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The Art Of Detachment

Transition is often a long drawn out process that occurs over years, although it can seem like it happens quickly.  When you are aware of the nuances you can see that some aspects of transition take a lifetime.  Allowing the process to evolve and progress with conscious thought enhances and speeds things along. 

The art of detachment is a Buddhist technique and also has its Christian counterpart.  Please do not get caught up here in labels though.  I offer these names in hopes of relating with you.  It is up to you how you use this technique.  All I can tell you is that it has helped me immensely. 

The technique works like this; be in the world but not of it.  Jesus taught this and likely learned it from the Buddhist teachers he had.  What this means is to fully experience life and at the same time release any attachment you have to it.  It is very simple once fully understood, however getting to this point can sometimes take years or even lifetimes.  I pray this blog assists you in the process.

As you are fully immersed in your life understand that everything is a reflection of who you are, this is why you are drawn to it.  The partner you love so much is a reflection of who you are, but they are not you.  The town you were born in, the town you grew up in or the town you fell in love with is a reflection of who you are, but it is not where you are. Your favorite drinking cup, diamond earrings, dream car, childhood football and all the things you are attached to for sentimental reasons are a reflection of who you are, however they are not what you are.  Embracing these facts is the first step in the art of detachment. 

Allowing yourself to fully love a person, place or thing while not becoming attached to it is the goal.  Understand that you are both connected and separate from everything in life.  Not being attached means being able to give it to someone else.  It can also mean being able to walk away from it without feeling you have lost anything.  Through the principle of Oneness you realize that everyone and everything is of the One, a drop from the sea of life.  Giving this drop (person, place or thing) away is empowering both to you, the receiver and whatever is being given.  

If however you think of this process as a loss, the actual power is being held onto and the effect is disempowering.  So even if the person, place or thing is long gone, until you consciously or unconsciously give it away you remained attached to it and thus disempowered.  When you long for something you experienced before this can be nostalgic which society teaches as a good thing.  In reality nostalgia is disempowering.  Each experience is unique and a gift that cannot be repeated.  Living in the past is not living at all. 

When you love the experience in the now, laughing, appreciating, and engaging life – this is living.  Being able to move on to the next experience without missing people, places, and things of the past is the art of detachment.  You can experience these things again any time you like and this is why many people will live in the same town all their life, or drink coffee or go for walks, or anything you love.  This is why certain things keep coming into your life; they are a reflection of who you are in that moment.  You do things because you love the experience (the feeling you get).  What you are getting is an experience of yourself! 

Just understand that each moment is unique and you can change your mind.  If for some reason you decide you do not love coffee then you can choose something else, tea for instance.  But you must replace it with something because if you don’t a feeling of emptiness seeps in and it can often be hard to figure out what that feeling is all about.   The third option is to remain detached and receptive.  Open to all the gifts life has to offer.  Fully experience that which is offered and when you are done move on without attachment.  Of course you will still respect and love the people, places and things you left, but without attachment.  I think of it this way, use it as long as you need it and then pass it along to someone else to enjoy.  Can you imagine the world we would live in if no one was attached and we could freely pass from one experience to the next in full Joy and expression of our true nature?  Love is the way…

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Living the Golden Rule

What if you always lived by the Golden Rule?  How would this change your life?  As we know transition can be very challenging, so how much easier would it be if you followed the Golden Rule?  Just in case you do not know the Golden Rule allow me to enlighten you.  “Do onto others as you would have done onto you”.  Jesus Christ taught us this rule over 2000 years ago and yet I meet someone every day that either has never heard of it or simply does not follow it.  The Ten Commandments are wonderful and serve an important role, but the Golden Rule trumps even them in simplicity. 

This is a good measure or worth, How simple is it?  Ask yourself that the next time you are faced with a decision.  Simple always trumps complicated.  Why, because the ego mind likes things complicated, that way you stay confused and it makes control that much easier.  One of the reasons “the meek shall inherit the earth” by the way, the simple mind is closer to Divine Source and harder for the ego mind to control.  Think of it this way, the veil is thinner!  There are less veils to remove in order to reach Allah.

Just how does the Golden Rule benefit your life?  It is simple really, when you understand the other persons perspective you can be more compassionate and you can be more responsive to their needs, in the process your needs are met also.  Sometimes this seems like magic, but it is simply the law.  What you give you receive.  Let’s put this to the test.

A person takes your coat and you see him running down the street, what do you do? A) chase him and take it back, B) Pull your gun out and shoot him, or C) bless him on his journey and do not allow him to take your coat again?  I think it is fairly obvious that C is the answer we seek here, and if you look closely the person gave you a gift.  You will be more aware about handling your things and more awareness is the path to enlightenment. 

One more example of the Golden Rule, your best friend is telling things about you that are not true, so what do you do?  Put yourself in her shoes, and feel the situation.  How would you like to be treated?  I for one would like to be spoken to respectively and with care.  I would want my friend to point these untruths out to me so that I may correct my error.  I would want you to assume the best, a mistake.  When we assume the best and then investigate without judgment our friendship is preserved and even strengthened.  The important thing in relationships is to listen, be non-judgmental, and be forgiving.  Once you understand where the other person is coming from the situation will dissolve.  Let me leave you today with this Christian Prayer for Peace which I think sums up the best guide for living I have come across yet. 

“Blessed are the Peacemakers for they shall be known as the Children of God. But I say to you that hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.
To those who strike you on the cheek offer the other also, and from those who take away your cloak, do not withhold your coat as well.
Give to everyone who begs from you, and of those who take away your goods, do not ask them again. And as you wish that others would to do you, do so to them.”

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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