author, cause, or occasion of something (usually followed by for): Termites were responsible for the damage.

4. Having a capacity for moral decisions and therefore accountable; capable of rational thought or action: The defendant is not responsible for his actions.” (

This is a profound word that touches life everyday in some way.  Look closely at these meanings and consider how they impact your life.  Have you ever attempted to avoid responsibility?  Do you hold yourself accountable for your actions?   Do you realize that you are the author of your life?  Simply knowing this is a step toward responsibility.  We are all capable for rational thought and action, so there is no excuse for denying responsibility!


1. The true or actual state of a matter: He tried to find out the truth.

2. Conformity with fact or reality; verity: the truth of a statement.

3. A verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like: mathematical truths.

4. The state or character of being true.

5. Actuality or actual existence.” (

This word is the sum total of all other words.  It is what is left after all else is removed.  This is a very elusive word and experience.  In the world of duality Truth seems to shift constantly so that attaining total Truth is almost impossible.  It is however the goal.  The goal we all aspire to!  It is possible Truth is only found after death, but even this is not Truth.  Death does not exist!  Please understand that most of what you experience in this world is other than Truth, Responsibility, and Honesty!

I aspire to these ideals daily and sometimes I even get close!  It is a constant vigil, one that I accept with pride and joy.  I bless you on your Journey of Love, may you find the Truth, Responsibility and Honesty you seek!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

Unity in Gender Diversity

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