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Celebrate Diversity

Sexual expression comes in many different flavors, and is possibly as unique as the number of people on our beautiful blue planet.   The old school wants us to conform to the old ‘boy meets girl, girl has baby’ scenario and while that does serve its purpose as a race we are moving beyond that.  Relationships are so much more than adding one more baby to the rising population, or even the aspect of replacing the self.  The world may appear to be a binary system with only men and women, but I can assure you it is not. 

Sexual orientation is an aspect of gender that Dr. Carl Bushong describes as “Brain Sex”.  “Our love/sex patterns, and how we relate to others on a social and interpersonal as well as sexual level, often referred to as our “Sexual Orientation”.” (1995) This aspect, like gender identity, is hard wired from birth, which means our brains, being much like a computer, are programmed to be attracted to certain physical attributes, genders and personalities. 

To restrict every person on the planet, all 6.8 Billion +, to being either heterosexual or homosexual is unrealistic.  Instead it is much more feasible that each person on earth has their own unique sexuality which falls into several categories.  The categories as they exist today are, heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, bisexual, and pansexual.  There are a few other words being used but overlap these so I will stick with this list.  Within each category will be a sliding scale so that each person falls somewhere on the scale and is not necessary stuck exactly in that spot, although they will stay within a category. 

Just briefly hetero means opposite sex attraction, homo means same sex attraction, the (a) in asexual means no sexual attraction, the (bi) in bisexual means both sexual attraction, and the (pan) in pansexual means all sexual attraction.  I do not like the term bisexual because it implies there are only two sexes, male and female.  This is the old world paradigm and no longer works (if it ever worked).  Pansexual includes everyone and applies to anyone that is sexual but not strictly attracted to the opposite or same sex.  This term is far more appropriate in today’s society. 

The whole labeling game gets a little absurd after a while because the terms become contradictory and putting people into boxes is both confining and inaccurate. For instance, a transwoman who is attracted to women is lesbian or are they heterosexual since they were born into a male body?  And what about the woman who was attracted to this person not realizing they were transgender?  Does that make them a lesbian?  So what if it does? 

The world is coming out!  We are becoming more aware of gender identity and sexual orientation, which is leading to more understanding and eventually to more acceptance.  I ask only that you stay away from the labels as much as possible and simply love the person.  This is why I like the Pansexual label best because it is defined as “A sexual orientation characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love and/or sexual desire for people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex.” (, 2010)

Who you are attracted to should not be grounds for discrimination. (In reality there are no grounds for discrimination) Could you imagine if the world judged you on the grounds of your attraction to hair color?  “Oh you like redheads, uggg or ewww”!   Actually Blondes often get joked about and while it may be in fun, it is only fun to the person joking.  Sexual orientation is just another of many category’s that are used to separate or define humans.  Being unique is a gift, and it makes us lovable and desirable.  Just think of a rare diamond or rare flower.  Uniqueness is a desirable trait in our society, so why not extend that to your relationships.  Celebrate differences and LOVE the person – stop separating!  We are One – one big family of Human. 

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

Unity in Gender Diversity

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Many people you meet are different than you in many different ways.  They could be different in physical appearance, cultural behavior, attitudes, beliefs, sexual preference, and social presentation.  Do you look for these differences or do you look for what you have in common?

The best way to make a friend is to find something in common and compliment them in some way.  The nuances and personalities of individuals are what make life interesting.  Without these things life would get pretty boring.  So how does one handle being in a social situation with someone who is different?  This will be as unique as the individual’s, however here are some pointers that may help.

Show respect and treat them how you would want to be treated.  If you are curious as to why an individual would pierce certain body parts and wear leather or tattoos then it is certainly ok to ask, however do so in a way that shows respect.  Make no statements of judgment or offers of opinion unless it is a compliment.  Your attitude will show in your mannerisms and if you are authentic and honest then you will most likely be well received. 

The same goes for those who are the target of questions.  The way in which you respond will stay with the person and likely form their opinion of like individuals they may meet down the road.  In a way you are a spokes person for humanity and this is something to keep in mind. 

Physical appearance, cultural behavior, attitudes, beliefs, sexual preference, and social presentation are things that are not contagious so do not treat them as such.  You will make choices as to how you live your life and present yourself in public so give others the freedom to do the same.  Working in a cubicle next to a person who identifies as gay has no bearing on your sexual preference, unless you say it does.  Maybe you find him attractive.  Maybe you have conservative religious beliefs and find him objectionable.  Either way he deserves your respect and common courtesies at all times whether in public or if you are with him alone in the elevator. 

We each are who we are and that does not change because of proximity.  It has been discovered recently that gender identity and sexual orientation are determined before birth and are hard wired into the brain.  So please understand that you are the way you are and simply embrace it.  While you are embracing who you are allow others to be who they are too. 

We can all live together with our divine differences easily or not.  Believing what a book tells you, some authority figure in a black robe tells you or even what a parent tells you is a formula for pain and suffering.  Make up your own mind, based on your own experiences and get many viewpoints on a subject that seems important to you.  Blind faith leads to destruction. 

Love is the answer to any challenge you are ever faced with.   

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

Unity in Gender Diversity



The same ole boring temperature every day, can you imagine living in a world where the temperature is 72 degrees all the time?  What about a place that has temperatures down to 40 below 0 in the winter and summers where the temperatures top 100 degrees Fahrenheit?  Which appeals to you the most?  Really?  How many places on earth do you know of where the temperature does not vary?  Even our homes temperatures vary some and since we create the environment we desire to live in the answer is fairly obvious.  We desire contrast!

How many people do you know that have exactly the same skin color as people around them?  Even in the same family each member will have slightly different skin color.  How much variation is there?  I would suppose that if we did a very sensitive test of skin tones that every person on earth would vary some, heck our skin varies color even on our own bodies.  So do we desire similar skin tones or various?  The evidence shows that we desire contrast.  In a world where we have people of every shade of brown imaginable from no pigment, white skin to completely pigmented, black appearing skin. The contrast is impressive when we consider that we are all the same on the inside basically. 

The point here is that we desire contrast in our lives, and that is why we have so much diversity in the world.  For those of us who try to create a world of sameness they are simply fooling themselves and once we become honest with ourselves, we realize that diversity and variety truly are the spice of life.   Our minds are constantly telling us that we need to find someone like us in a world where they do not exist (this is insanity).  No one is exactly like you and that is our gift!  To honor diversity in life is to honor yourself. 

The next time you are doing something that displeases you, remember that you created it and can simply choose again till you find something that suits your desires.  It is the contrasts in life that seem to bring us joy, because we more fully experience it this way.  What is Joy without sadness? Can we know light without knowing darkness?  Think back and remember what Love feels like.  How do you know that is Love?  Yes, Contrast is how you know!  I am so grateful for all my experiences in life, because I know that they serve an important function in my Journey of Love (life).  🙂  Sequoia Elisabeth

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