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Group Therapy

Groups are therapeutic and a very effective method of coping with any issue needing attention.  Groups are often used as a support mechanism for specific issues of a specialized demographic.  There are certain guidelines every group should go by to attain the best results for all participating and are as follows.

A group is three or more people sitting in a circle with one person as a facilitator.  It is best for the group to stay below 12 members for the best interaction but can be as large as 20 before effectiveness is lost.  If the group gets larger then it is best to break up into smaller groups after the introduction is given or from the very start.

The facilitator’s purpose is to lead the group – provide direction.  It is best for this person to be a peer or somehow seen as an equal.  They can be a trained doctor, minister or manager, but the group must see this person as a peer or someone who has walked the road they have traveled and can provide guidance.

The group must have a purpose or theme to it.  For instance, the topic can be very general such as substance abuse or more specific such as alcoholism.  The group can be targeted to a specific population such as employees of the company or members of an organization or they can be open to the public.  This will depend on the organization or individual sponsoring the group.  The topics for groups are as varied as the imagination.  They do not have to be centered on psychological disorders or illness.  The group could be a sewing group that meets to socialize and share techniques & ideas.  Or the group could be a think tank with ideas to improve performance of an organization.  The guidelines offered here still apply.

The group needs ground rules for process and procedure in writing, and available to every participant.  The group does not need to be strict, but it does need a basic framework.  Having a set ritual or procedure adds structure and allows the group to operate smoothly with a minimum of interference from the facilitator.  It is important to maintain equality in the group so each participant feels comfortable sharing.  The facilitator could rotate to a different person each time.  The important thing is to stay focused on the topic and allow (encourage) everyone to participate equally.

Having the group size small and structured in a circle is vital in maintaining the air of equality.  The more intimate the group the deeper the sharing and the more each person will get out of the process.  Simply being in the group will be beneficial, however the more a person participates, the better for everyone.  A good group will operate on spontaneity with each person speaking without interrupting another.

In review, groups are 3 or more individuals with a common purpose who come together for the betterment of all.  They have the structure of written guidelines facilitated by a peer in a compassionate and mature fashion.  The group has a purpose or topic and it is made clear in the introduction of the meeting so all participants know beforehand.   The group sits in a circle facing each other and the size of the group is limited to 12 ideally or no more than 20.

Groups have been used since the beginning of society.  A child is born into a group (family), so it is only natural to use groups for working through issues and to simply socialize.  Humans are social animals after all!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Support Groups

Transition can be difficult for those who are facing it alone.  In today’s connected world there is no reason to go it alone.  No matter what your challenge, there is some kind of support available online or in your town.  For those of you who live in Chicken, Alaska with a population of 10, I will suggest Holy Spirit.  Holy Spirit works for anyone anywhere.  For the rest of us, find a focused support group! 

For those lucky enough to live in a big city the resources are likely abundant.  Search the internet and find a support group near you to participate in.  Yes, participation is the key.  The groups I have attended have been professional and confidential.  One way to check them out before hand is to call the organizers and talk to them over the phone.  You can maintain your anonymity and get a feel for what to expect.  Taking a family member with you or finding someone to go with is another way to ease the awkwardness of the first visit.   Remember that everyone there had a first time to visit and if they can do it so can you. 

Chat forums have become a sort of a support group although with some of the language I have heard, they are sometimes more adverse than going to a physical location with people you know will be on their best behavior.  Still the discussion boards and blogs like this one can be a good source of support.  I am happy to chat with anyone, just comment here and we can chat sometime.

I cannot stress how wonderful it is to be in a group of your peers and be able to discuss things which have been bothering you but there was no one who understood.  I have grown tremendously since finding the support groups here.  With a little detective work support groups can be found in most places.  Try calling a professional in the phone book who specializes in your situation and asking if they know of any support groups.  Network with businesses who sell whatever is associated with your challenge.  For instance, stores that cater to crossdressers will know of the local support groups.  Mental health facilities know about the local drug and alcohol support groups as well as treatment centers.  Just start looking and you will find.  Once you find, be brave and go down there and participate, you will be glad you did.   😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Mirrors of Friendship

Transition is long and sometimes arduous journey so it is very important to treasure each moment of Joy and each success along the path.  Doing this alone is certainly possible, but it is when we have someone who cares to share our experiences with, the Joy grows exponentially. 

Often when we decide to begin the journey we are in an intimate relationship which becomes our first challenge.  Will they accept us?  The real question is do we accept ourselves?  The only way to know if you accept yourself is how others treat you.  I know this may seem backward or strange, but this is just how it works.  Understand that you are all there is, all else is a reflection of who you are. 

I call this the mirror principle and our lives are often like living in a house of mirrors, it can get pretty confusing.  This being said let’s get back to our partner who is having difficulty with our coming out news.  Each person in your life has their own vision of you, as a reflection of themselves!  Be gentle with your expectations of them and this is where the golden rule comes in.  Do on to others as you would have done on to you, because they are you!  We are One. 

When you think about this it explains a lot about the reactions and treatment you get from others.  Those who understand are supportive and loving.  Those who believe themselves to be like you are going to be supportive and understanding (and vice versa).  Join a support group!  The internet is the place to look and if you need help, contact me I am here for you.  The time spent with others on a similar journey will help you to better understand yourself and you have the opportunity to grow self love.  The Love you give is the Love you will receive!  Not only do support groups offer information you will need along the journey such as where to go to get the things you need, what to look out for along the path and who can help you, they show you who you are!  I find this to be the greatest gift anyone can offer you!  🙂  Sequoia Elisabeth