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Memory vs Memories

Having recently passed the half century mark I could be concerned with memory by buying into popular myths and misfortunes.  But this would be entirely off base.  Why? Because memory has been an issue for me since childhood.  My brain has never worked like most people’s do, so I had to learn techniques to cope with these challenges.

Remembering things, I have seen is really easy for me, but if I have not seen them and only read or heard them it is much harder to remember.  This runs true for most people, experience is the best teacher, meaning we remember things we have directly experienced far better than stuff we have only heard or read about.

The topic of memory is quite large filling volumes of materials, so we need to condense it into a manageable space.  It can also be approached from different perspectives such as memorization in an academic setting, memory for daily activities such as work (remembering names and faces), and memories of personal experiences.  I will focus on the later and offer these websites to cover the other topics, Memorization for school, Memory for daily activities.

Memories of personal experiences can be enhanced using the techniques offered in the previously provided websites on memory, so I recommend reviewing them also.  I would like to offer up another term which greatly affects our lives, and this is Selective Memory.  This may conjure up past or present relationships with a chuckle and it can be funny.  It can also be devastating to your Spiritual growth.  The simple fact is we tend to push unpleasant memories out of our mind and lock them away in our Pandora’s box which itself is hidden in our treasure chest of memories.  Yes, these are those experiences that cut to the bone and rocked our very soul!

Some would call this doing Shadow Work, just one name for it.  Here are some links to Debbie Ford’s life’s work, and  So, if you find this to be helpful, I will also recommend Byron Katie’s teachings, and  This said, have you ever felt like you have hit a wall in your growth?  Perhaps the same issues keep recurring or you frequently meet similar type individuals.  “Shadow work is nothing more than the process of making the unconscious conscious and the unacceptable, acceptable.” ( The habit of selective memory could be behind this process.  The less you wish to look at something the more your mind will want to show you!  If ignored for long enough drastic events will happen to force you to face the issues being ignored.  Often these are life changing events, emotional breakdowns, physical injury, or drastic shifts in career.  The path to healing is to face these scary memories and past experiences which have never had the opportunity to be processed by the mind.

What one discovers when they make the effort to explore these memories and feelings which at first may be scary, is just how harmless they really are.  Abuse or trauma is one of those things we all tend to hide away and at the time it was the most efficient method of dealing with this overwhelming experience.  Now that the threat has passed it is safe to take another look at what happened.  Do not trust your memories in this regard.  Focus rather on the feelings surrounding the event and explore the roots.  Having a guide on this journey is often the best and most effective choice to make.  Just making the choice to face your fears is often enough.  There is no reason to fully relive the experience, only to see that which you could not before.  Once seen in a big picture format all is put into perspective and the mind releases its hold on these frightful experiences.  When a light is flipped on immediately it fills the room and darkness is gone.  This is how the process works.  Choose to dig deep down within your own psyche carrying a lantern with you!  Be not afraid of what lies below for it could lead to treasure!

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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Coming Out Process

Coming out is a tiered process that starts with a personal admittance.  It then touches those closest to you and branches out.  The depth of your personal admittance determines the effect you experience and in many ways determines the reactions others show you.

It is like an explosion with shock waves which reverberates out and back again.  The energy you put out will come back to you!  This is why it is so important to do your inner work or shadow work and forgive yourself to start with. (Even though there is nothing to forgive, but the illusion forgiveness is necessary.)

Coming out is usually a LGBTQ thing, however it can apply to any aspect of your life that you have denied.  It is a way of getting to know yourself; a labeling process if you will.  Self-identity is so important in society and will determine your success in this world.    The reason is simple, as a beacon of energy your thoughts are transmitted out to the world and come back to you in your experiences.  Love yourself and the world loves you back!!  Hate yourself and watch out!

Are you aware of your inner feelings?  Have you sat in front of a mirror and looked deep within your soul (eyes)?  This is the first step in coming out!  The next step is to embrace this identity and live it.  Live the life you know is right for you!  Share with those close to you… “I have great news…etc.”.

The next tier of coming out is to dress and act in a fashion that is authentic to your soul.  Allow those close to you to see the person you truly are within.  It may be like coming out all over again so be patient with them.  Maintain your positive attitude and allow them space to adjust to the new you.  Ask them not to jump to conclusions and offer to educate them or for them to do it themselves.  This is why websites like this one exist, to educate on gender and sexual orientation.  This is a soulful, spiritual journey, thus the Spiritual Learning Center is offered as well.

As the journey progresses you will get to know yourself better and so will your friends and family.  It is a win-win because we are all in this together!  So, coming out is a process that begins within and is shared with close friends, family, and associates (conceptual level).  It then progresses to the visual and interactive level where you are living the life you desire in the fashion you choose.  After a time, this will become natural and the process goes deeper and sometimes goes full circle leading back to where you started, although now this state has been processed and everyone is comfortable with it, most importantly you!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Only the Shadow Knows Too

This two part blog on the Shadow has taken us from the obvious to the metaphysical and on to the metaphorical.  The practical aspect of “Shadow work”, as it is called in psychology and self-help, is the simple examination of your personality traits which you don’t like.  This is simple but not necessarily easy.  It requires you to look deep into your soul and see yourself as you are!  Not pleasant for most people.

The traits I speak of are things like anger, jealousy, spitefulness, vindictiveness, loathing, meanness, cruelty, apathy, etc, etc.  Whatever upsets you about other people are the traits within you that are at issue.  It is not very often and usually only in drastic events that you can see these shadows within yourself.  Usually the ego mind projects these traits on others so you can see them better.  Think of it like a movie projector.  The ego projects you…out there (the movie screen called life) for you to watch and embrace.

What kind of movies do you like?  What kind do you wish to avoid?  This is called getting to know yourself better and it is a lifetime process so don’t worry if things change.  They will, I can assure you!  It is part of the growth process.

There are several ways to explore the shadow (ego mind).  One is as described above, by simple observation; others include meditation and creative visualization (I am sure there are others too).  The mind is a tool which is used by ego or by Spirit (higher self).  As you explore this will become clearer.  Remember a few important points, the ego is a part of you and it is not “bad” although it may be negative.  Without it you could not interact in this world of shadows.  Spirit only knows light!  Ego does not exist in the Spirit realms because it has fully been integrated into the soul.  Here on earth they are separate or at least that is the illusion.

Meditate on your Higher qualities, the ones you like, the ones you aspire to.  As you do this the others fall away because you are not focusing on them.  The shadows will appear and you are to make notice of them, visualize yourself embracing them and then releasing them.  So what you are doing, and this can be done throughout your life, not just in meditation, is acknowledging the shadows and saying “I see you” “I love you” and “I release you” “You no longer serve me”  then you consciously redirect your attention to traits you desire, admire, and feel attracted to.

This process sounds really beautiful and it is, but in reality it will often be ugly.  It will manifest as arguments, temper tantrums, confrontations, fights, embarrassment, harassment, and the many challenges we face every day!  There is nothing wrong with this and in fact to avoid these is to avoid yourself!  Now there is a difference between embracing the issues as they arise and seeking punishment.

Be gentle in your explorations by listening to your inner voice.  Some lessons will repeat and can get stuck in a feedback loop if you are not aware of what is going on.  Examples are the man who always gets in fights, or the woman who goes from abusive relationship to abusive relationship.  The key here is to be awake and aware of what is going on!  This is the purpose of this Blog!  By being aware of your shadows you can dissolve them and move on as we spoke about in the previous blog, moving from one attribute in the Labyrinth to the next till you reach pure light, Agape.  Blessings on your Journey of Love.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Only The Shadow Knows

When was the last time you took a really close look at your shadow?  Have you ever considered why we have shadows?  There is the obvious physical reason of an object blocking the light so a dark outline of the object is projected in relation to the light source, but have you considered the metaphysical reasons or symbology that shadows represent?

The shadow represents the dark side of life, the mysterious and unknown.  Humans are naturally frightened by this and for good reason.  Everyone knows that creatures lurk in the dark waiting to consume you!  Carnivorous animals hunt at night because pray is easy to take.  …Of course this is a barbaric notion that served us many centuries ago, but in this age of enlightenment how do shadows figure in?

To understand shadows fully you need to understand your ego mind.  This is the part of you that believes in separation and in order to prove its existence it is constantly showing you how bad things are, how people die and that death exists.  The ego mind is your “small self” the part of you that is fearful and afraid.

While this does serve you in this dualistic world, it is not really you.  The ego is a manifestation of this 3d low vibration material world.  The world of illusion, fear, and separation!  Halloween and Dia de la Muerta are holidays that exploit and celebrate the ego mind.  It is a part of the Human ritual and a rite of passage if you will.  Our journey here on Earth is to navigate the shadows and emerge the other side in the light.  The shadows can lead the way if you know how to follow them.

On a more Metaphysical side of it shadow represents your negative traits; parts of your personality that you do not like and do not wish to deal with.  They are aspects of you that are deeply suppressed.  The shadow is still a part of you in this world just like the yin and yang; the dark and light that which makes up the whole.  In order to know the light one must embrace the darkness!

To do this takes Courage, Patience, Wisdom, Certainty, Compassion, Joy, Clarity, Understanding, Depth, Generosity, Abundance and Agape.  Each is a step into the darkness till pure light is achieved at Agape.

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Think of a Labyrinth, where the turns are folding back on themselves and the path is dimly lit.  It is the shadows that show the way, because as you follow the shadows the source light is behind the shadow.  Each step takes you closer to the light.  Till you reach the center to discover that you must return to the outer edge to fully be in the light.  Each discovery, insight, and revelation brings more light to the path till it is unmistakable which direction to go.  It then becomes an exercise in determination and persistence, putting one foot in front of the other experiencing each attribute on the path fully till the next one pops up and spurs you on.

Shadow work is so important in Spiritual development that many psychology programs are teaching it now and any self-help lesson is incomplete without it.  Next time I will get more specific and practical with this two part discussion on Shadows.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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