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Meaning of Marriage

Marriage is between a man and woman, specifically, the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. (Dictionary.com)  Here is another definition of marriage I found in a blog, “”True Meaning of Marriage” The true meaning of marriage is love. By love, I mean not just what we feel but what we do. Love just as a feeling is very flimsy, an up and down roller coaster. Love is an action! In order for it to become the ultimate force and for us to rediscover the true meaning of marriage, love has to be unconditional. You are not looking for acceptance or validation. You are giving of yourself to another not because of them, but because of your values. A death to ones self so that another may live and benefit from your sacrifice. This is not an easy road to walk. But it is the most rewarding road however. An old Buddhist saying goes like this, ‘I want peace.’ If you take your ego (I) and your desires (want) out of the equation, i.e., the self, you will have only peace left. The true meaning of marriage is expressing love unconditionally to another. It is an unstoppable force that can endure anything. How do you find it? Within yourself. You have to draw strength from you. Neither seeking validation nor acceptance, just seeking the opportunity to show love.” (TalkAboutMarriage.com)

Here is another quote which exposes the issue of marriage nicely, “The meaning of marriage can be looked at from a legal perspective. Legally, marriage is a binding contract between the two parties that joins together their possessions, income, and lives. Marriage is recognized by the state, and the dissolving of the contract can only happen through the legal process of divorce.

But, for most people, marriage has meaning beyond the legal sense. Marriage is also an agreement between the man and woman. Husband and wife take certain vows, to love one another, to cherish one another, and to stay together through sickness and health, for better and for worse. In most cases, this agreement includes sexual faithfulness, and a promise that each person will do what they can to make the other one happy. For some people, this agreement between man and woman takes the form of a covenant between not only the couple, but God as well. Thus, many marriages are performed within the rites of various churches and religious institutions.

The meaning of marriage should be looked at from a sociological perspective as well. A marriage is the conduit by which children are born; a marriage provides both a mother and a father for the children. The family unit, the relationship between parents and child, are all based on the marriage relationship.” (laboroflove.com)

Now let’s break this down and apply it to the current debate over same-sex marriage.  The first thing to notice is marriage is between a man and woman, not necessarily a male and female, although there are arguments about having children.  It is also monogamous, supporting, and legal.  Marriage is a social construct created by man for mankind.  Religious institutions use it to control their congregation and impose their ideology.  The Government further supports this manipulation by imposing financial benefits and legal constrictions on the nuptials.

There is a saying which applies to marriage nicely, ‘two heads are better than one’.  Partnership just makes sense in surviving and thriving so the question becomes how important is Love to the equation?  Having been married twice and divorced twice I would say it is imperative!   I will further posit that same sex marriages have one partner in the man role and one in the woman role by nature.  It is possible the roles flip from time to time and that even happens in hetero marriages.  Also the financial aspects of marriage are of great importance being the leading cause of divorce.  Marriage these days is often simply about security and insurance against loneliness. For the same-sex community it is about being accepted by society and feeling loved by their peers.  It is just another way to fit in and this goes for all marriages, gay or not!

Ideally I would say the “true meaning of marriage” is Love, a selfless unconditional love.  Let us pray this remains the primary reason to marry and to stay together.  We can also acknowledge the facts that marriage is about financial, physical, and emotional support between two individuals of consenting age (now 18).  Equality is about everyone, having the right to equal benefits, and opportunities.  The whole Same-Sex marriage movement could be reduced to the right to file taxes as married, share insurance, and make legal decisions with/for your spouse.  Take money out of society and this entire issue dissolves and marriage will return to its original purpose of sharing love, but this is another story, the many benefits of a moneyless gifting economy.

Love needs no legal document or government/religious approval.  Love is boundless until we put up walls.  We put them there so we can also take them down.  There is no greater and important principle to preserve in our world than Free Will.  It is our inalienable right to make our own decisions, to love whom we choose, and to experience the gifts this produces.  Do we really even need marriage at all?  Why put limits on who you Love, who you live with and who has your children (who’s children you have), especially if you are not going to honor your vows over your entire life?  Certain Truths hold themselves to be self-evident.  The only true relationship you have is with Divine Source (God).  This larger relationship expresses through the smaller ones with the people in your life, your relationship to mother earth, and to yourself.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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To further the journey of understanding marriage I offer this article on The Meaning of Marriage as a Spiritual Union – the metaphysics of marriage.

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Ownership = Responsibility

Ownership is purely a man-made concept which has existed for thousands of years in some form or another.  The question I ask here is simply this, “How does ownership serve you”?  Is it in the Highest and Best Good of the Human Race & Earth?

Ownership as defined by the Encyclopedia Britannica is, “the legal relation between a person (individual, group, corporation, or government) and an object. The object may be corporeal, such as furniture, or completely the creature of law, such as a patent, copyright, or annuity; it may be movable, such as an animal, or immovable, such as land. Because the objects of property and the protected relations are different in every culture and vary according to law, custom and economic system and the relative social status of those who enjoy its privileges, it is difficult to find a least common denominator of “ownership.” Ownership of property probably means at a minimum that one’s government or society will help to exclude others from the use or enjoyment of one’s possession without one’s consent, which may be withheld except at a price.”

What do you own?  Think carefully here.  Are you sure?  Is it because you paid for it?  Or is it simply that you claimed possession?  Can you do with it as you please?  Does it bring you joy?  Is it time to re-assess your viewpoint on ownership?

Ownership can be reduced to a one word definition, responsibility.  Do you own the house you live in or do you simply have responsibility for it while you live there?  You make payments on the mortgage till you either move or pay it off, then you still pay taxes and maintenance fees.  If you decide to dig for diamonds or drill for oil can you?  Doubtful!  Most homes do not include mineral rights. Even if they did, do you have the right to lay claim to something which belongs to Mother Earth (everyone)?

Pets are a living thing we claim ownership over, so what is up with this?  Aren’t you really just offering to provide care and food for the returned love they provide?  Is this ownership?  They see it as you have joined their pack or pride!  And in reality, this is true also.  By owning a pet you have a responsibility to care for this animal plain and simple.  It is a joint venture for the betterment of both, no ownership involved!

Marriage can be viewed from the ownership perspective depending on the society you are living in.  Families used to give their daughter up in a financial deal with another family in a transaction which benefited both families, a form of ownership, which the man or ruling family controls.  In fact, it still exists today in many minds.  The husband owns the wife who must conform to his wishes.  He bears the responsibility to care for her in the exchange.  This is the business of Marriage!  $72 million per year is spent on this in the USA alone.

By owning a car, stereo, computer or any other object you have the responsibility to care for this object till you release this “ownership” by selling, giving, or throwing it away.  This is really what ownership means!  It does not give you the right to abuse the item, pet, or person in your life.

In regards to Marriage and relationships, the responsibility is implied and exists whether married or not.  Ownership has nothing to do with it in reality.  It is not possible to own another person (without their permission – which marriage constitutes).  This is one reason I am done with marriage in any form.  Some things are beyond law!

Ownership of property, living or not denotes responsibility!  Of course simply being a member of society bears responsibility.  What I speak of here is we all own everything.  The idea of privileged use of certain items or land is an affront to civilized behavior!  The lesson we need to be teaching is that we are all one big family and to damage, abuse, deface, or otherwise destroy anything is offensive to yourself and your family.  Even if you are paying for a service like a car wash or renting a bicycle, caring and respecting the item is a part of the temporary ownership you have of that item.  Public space is another good example of community ownership and the responsibility each person has to care for it.

It comes down to simply Loving yourself and everything in your life whether it is “yours” or not, because in reality everything belongs to everyone.  Equality is the goal!  Share and share alike, a resource based economy has this focus and will meet the coming needs of society best.  Maybe we should all be looking carefully at what ownership really means and how it applies to society.  Maybe we should all be treating everything as if we own it and with the realization we own nothing!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Equality

Equality is a fairly simple concept and I would like to shed some new light on this topic.  It can apply to just about any subject once it is understood, including marriage, race, color, age, creed, religion, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, ancestry, national origin/ethnicity or handicap/disability.

What is really at issue here?  Do all humans have equal rights?  Do we really want every human to have equal rights?  How does one decide who has rights and who does not?  At what age does a human have rights?  Do they ever end and did they ever begin?

These are tricky questions and each person will have their own point of view to offer, so as a society what is right, if that is possible?  As you may or may not know nothing is right or wrong lest you make it so.

This blog takes the Spiritual perspective and so I will avoid the dualistic political debates here and point out that Truth lies in Unity Consciousness.  Meaning there is no them, other, opposing view.  Only what you perceive.  New Thought Spirituality, ACIM, the Vedas and others teach that God is all there is, so all is God.  This means there cannot be a duality or the duality is contained within the One.

Using the Yin-Yang symbol we can say God is that which is both inside & outside the circle.  The portion inside is Man or the duality of good/bad, male/female, etc.  The other observation you may have made here is that all is balanced in this symbol and indeed this is the ideal.  However, all is fluid in reality and thus it is constantly shifting, shaping, and forming.

Equality is desirable because this is our concept of Peace, however I will point out that all is balanced right now because all is of the ONE.  The shape, form, and expression is constantly changing; however all elements are present, so all is balanced.  This is the power of Oneness and why this concept has been taught on some level since time began.  We are all ONE, meaning equality is inherint or inalienable! How society chooses to express this equality is in the details and we all know not to sweat the details.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Love and The Art of Divorce

I am reposting my blogs centered around Love at this time of Valentine’s Day.  May Love be with you always and all ways!

Relationships can be easy, difficult, painful, joyful, and essential.  The one thing they cannot be is avoided.  It is in our nature to love and care for others.  If you will remember we talked before about the nature of all relationships being with the One, Holy Spirit, God.  The ego mind tries to create the illusion of separation and thus comes the pain and difficulty we have with relationships.

Marriage is basically an acknowledgement of the oneness that exists always.  Two people who are attracted decide to share in the journey of love.  They make a commitment to stand beside each other no matter what and to share all that each has to offer.  This is done in the presence of God, because God is all there is!  So whether the ceremony is conducted in a church, court house, or park Spirit is present and witnesses this bond. 

The nature of the world you live in is ego mind.  Separation is being thrown at you at every turn, so it is little wonder that not all marriages last.  The rules people impose on each other are contrary to our nature as animals and as Spiritual Beings.  Monogamous, heterosexual, relationships with biological family must be the lifestyle! Really?

I am here to remind you that the rules are simply made up and can be changed.  There is no right or wrong in life, only what feels joyful or not.  When you surrender to the flow of Spirit you are guided on the path intended before you embarked on this human adventure.  Love is the way!

Sometimes marriages do not last and that is OK.  There is no rule that says you must take only one partner per lifetime.  You decide what is right for you!  Divorce does not have to be ugly. 

Marriage is two people looking in the same direction, sharing common goals.  If that changes then divorce can be the best choice.  While this needs to be considered deeply once the decision is made mutually, moving on can be as easy as walking away.  Love does not have to be abandoned!  Just because two people divorce does not mean they stop loving each other.  It only means their paths are heading in different directions. 

I encourage you to take your time and keep love by your side always and all ways.  This means that you love everyone in your life whether you know them or not.   Do not leave your partner in anger or frustration.  Instead stay long enough to work through your feelings.  What you give, you receive.  Keep this in mind as you decide how you will approach divorce.  Marriage is a 50/50 arrangement so when it comes to dividing that, keep it as equal as possible.  Attachment is the root to all pain and suffering and the more you insist (resist) the worse it will be. 

When the right (for you) decision is being made things will flow and fall into place without struggle.  Pain is natural (because you are releasing an attachment) so do not focus on this, but instead focus on the possibilities to fulfill your purpose here on earth.  Love is your nature, so just be yourself and love will flow whether you are divorcing or marrying! 

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Love and the art of Divorce

Relationships can be easy, difficult, painful, joyful, and essential.  The one thing they cannot be is avoided.  It is in our nature to love and care for others.  If you will remember we talked before about the nature of all relationships being with the One, Holy Spirit, God.  The ego mind tries to create the illusion of separation and thus comes the pain and difficulty we have with relationships.

Marriage is basically an acknowledgement of the oneness that exists always.  Two people who are attracted decide to share in the journey of love.  They make a commitment to stand beside each other no matter what and to share all that each has to offer.  This is done in the presence of God, because God is all there is!  So whether the ceremony is conducted in a church, court house or park Spirit is present and witnesses this bond. 

The nature of the world we live in is ego mind.  Separation is being thrown at us at every turn, so it is little wonder that not all marriages last.  The rules we impose on each other are contrary to our nature as animals and as Spirits.  Monogamous, Heterosexual, relationships with biological family must be our lifestyle! 

I am here to remind you that the rules are simply made up and can be changed.  There is no right or wrong in life, only what feels joyful or not.  When we surrender to the flow of Spirit we are guided on the path we intended before we embarked on this human adventure.  Love is the way!

Sometimes marriages do not last and that is OK.  There is no rule that says we must take only one partner per lifetime.  You decide what is right for you!  Divorce does not have to be ugly. 

Marriage is two people looking in the same direction, sharing common goals.  If that changes then divorce can be the best choice.  While this needs to be considered deeply once the decision is made mutually, moving on can be as easy as walking away.  Love does not have to be abandoned!  Just because two people divorce does not mean they stop loving each other.  It means their paths are heading in different directions. 

I encourage you to take your time and keep love by your side always and all ways.  This means that you love everyone in your life whether you know them or not.   Do not leave your partner in anger or frustration and instead stay long enough to work through your feelings.  What you give, you receive.  Keep this in mind as you decide how you will approach divorce.  Marriage is a 50/50 arrangement so when it comes to dividing that, keep it as equal as possible.  Attachment is the root to all pain and suffering and the more you insist (resist) the worse it will be. 

When the right (for you) decision is being made things will flow and fall into place without struggle.  Pain is natural (because you are releasing an attachment) so do not focus on this, but instead focus on the possibilities to fulfill your purpose here on earth.  Love is our nature, so just be yourself and love will flow whether you are divorcing or marrying!  🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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