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A Boy Erased

“Jared Eamons, the son of a small-town Baptist pastor, must overcome the fallout after being outed as gay to his parents. His father and mother struggle to reconcile their love for their son with their beliefs. Fearing a loss of family, friends and community, Jared is pressured into attending a conversion therapy program. While there, Jared comes into conflict with its leader and begins his journey to finding his own voice and accepting his true self. Movie trailer – “

This blog is about my take on conversion therapy and how it could work if done with some humility and humanity. I am not really reviewing the movie, though I do recommend you see it if you are the least bit interested after watching the trailer. It makes a clear statement that conversion therapy does not work and it is criminal to subject minors to it. My task is not to judge others actions or choices. My task is to see with Love. To ask, what would love do now? What is the humane thing to do?

Since I do have personal experience being Trans* my opinion comes from that perspective, though I also can see it from other perspectives, it is just one of my practiced super powers. I teach Oneness and with that said you may have some idea what I am going to say here. Love is the answer, plain and simple. The issue is most of us don’t know what that looks like. I used to ask anyone I thought may have an answer (parents, grandparents, counselors, coaches, etc.) and frankly no one did. God was the only one who had the answer. Getting answers from God is not difficult, but you do need to know what you are hearing is from God and not ego (I don’t believe in the devil or evil for that matter). ACIM (A Course in Miracles) goes into detail on how to hear the voice for God/Love, so I recommend becoming a student. The course is not for the faint of heart, it takes at least a year to get through it and probably the rest of your life to process and fully understand it. It was the best decision of my life to make the choice to follow Jesus’s teachings as put forth in ACIM.

The Bible has its wisdom, but one must really search for it. The books have been butchered by ego over the years which have left the teachings greatly watered down and in some cases are simply misleading. So I don’t fault Christian’s for not really understanding Jesus. Conversion therapy probably makes sense to them. Homosexuality is not a path to polarization as is taught in all Spiritual teachings. I know of no religion that says it a good thing. At best they teach to accept it and judge not. Our sexuality is set at birth they say and I have no argument against that. I believe now that once a person is born male or female they are always that sex, no matter what surgery or hormones they take. I had to learn this first hand; they say experience is the best teacher <G>. Gender on the other hand is another topic which I will not get into now other than to say, it is not as fixed as we are lead to believe.

So how could conversion therapy work? In the beginning of the “camp” the exercises focus on self esteem and self worth. YES!! Absolutely important. Then they say being Gay is a behavioral choice and to this I disagree, however acting on who you are is a choice. Say for instance you are attracted to young girls… acting on this thought is a choice! Masturbation is a viable alternative to molesting or taking advantage of an other. So my teaching is Just say NO to your urges and find a non-harmful release (masturbation, exercise, cold shower, etc.) rather than trying to fit into a community, be it LGBT or other. Look not for the love you seek in others. Those who seek outside themselves go without. After this they detour into labeling and shaming the self and family rather than seeking the innocence and beauty of who the individual and their family is. The answer is to accept who you are and who others identity as. This is the way… Love. It is not up to anyone else to tell you who you are, only you know this. And if you don’t know this and you may not at a young age then it is up to you to figure it out. It took me 50yrs, so don’t be in a hurry. In the end Identity is not as fixed as we are lead to believe either. It changes every time your life does. You join the military… your identity changes, you leave one church to join another… your identity changes. You have children, etc.

I believe we are all bi-sexual! Don’t tell me you have never considered same sex intimacy! Even if it was a fear. Sex by the way is not a weapon! Though many use it for power. Sex has nothing to do with Love either. I can see this blog is getting long so I will wrap this up. My eBook Sex and Sexuality has a chapter on Sex as Communication, so read this for more on Love. We all simply desire to be loved and accepted as we are; to not be judged. What you give you receive. This sums it up. The more you respect others the more respect you receive! Love comes in different forms on earth, but in heaven we are all One and Love is all there is. So this is what we all secretly desire. To be home again! Though don’t expect to find this here on psycho planet. (read Gary Renard’s books on ACIM to learn more about this)

Sequoia Elisabeth

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Meaning of Marriage

Marriage is between a man and woman, specifically, the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. (  Here is another definition of marriage I found in a blog, “”True Meaning of Marriage” The true meaning of marriage is love. By love, I mean not just what we feel but what we do. Love just as a feeling is very flimsy, an up and down roller coaster. Love is an action! In order for it to become the ultimate force and for us to rediscover the true meaning of marriage, love has to be unconditional. You are not looking for acceptance or validation. You are giving of yourself to another not because of them, but because of your values. A death to ones self so that another may live and benefit from your sacrifice. This is not an easy road to walk. But it is the most rewarding road however. An old Buddhist saying goes like this, ‘I want peace.’ If you take your ego (I) and your desires (want) out of the equation, i.e., the self, you will have only peace left. The true meaning of marriage is expressing love unconditionally to another. It is an unstoppable force that can endure anything. How do you find it? Within yourself. You have to draw strength from you. Neither seeking validation nor acceptance, just seeking the opportunity to show love.” (

Here is another quote which exposes the issue of marriage nicely, “The meaning of marriage can be looked at from a legal perspective. Legally, marriage is a binding contract between the two parties that joins together their possessions, income, and lives. Marriage is recognized by the state, and the dissolving of the contract can only happen through the legal process of divorce.

But, for most people, marriage has meaning beyond the legal sense. Marriage is also an agreement between the man and woman. Husband and wife take certain vows, to love one another, to cherish one another, and to stay together through sickness and health, for better and for worse. In most cases, this agreement includes sexual faithfulness, and a promise that each person will do what they can to make the other one happy. For some people, this agreement between man and woman takes the form of a covenant between not only the couple, but God as well. Thus, many marriages are performed within the rites of various churches and religious institutions.

The meaning of marriage should be looked at from a sociological perspective as well. A marriage is the conduit by which children are born; a marriage provides both a mother and a father for the children. The family unit, the relationship between parents and child, are all based on the marriage relationship.” (

Now let’s break this down and apply it to the current debate over same-sex marriage.  The first thing to notice is marriage is between a man and woman, not necessarily a male and female, although there are arguments about having children.  It is also monogamous, supporting, and legal.  Marriage is a social construct created by man for mankind.  Religious institutions use it to control their congregation and impose their ideology.  The Government further supports this manipulation by imposing financial benefits and legal constrictions on the nuptials.

There is a saying which applies to marriage nicely, ‘two heads are better than one’.  Partnership just makes sense in surviving and thriving, so the question becomes how important is Love to the equation?  Having been married twice and divorced twice I would say it is imperative!   I will further posit that same sex marriages have one partner in the man role and one in the woman role by nature.  It is possible the roles flip from time to time and that even happens in hetero marriages.  Also, the financial aspects of marriage are of great importance being the leading cause of divorce.  Marriage these days is often simply about security and insurance against loneliness. For the same-sex community it is about being accepted by society and feeling loved by their peers.  It is just another way to fit in and this goes for all marriages, gay or not!

Ideally, I would say the “true meaning of marriage” is Love, a selfless unconditional love.  Let us pray this remains the primary reason to marry and to stay together.  We can also acknowledge the facts that marriage is about financial, physical, and emotional support between two individuals of consenting age (now 18).  Equality is about everyone, having the right to equal benefits, and opportunities.  The whole Same-Sex marriage movement could be reduced to the right to file taxes as married, share insurance, and make legal decisions with/for your spouse.  Take money out of society and this entire issue dissolves and marriage will return to its original purpose of sharing love, but this is another story, the many benefits of a moneyless gifting economy.

Love needs no legal document or government/religious approval.  Love is boundless until we put up walls.  We put them there so we can also take them down.  There is no greater and important principle to preserve in our world than Free Will.  It is our inalienable right to make our own decisions, to love whom we choose, and to experience the gifts this produces.  Do we really even need marriage at all?  Why put limits on who you Love, who you live with and who has your children (who’s children you have), especially if you are not going to honor your vows over your entire life?  Certain Truths hold themselves to be self-evident.  The only true relationship you have is with Divine Source (God).  This larger relationship expresses through the smaller ones with the people in your life, your relationship to mother earth, and to yourself.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Sequoia’s Wisdom Part 2

It is time for us to dive a little deeper and address gender identity and sexual orientation. This is a continuation from yesterday’s blog, so here we go.

“I am a spiritual being having a human experience”.  It behooves you to keep this in mind along the way.  Do spiritual beings have gender?  Per Buddhists teachings, all attachments lead to pain, so since we are in a body and “have” a life – pain is inevitable.  However suffering only occurs when you hold on, resist, or ignore the signs/messages.  Pain is a messenger!   It means something, and it is up to you to figure it out.  If you need help with this many others are available to help.  When you listen to your guidance you find the answers you seek.  Life is like a game of connect the dots.  You move from one dot/spot/experience to the next like a string of moments and it all adds up to your life.  Being attached to gender identity or any identity can be painful!

Gender Identity is your personal sense of who you are, man, woman, or other.  It is in your mind and relatively fixed, however the brain has little to do with this contrary to what many think.  Nor does any physical body part!  The body is simply an effect of previous thoughts.  The DNA is a code for encrypting these thoughts which have been decided long before you are born.  This slide show explains it further, but keep in mind this was made a few years ago and my understanding has advanced since then.  It includes scientific information which is dated.  Click here to view.

I wish I could explain self-identity fully (gender and sexual orientation are aspects) but it has taken me years and many books to figure this much out.  I am still working on it.  My advice to you is to ask questions and above all listen.  Here are three authors who can help, Tom Youngholm, Neale Donald Walsch, and Dr. Michael Newton.

The secret to understanding Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation is to understand the Divine Plan.  It is bigger than you are and so it is unlikely that you will fully understand it in this lifetime.  Suffice it to know that everything is connected – literally.  Man is a part of Woman who is a part of Animal who is a part of Plant, Mineral, and Stars.  The web is multilayered, all reaching, and complex.  The Divine Paradox of life is complex beyond comprehension and yet as simple as One (1).  Thus computer language is a series of (1’s) and (0’s).

Man’s taboos, social norms, and societal behaviors are all “make-believe”.  You can do whatever you choose, however there are consequences.  Not because there is good or bad, but because of Universal Law and even this is not fixed, all you need do is go beyond this Universe.  Gender is a human experience and a man-made condition of this world.  How you experience this is up to you.  I encourage you to explore, but be careful because everything you do affects another.  (Remember this is not good or bad)  Even choosing to “do nothing” has effects.  Can you imagine life without gender?

Sexual Orientation is another aspect of the human experience, nothing more, nothing less.  Because of soul contracts made before you were born you have certain proclivities, although it is not fixed per se.  It is my belief that everyone is basically neutral or if you prefer bi-sexual (given you believe only two sexes exist).  I like the term Pansexual, meaning you are attracted to all sexes per personality coupled with appearance and not sexual body parts.  Personally I have been attracted to many different people at different times of my life depending on who I am with, how I feel, and the situation.  Bottom line, sex is an expression of love or at least it is supposed to be.  It can also simply be a biological function when existing in lower forms.  The animal human is designed to encourage sex on a basic level; however it is possible to move beyond these urges and in fact evolution requires it.  The pleasure derived from sexual encounter may be used on the path to God as the Kama Sutra teaches.  The intention behind the sexual encounter becomes paramount.  Sex for the sake of sex or to reproduce is one thing, but sex for the purpose of obtaining higher states of being is something altogether different and can be attained with either a same sex or opposite sex partner.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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