What is this thing called transition and why do I care? The basic term is fairly simple and broad in meaning. It simply means change, a change from one state of being to another. The key word here is being. This is a state of being not doing. Doing is not involved in transition. There is nothing you can “do” to transition.
Once you think about this for a few minutes you will realize the profoundness of this statement. I will repeat it so you can get your head around this, there is nothing you can “do” to transition! It matters not what type of transition you are experiencing either. The transition can be gender related, work related, life style related or whatever. Transition is about beingness, not doing. This can appear to be shifting, and you may have different experiences and points of view, but your beingness will not change.
Mahatma Gandhi is quoted as saying, “Be the change you desire to see in the world”. So what does this mean? It means that your state of being is a product of your desires. If you are being a woman then your are one and this goes for whatever you are being. What you “do” does not matter. If you move to a new home far away does this change your state of being? If you wear the clothes of the opposite sex does this change who you are being?
What I am saying here is transition envolves a lot more than just changing your behavior, location or circumstances. Transition is a change in beingness at the very core of who you are. As an example the transgender community and others often talk about all the physical changes involved, but rarely do they discuss the deep inner changes required to fully transition. Getting SRS or Breast augmentation does not change who you are or who you are being!
Cis-gender women and men rarely even consider their gender, it is their state of being that to them (the self) is perfectly natural. To a transgender person however there state of beingness seems off and they desire to change or transition to a state that is harmonious. In order to successfully transition then a person must change from being a man to being a woman or vice versa.
My question to you is this, Are you being the person you desire to be? Are you male or female, man or woman? Can a male ever be female? This is like asking if a dog can ever be a cat!!!
🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth
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