How many weak words do you use a day? The old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is simply false. Words can hurt you and even more harmful are the intentions behind the words. There are many weak words which simply do not benefit you or anyone else, not to mention curse words which serve no useful function at all. I know there are those who spout the benefits of cursing and if you wish, go right ahead and curse to your hearts content. I simply ask you to notice how you feel afterwards as well as how those around you feel. Are they supporting you? There is no such thing as a positive curse word. That would be an oxymoron. We did not come here today to discuss cursing. No, what I wish to share is how destructive and deflating our language can be without us even noticing. YES, be aware, not only of your behavior, but mostly your word usage and intention.
Try a fun exercise and say to another “I fucking love you”. Say it like you mean it, with emphasis and heart. Notice how you feel and how they react. Now repeat without the word “fucking”. I Love You. I have tried this many times in my mind and the “F” word feels like a weight pulling me down. I laugh from the absurdity of the word. It is useless.
Now notice other words which hold you back or drag your emotional state down. This is not about using feel good words, it is about actually being happy by being authentic. Here are a few words which I no longer use or only use in specific circumstances, in order of significance: Sorry, Try or Trying, hope, but, just, very, and that. If you need to apologize then use the word. Never say sorry! Every time you say “I am sorry” it drags you down. What you are doing is making it real, like there is a right or wrong, that sin exists, and we are all sinners! TV shows use it all the time and we tend to emulate what we hear from famous people or people we admire. It may take some effort to get out of the habit of using sorry, however the benefits are significant. The other word to absolutely avoid is try. The famous Yoda quote, “No, Try not, Do. Or do not. There is no try.” gets it spot on! American language uses “try” quite frequently and this needs to stop. Try or trying is not doing, it is failing. What you speak is your prayer for the experience. Trying expresses doubt and doubt leads to failure. So what if you say, I am happy, and yet you feel sad? Your mindset leads to actions and to effect. Repeatedly saying I will (a force of mind) do this or that, eventually leads to success.
Hope is related to try or trying. Both are words based in doubt. I hope things work out, but they may not. I hope you feel better, but you probably won’t for any extended period of time. STOP using these words! They set a president for failure, suffering, and pain. Or don’t… your choice. I am pointing out the effect of using such weak language. Hope is a false prophet and we know what the bible says about false prophets.
The other words I listed are simply words which are superfluous and add nothing to what you say. They are empty words. Leave them out of your sentence and notice how that sounds and feels. I have done this and can report a more powerful to the point message and uplifting feeling. Instead of using “but” connecting phrases, choose “and”. Instead of using just, simply leave it out, and the same goes for “very and that”. There are cases where using the word “that” applies, so sound it out. Always read what you write at least once and feel the sound. Does it seem right? This is all easy enough when writing, however when speaking it takes practice to notice the words you use. Relax and if a weak word sneaks out, be forgiving. The ego uses every opportunity to advance its agenda. Your tool to avert this is to simply forgive… do not judge. When we “mess up” it is almost automatic to chastise yourself and what I am saying is to be kind, especially to yourself. The more you use powerful language the more the mind reinforces it. It becomes automatic. Think of it as creating good habits.
Now I leave you with a powerful word, Yes. Be a “Yes” person. Life has a way of knowing what is best for you, trust it, say yes. This will take practice, though the more you trust the easier it gets. Look for what goes right instead of the opposite. What you focus on, grows.
Sequoia Elisabeth
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