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Weak Words to Eliminate

While Plato says, “words are but symbols of symbols. They are thus twice removed from reality”, we still must use them to communicate. By using powerful words and making your point directly & clearly, communication is maximized. How well you use language, in our case, the English language reflects not only how educated you are, but empowers you to master your life.

Weak words sneak into our vocabulary rather insidiously without us even knowing. We think since others are using these words then we need to use them as well. This is simply not so. Be conscious of your words. Think before you speak or write. As any English teacher will tell you, use active tense, not passive. This takes practice! I can assure you from experience! Life is a work in progress, so let us consider these 8 weak words and how it benefits us to eliminate them.

“Do or do not. There is no try.” (Yoda, The Empire Strikes Back) The first word to eliminate is “Try” and all its forms (trying, tried, etc). I invite you to experiment with how the word feels. I suggest doing this with all the words you use. Notice how you feel saying the word and using it in a sentence. Context is of course important. Doubt is a killer! Think carefully about this word. Try implies failure! Why would you ever wish to fail? So, why would you ever use this word!! Trying denotes fear and sets the very thing you fear into motion. Words are prayers! If you say it mean it and know it will be your experience. Just because something you say does not appear immediately have faith that it will in time and with your continued insistence. In my experience it could take years or happen in an instant.

Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda! The next word(s) to eliminate are these three. Again these are doubt words. Often used interchangeably these words are different and thus are to be used differently. They convey doubt, regret, and weakness. If this is your intention then go ahead, they are perfect. If not, avoid using them. Instead be direct, honest, and open. If you intend on doing something, then just do it, don’t say you should do it or you would do it, if…. Take responsibility in your language and how you use words. To do this consider the meaning of the word and look deep. Not only look the word up in the dictionary, but find the root word and consider where the word came from and how it was used originally. Feel the word and the energy it conveys. Instead of using “should, would, could”, substitute “shall, will, can, respectively”.

“Never say that you can’t do something, or that something seems impossible, or that something can’t be done, no matter how discouraging or harrowing it may be; human beings are limited only by what we allow ourselves to be limited by: our own minds. We are each the masters of our own reality; when we become self-aware to this: absolutely anything in the world is possible. Master yourself, and become king of the world around you. Let no odds, chastisement, exile, doubt, fear, or ANY mental virii prevent you from accomplishing your dreams. Never be a victim of life; be it’s conqueror.” (Mike Norton) The next word is “Can’t” and this quote sums it up. Any negative is dis-empowering. Careful here not to make this a bad thing. There is no judgment here! Sometimes we need to ramp life down a bit when it gets overwhelming. Be aware this is the power of this word. Be awake and aware!

Words of separation have their place in our language, however be mindful how you use them and the effect they have on your intention. “Life is but a dream” In this sentence the word “but” separates life and dream. The word “but” is technically a coordinating conjunction which separates two clauses or ideas. This is helpful to convey meaning at times, if you intend separation! Try substituting “and” instead. The word “and” connects instead of separates. By using “and” the intention is to connect, while using “but” separates. I always use “and” where I used to use “but”, unless it just does not convey my intention. Always remembering that which is behind communication… the intent!

There are many useless words in the English language and one [that] I have eliminated is “that”. The word is over used and often useless, so just remove it from your sentence as I have demonstrated above. I often have to review my writing to find my usage of this superfluous word. Next time you write something of any length do a word search for “that” and consider whether the word adds anything to the meaning you are conveying. Notice how often you use this word. Notice how often a good (relative, I know) writer uses this word. The word [That] is wordy and distracting!

In conclusion, many words in the English language are weak, vague, and useless. Be mindful how you use them and be clear in your intent! One last point to consider. Words used for emphasis often do just the opposite. Words such as “very” and “really” do your message no favors. Eliminate them! Punctuation is used for the purpose of conveying emotion and emphasizing your message. Writing is a skill which is developed over time like any other skill, so the more you write the better you will become. Of course reading is required as well. Notice how others use words and then question your own word usage. Find what works for you and then notice how this changes over time. Notice how your life changes as well!

Sequoia Elisabeth

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Being the Observer

The best advice I ever heard was to become the observer, to actually listen to what I say and observe my actions, then ask why.  Is this the person I desire to be?  This may be who I am now, but do I really wish to be this person?  Discovering who you are is a constant evolution, because you are constantly changing.  As you expand there is a give and take or an ebb and flow to the process.  The more you learn and discover about life in general and about how this relates to you the more you expand, the more you become more!

Think about this carefully.  Who am I?  Who are you in relation to who I am?  You do know this is all relative? Don’t you?  You do realize everything is connected in some way? Once you realize there is no separation; only the illusion of separation, your world changes for the better.  If this is still not apparent right now this is OK.  Keep asking questions and it will come to you.

On to some more practical applications and exercises you can use right now to facilitate your growth and expansion.  First of all open up.  Open your mind, open your heart, open your eyes and see, feel, and think with no limits (or at least let the limits go as you can, it is a process after all).  Listen to the words you use and notice how they make you feel, also notice how they make others feel, so if both of you are not feeling good then perhaps you could choose different words to express yourself.  In expressing yourself how does this affect the world around you?  Is it positive or negative, constructive or destructive?  Not to say this is good or bad, don’t fall for this trap.  Things are how they are, and you are the way you are, no good or bad to it, however you do have a choice in the matter.  Question everything, especially your motive for being the way you are.  Avoid judgment here.  Remember, we all desire Love, this is who we are and sometimes the loving thing to do is destructive or negative depending on the situation.  In order for the old to be replaced it must be destroyed first.  To build a new building the old one is removed to clear the way for the new one.  As humans we can only see a small fraction of the picture or situation so each choice we make is the best we can do given the information we have at the time.

Moving on, consider having a friend video you during an activity or perhaps you could set up a camera in your home to video the daily goings on, later reviewing the tape is incredibly insightful.  Be compassionate with yourself and seek only to understand who you are and decide if this is who you desire to be.  Recording your voice and word choice is also very insightful.  The language you use is very powerful or destructive depending on your word choice.  Curse words for instance are weak and destructive to the person using them, not necessarily to the one hearing them.  The person hearing these words can decide in advance to forgive the user and thus discharge any negative energy the words carry.  It is like Hate is a poison for the person hating, not the target of the hate.  Negative emotions are necessary at times, but must be used carefully to balance energy or to diffuse a situation, never for attacking.  Lashing out is a re-action not a deliberate action taken for a specific purpose.  Think before you act, wait a day and then respond.  Negative emotion can be transformed to the positive when you have this intention.

Another practice which is ingrained in the mass psyche is the use of the word “try or trying”.  To try is to fail.  The word implies doubt and this in itself is disempowering.  State your intentions and then proceed with them.  “Trying” is a word we use to protect our self from being “wrong or failing” and in the process it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.  Perhaps you can say I attempted XYZ but it did not work out that way.  I will make another attempt.  Or I will succeed eventually.  There is nothing wrong with failing; it always leads to success as long as you keep at it.  The error lies in the need to be right!

Remember to always question reality and your place in it, while being forgiving and loving to both yourself and others.  If you wish to learn more about word usage, I suggest doing your own research and testing your findings.  Learning is doing!  The website below as well as the free eBooks are another great source of musings.   Blessings on your Journey of Love ♥

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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Trying is Failing

Trying is failing, so stop trying to do whatever it is you do.  JUST DO IT.  For example trying to walk up ten flights of stairs implies you don’t feel you can make it.  It implies doubt and where there is doubt there is failure.  You may very well walk all the way up, but it is just as likely you will not!  “I am walking up ten flights of stairs” not only uses the power of God (I am) but it is positive and committed.  This may still not be a guarantee but it has a far higher chance of success than trying does.

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Consider revamping your vocabulary and see what changes happen in your life.  Trying is just one word which is self-defeatist.  There are many which could be reviewed to see whether they are effectively communicating your desires and intentions.  The list is long for most people these days so I will not attempt to make one here.  Just look for words which compromise your principles and undermine your intentions.  Speak positively and believe in yourself.  Simply by being conscious of the words you use life will improve.

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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