TDOR is not a day about those who have died it is about those who are living! The dead person has moved on and those who are left behind are the ones dealing with the pain and grief. Separation is always painful but it does not have to be this way.
Today I would like to shine the light on why it is important to remember events of the past and to honor those who have gone before you. The obvious answer and the one I have heard many times is, “learn from your past or you are doomed to repeat it”, but this falls short. Perhaps it is these individuals are important as human beings and kindred family and while this is absolutely true the real gift here is injustice is brought to light.
Awareness is raised in the minds of all people and they see the destruction and injustice violence brings. Transgender Day of Remembrance brings our community to the main stream consciousness in a cry for equal rights. It is a statement of we are people too and deserve to be treated as well any other person. The fact which often gets lost is we are all human beings and a valuable part of the whole of life; however it is not us against them! Let me emphasis this point. It is never about US vs. THEM in any situation. When this perspective is taken it becomes a losing proposition. One if not both parties loose. The Equal Rights movement is about equal rights for everyone. No one person is better than any other or more deserving or less deserving of common basic human needs such as personal security, love, self esteem, personal fulfillment, cultural security, and participation, plus a right to life, liberty, freedom of thought, expression and identity, and equal treatment before the law. Let us focus on the things we all desire because this is about the living!
The Universal Law of Attraction states, “What you focus on grows”. Or to say it another way, the energy of attention funnels this power where ever it is pointed. If you are focusing on the things that are wrong or broken or painful then you get more of them. However if you are focusing on what is working, how systems are supporting you and what you like about a certain person, place, or thing then you get more of that!
Please take advantage of this Day of Remembrance to focus on what you loved about these people who have lost or taken their life. Let go the hatred which got them killed. Let’s not make this about blame or fault but instead focus on the laws which do protect us and the give thanks to those who love us and work to expand protections for all people. Share your dream of the world you wish to live in! It is important to be heard, so listen to others and treat them the way you wish to be treated. There are no victims only volunteers, thus I honor all the beautiful people who have volunteered to be symbols of change and to shine the light on a community’s needs. Blessings to all who have passed before me and may God have mercy on those who took what was not theirs to take.
🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth
Oneness Ministry 
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