Post transition grief or some call it Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Whatever you call it, I just know that it is a part of change. Any transition involves some stress, grief and pain. Our attitudes and beliefs about the transition process will determine the degree in which we experience trauma.
The symptoms that result afterwards depend on how deep our experience went and how well we processed the whole event. One of the characteristics of this condition is an inability to stop thinking about the transition or event. Basically we get stuck looking in the rear view mirror and forget to look forward. Driving blind is always dangerous and so is not getting help when we notice that we are having a hard time letting go of the past.
The intensity of our dreams and the nature of our behavior are clues also to needing help. Usually there is a reason we are not letting go and it is often because the event brought up an old issue that has not been dealt with. If we choose not to address issues as they arise then they are put “on file” to be dealt with later. It is always best to deal with issues as soon as you can, because it is easier that way.
Let me explain “dealing with an issue”, I mean facing it, seeing it for what it is and accepting it. This can be done in a flash or it can take years! We simply have to be willing to do it. Later I give you a great method for applying this. Traumatic events are harder to process because in the heat of the event much of available data goes straight into subconscious because the conscious mind shuts down when it is attacked (or perceives attack). Then a long process must begin to bring it up out of subconscious so that we can “deal” with it. I realize that I am speaking in generalities here and I am doing so because it is important to realize that transition grief can occur in many situations that we would not even consider being important.
To re-emphasis this point, transition grief and PTSD differ in degree only. Regret for the decisions made is something different and that is another discussion that maybe I will cover at a later date. I will stop here today because I don’t want these entries to be so long. Check back tomorrow for the “rest of the story”.
Blessings 😉 Sequoia Elisabeth
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