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Sticks and Stones…

How many weak words do you use a day? The old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is simply false. Words can hurt you and even more harmful are the intentions behind the words. There are many weak words which simply do not benefit you or anyone else, not to mention curse words which serve no useful function at all. I know there are those who spout the benefits of cursing and if you wish, go right ahead and curse to your hearts content. I simply ask you to notice how you feel afterwards as well as how those around you feel. Are they supporting you? There is no such thing as a positive curse word. That would be an oxymoron. We did not come here today to discuss cursing. No, what I wish to share is how destructive and deflating our language can be without us even noticing. YES, be aware, not only of your behavior, but mostly your word usage and intention.

Try a fun exercise and say to another “I fucking love you”. Say it like you mean it, with emphasis and heart. Notice how you feel and how they react. Now repeat without the word “fucking”. I Love You. I have tried this many times in my mind and the “F” word feels like a weight pulling me down. I laugh from the absurdity of the word. It is useless.

Now notice other words which hold you back or drag your emotional state down. This is not about using feel good words, it is about actually being happy by being authentic. Here are a few words which I no longer use or only use in specific circumstances, in order of significance: Sorry, Try or Trying, hope, but, just, very, and that. If you need to apologize then use the word. Never say sorry! Every time you say “I am sorry” it drags you down. What you are doing is making it real, like there is a right or wrong, that sin exists, and we are all sinners! TV shows use it all the time and we tend to emulate what we hear from famous people or people we admire. It may take some effort to get out of the habit of using sorry, however the benefits are significant. The other word to absolutely avoid is try. The famous Yoda quote, “No, Try not, Do. Or do not. There is no try.” gets it spot on! American language uses “try” quite frequently and this needs to stop. Try or trying is not doing, it is failing. What you speak is your prayer for the experience. Trying expresses doubt and doubt leads to failure. So what if you say, I am happy, and yet you feel sad? Your mindset leads to actions and to effect. Repeatedly saying I will (a force of mind) do this or that, eventually leads to success.

Hope is related to try or trying. Both are words based in doubt. I hope things work out, but they may not. I hope you feel better, but you probably won’t for any extended period of time. STOP using these words! They set a president for failure, suffering, and pain. Or don’t… your choice. I am pointing out the effect of using such weak language. Hope is a false prophet and we know what the bible says about false prophets.

The other words I listed are simply words which are superfluous and add nothing to what you say. They are empty words. Leave them out of your sentence and notice how that sounds and feels. I have done this and can report a more powerful to the point message and uplifting feeling. Instead of using “but” connecting phrases, choose “and”. Instead of using just, simply leave it out, and the same goes for “very and that”. There are cases where using the word “that” applies, so sound it out. Always read what you write at least once and feel the sound. Does it seem right? This is all easy enough when writing, however when speaking it takes practice to notice the words you use. Relax and if a weak word sneaks out, be forgiving. The ego uses every opportunity to advance its agenda. Your tool to avert this is to simply forgive… do not judge. When we “mess up” it is almost automatic to chastise yourself and what I am saying is to be kind, especially to yourself. The more you use powerful language the more the mind reinforces it. It becomes automatic. Think of it as creating good habits.

Now I leave you with a powerful word, Yes. Be a “Yes” person. Life has a way of knowing what is best for you, trust it, say yes. This will take practice, though the more you trust the easier it gets. Look for what goes right instead of the opposite. What you focus on, grows.

Sequoia Elisabeth

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Weak Words to Eliminate

While Plato says, “words are but symbols of symbols. They are thus twice removed from reality”, we still must use them to communicate. By using powerful words and making your point directly & clearly, communication is maximized. How well you use language, in our case, the English language reflects not only how educated you are, but empowers you to master your life.

Weak words sneak into our vocabulary rather insidiously without us even knowing. We think since others are using these words then we need to use them as well. This is simply not so. Be conscious of your words. Think before you speak or write. As any English teacher will tell you, use active tense, not passive. This takes practice! I can assure you from experience! Life is a work in progress, so let us consider these 8 weak words and how it benefits us to eliminate them.

“Do or do not. There is no try.” (Yoda, The Empire Strikes Back) The first word to eliminate is “Try” and all its forms (trying, tried, etc). I invite you to experiment with how the word feels. I suggest doing this with all the words you use. Notice how you feel saying the word and using it in a sentence. Context is of course important. Doubt is a killer! Think carefully about this word. Try implies failure! Why would you ever wish to fail? So, why would you ever use this word!! Trying denotes fear and sets the very thing you fear into motion. Words are prayers! If you say it mean it and know it will be your experience. Just because something you say does not appear immediately have faith that it will in time and with your continued insistence. In my experience it could take years or happen in an instant.

Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda! The next word(s) to eliminate are these three. Again these are doubt words. Often used interchangeably these words are different and thus are to be used differently. They convey doubt, regret, and weakness. If this is your intention then go ahead, they are perfect. If not, avoid using them. Instead be direct, honest, and open. If you intend on doing something, then just do it, don’t say you should do it or you would do it, if…. Take responsibility in your language and how you use words. To do this consider the meaning of the word and look deep. Not only look the word up in the dictionary, but find the root word and consider where the word came from and how it was used originally. Feel the word and the energy it conveys. Instead of using “should, would, could”, substitute “shall, will, can, respectively”.

“Never say that you can’t do something, or that something seems impossible, or that something can’t be done, no matter how discouraging or harrowing it may be; human beings are limited only by what we allow ourselves to be limited by: our own minds. We are each the masters of our own reality; when we become self-aware to this: absolutely anything in the world is possible. Master yourself, and become king of the world around you. Let no odds, chastisement, exile, doubt, fear, or ANY mental virii prevent you from accomplishing your dreams. Never be a victim of life; be it’s conqueror.” (Mike Norton) The next word is “Can’t” and this quote sums it up. Any negative is dis-empowering. Careful here not to make this a bad thing. There is no judgment here! Sometimes we need to ramp life down a bit when it gets overwhelming. Be aware this is the power of this word. Be awake and aware!

Words of separation have their place in our language, however be mindful how you use them and the effect they have on your intention. “Life is but a dream” In this sentence the word “but” separates life and dream. The word “but” is technically a coordinating conjunction which separates two clauses or ideas. This is helpful to convey meaning at times, if you intend separation! Try substituting “and” instead. The word “and” connects instead of separates. By using “and” the intention is to connect, while using “but” separates. I always use “and” where I used to use “but”, unless it just does not convey my intention. Always remembering that which is behind communication… the intent!

There are many useless words in the English language and one [that] I have eliminated is “that”. The word is over used and often useless, so just remove it from your sentence as I have demonstrated above. I often have to review my writing to find my usage of this superfluous word. Next time you write something of any length do a word search for “that” and consider whether the word adds anything to the meaning you are conveying. Notice how often you use this word. Notice how often a good (relative, I know) writer uses this word. The word [That] is wordy and distracting!

In conclusion, many words in the English language are weak, vague, and useless. Be mindful how you use them and be clear in your intent! One last point to consider. Words used for emphasis often do just the opposite. Words such as “very” and “really” do your message no favors. Eliminate them! Punctuation is used for the purpose of conveying emotion and emphasizing your message. Writing is a skill which is developed over time like any other skill, so the more you write the better you will become. Of course reading is required as well. Notice how others use words and then question your own word usage. Find what works for you and then notice how this changes over time. Notice how your life changes as well!

Sequoia Elisabeth

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Being the Observer

The best advice I ever heard was to become the observer, to actually listen to what I say and observe my actions, then ask why.  Is this the person I desire to be?  This may be who I am now, but do I really wish to be this person?  Discovering who you are is a constant evolution, because you are constantly changing.  As you expand there is a give and take or an ebb and flow to the process.  The more you learn and discover about life in general and about how this relates to you the more you expand, the more you become more!

Think about this carefully.  Who am I?  Who are you in relation to who I am?  You do know this is all relative? Don’t you?  You do realize everything is connected in some way? Once you realize there is no separation; only the illusion of separation, your world changes for the better.  If this is still not apparent right now this is OK.  Keep asking questions and it will come to you.

On to some more practical applications and exercises you can use right now to facilitate your growth and expansion.  First of all open up.  Open your mind, open your heart, open your eyes and see, feel, and think with no limits (or at least let the limits go as you can, it is a process after all).  Listen to the words you use and notice how they make you feel, also notice how they make others feel, so if both of you are not feeling good then perhaps you could choose different words to express yourself.  In expressing yourself how does this affect the world around you?  Is it positive or negative, constructive or destructive?  Not to say this is good or bad, don’t fall for this trap.  Things are how they are, and you are the way you are, no good or bad to it, however you do have a choice in the matter.  Question everything, especially your motive for being the way you are.  Avoid judgment here.  Remember, we all desire Love, this is who we are and sometimes the loving thing to do is destructive or negative depending on the situation.  In order for the old to be replaced it must be destroyed first.  To build a new building the old one is removed to clear the way for the new one.  As humans we can only see a small fraction of the picture or situation so each choice we make is the best we can do given the information we have at the time.

Moving on, consider having a friend video you during an activity or perhaps you could set up a camera in your home to video the daily goings on, later reviewing the tape is incredibly insightful.  Be compassionate with yourself and seek only to understand who you are and decide if this is who you desire to be.  Recording your voice and word choice is also very insightful.  The language you use is very powerful or destructive depending on your word choice.  Curse words for instance are weak and destructive to the person using them, not necessarily to the one hearing them.  The person hearing these words can decide in advance to forgive the user and thus discharge any negative energy the words carry.  It is like Hate is a poison for the person hating, not the target of the hate.  Negative emotions are necessary at times, but must be used carefully to balance energy or to diffuse a situation, never for attacking.  Lashing out is a re-action not a deliberate action taken for a specific purpose.  Think before you act, wait a day and then respond.  Negative emotion can be transformed to the positive when you have this intention.

Another practice which is ingrained in the mass psyche is the use of the word “try or trying”.  To try is to fail.  The word implies doubt and this in itself is disempowering.  State your intentions and then proceed with them.  “Trying” is a word we use to protect our self from being “wrong or failing” and in the process it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.  Perhaps you can say I attempted XYZ but it did not work out that way.  I will make another attempt.  Or I will succeed eventually.  There is nothing wrong with failing; it always leads to success as long as you keep at it.  The error lies in the need to be right!

Remember to always question reality and your place in it, while being forgiving and loving to both yourself and others.  If you wish to learn more about word usage, I suggest doing your own research and testing your findings.  Learning is doing!  The website below as well as the free eBooks are another great source of musings.   Blessings on your Journey of Love ♥

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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