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Refined Message

What is our purpose? I’ve been asking myself why I even keep these websites. What I should do with them if anything. So here is what I came up with. A refined Manifesto.

My purpose and lot in life is to love and accept myself and the dream I have created. There is no more sobering thought than to realize you are the source of your nightmares. All the pain you have ever felt is on you. There is no one else, not really. “All else” or “other” is a projection from mind, your mind, the only mind. Our whole sense of self is based on Ego, this is the very definition of identity. If you think you exist, then this is the Ego. It is not good or bad, it is just the filter used to experience the world around you… to Know thy self!

Sometimes this image gets blurred and we think the “Other” is who we are. On the greater levels this is true, however on this limited Ego level it is not. I am you and you are me, though the Ego exists to further refine what you and me are. Ego is separation. All in this world is separate and represents the Ego (not the personality as Freud presented, but the entire “self”). I have come to believe that gender itself is an ego construct and Transgender is a confusion of this primary construct. We are born male, female or intersex, this cannot be changed in this lifetime. Sex is simply our Identity construct, it may define our life this time around, but it is by no means fixed in reality. Gender by the way is not Sex, these aspects are separate and yet intertwined. In the Ego world, there are shades of gray or color. A rainbow represents separation of light… thus the Ego. A perfect symbol for anyone who identifies with being human, special, or different. Yes, we appear to be unique, but this is only a perception – a desire by the Ego to be special or somehow better than other. The way to work though this is presented in A Course in Miracles. I will not go into it further and leave it up to you to explore.

I will not tell anyone else what to think or what is right or wrong, because that depends on your perspective and point of view. Being Transgender is real if you think it is. It cannot be denied, as I tried for 30 yrs and it kept coming back. When you get a obsessive idea the only way to get over it is to move through it. It could be called a problem, but in reality it is just an idea. Consuming, yes. So accept it and move through it. Face it head on. Fear = false evidence appearing real. Even death is false. I have died many times or at least my Ego has. Love is real and can not be destroyed. Whatever is “killed or dies” is unreal. Know this and life becomes a Joy. By “Know” I mean no doubt whatsoever.

So, if you have the impulse to crossdress then go for it. If you wish to sleep with the same sex or deny sex all together, go for it. However, if you have the impulse to harm anyone including yourself then take a step back. Tell someone about these feelings. Talk it out and take no action. The question is what does “harm” mean? I have been over that many times. Is it harmful to Transition? Is it harmful to die? Does shattering the concept others have of you qualify as harmful? There is the simple principle of “what you do to another, you do to yourself”. So perhaps transition is just passing your own confusion off to others close to you (other self). As you see the “other” you will see yourself. There is also the principle that we learn through experience, so unless we transition no lesson is learned. Pain is inevitable, suffering is up to you. I am not responsible for your suffering, even if I am responsible for your pain. We each have free will. There are no easy answers to these questions, there are only your answers. I have answered them for myself. I invite you to explore these questions and do your best. Live life and don’t apologize! Only you can ultimately judge you, so be kind.

Sequoia Elisabeth

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Like a Reversible Sweater

Human beings are like a reversible sweater.  They have both a man and a woman within each of them or if you prefer a feminine and a masculine.  This has nothing to do with sex which is nothing more than the physical aspect of the body.  It is time we started thinking of human life as multiphasic.  We each have many levels which shift and flow over time, some of us more than others of course.  Some never reverse their sweater and thus never get to know their full self.  Part of doing inner exploration is opening all the doors without fear and embracing what you find.  The spirit of acceptance without any preconceived ideas of what is proper or right is a must.  The idea of congruence must also be questioned.  Why do men have to have penises and women vaginas?  Like I said sex and reproduction is a whole other topic and at this stage of the game is becoming irrelevant with over 7 billion people on earth.  So let us move on beyond this primal need to replicate.  Instead let us get to know the self before we go about making more selves.

What I know is that there is much more to life than this concept of “me”.  I exist beyond this body and will always exist with or without the body I currently experience as “me”.  I am not “me”, nor am I “you”.  We are One.  The understanding of Oneness changes the entire game… it changes everything!  There is no “me” or “you”, only we.  Like a kaleidoscope of humanness we are constantly shifting and morphing, so to get stuck on one expression of this is a game ender.  The meaning we place on words is not fixed, but many think that it is.  You are not the “you” you believe yourself to be!!  Let it go.  And above all else stop trying to “fix” yourself.  We are here to discover (dis-cover) who we are, not to manipulate or manufacture a self (a false self).  Surgery, drugs, and other external methods just end up hiding the true self, the authentic self.  Please do not be drawn into this game of the “six-million dollar person”.  No other can make you better than you already are!  Love that which is the self.  In order to do this you must really get down and see yourself… look within, without expectations, fear, or limits.  Feel who you are… close your eyes and be not deceived.  Let the Journey begin… once again, for like all journeys they tend to repeat.

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Sex Chakra Explored

Sex is a complicated subject as well as a multi-dimensional one.  Gender is separate so put that out of your mind right now. Our entire life is multi-dimensional when you look at it from the perspective of Chakras.  With each of the seven Chakras being one dimension, for the sake of this blog we will only cover the second chakra for brevity.  I will also point out there are at least 12 Chakra levels/dimensions which extend from the Root of your being out to the farthest reaches of the Universe.  The actual root for us earthlings is our Sun extending to the planets, human beings, the solar system, the galaxy, and the Great Central Sun.  The chart below is a view of the metaphysical teachings of the 12 Chakra system.  The first seven are most commonly focused on because they directly involve the body.

 

Now consider the aspect of sex which we all know, the parts between your legs.  This is just one level or aspect of sex; Orange, Polarity Chakra.   This is the aspect of male/female polarity and in our society the most basic level of sex.

Each being has a system of Chakras which connect them to the whole.  The point of connection between us can occur at each level.  Sexual intercourse occurs at the level of the orange polarity Chakra.  This again is a basic level of sex which serves procreation of our species as well as the transfer of vital energies between partners.  It is a sacred act, unless it is not.  This means your intention determines the energy shared.  Yes, we are conscious beings and we have moved beyond the level of simple procreation.  If the intention is to have children then this will occur, however if the only intention is to share energy this is all that will occur, but it must be done on a conscious level; a level of mastery many on our planet are now achieving if they so choose.  Unconscious sex, the animal drive is all about procreation, thus the need for birth control.  When taken to a higher level of conscious intention and divine love exchange, medical intervention is no longer necessary.

The female shares mental and emotional energies while the male brings physical energy to the sharing.  The blend of energies depends on the individuals participating, so if both are female then one will share physical energy and the other will share mental/emotional energies.  One of the roles sex plays is it allows us to balance our energies.  Having an open and active Orange, Polarity Chakra is important in proper function of this sharing.  One of my favorite meditations for this is the singing bowls.

Things get out of balance when sex is forced, faked, or avoided.  This of course can happen with any of the Chakras, they become blocked or partially blocked.  Meditation is a good tool to keep the Chakras open as well as the other basics such as exercise, good nutrition, and good hygiene.  Loving conscious practice is also important in the healthy functioning at all levels.  The seven chakra series of singing bowls makes a great way to balance these energies.

One aspect of sex which needs sharing consists of the aspects of masculine and feminine.  Think of these as energies, not physical forms.  Masculine, the rod, is the energy of a man, such as strong, hard, angular, rough, aggressive, giving and active.   The rod is designed to give to the receptacle.  It is the energy of penetration and physicality.  Feminine, the receptacle, is the energy of a woman such as soft, curvy, voluptuous, receptive, attractive, subtle, gentle and serene. Often this energy is slow moving, emotional, and mental.   These are the energies which are shared during sex no matter whether the partners are opposite sex or same sex.  Every person has both in a balance depending on their physical sex.  Another way to think of this is a spectrum with feminine energy at one end and masculine at the other.  Each person falls somewhere in between.  The partner attracted will be opposite this balance and the balance is not fixed, so things can change over time; however they do tend to stay close to the same.

So now you have a primer to deepen your exploration of sex and its purpose.  The eBook, “Sex and Sexuality – One Woman’s Journey of Discovery” has a whole chapter dedicated to sexual purpose, Ch. 8 Sex as Communication.  Blessings on your Journey of Love♥

😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Porn and the Effects of Sex

Recently I read a very interesting message about the energy exchange that happens with porn or any sexual fantasy. The object or subject of the act feels the energy (both parties feel it). An actual exchange of energy takes place on a mental/astral plane. The intent has a lot to do with the energy’s frequency. There is still much about this I do not understand, but I can attest to the energy exchange as I have been on both ends. Unfortunately this energy can be addictive working much like any other drug; however with a Loving intent and focused meditation the energy can be transformed for the positive. It is best to ask Holy Spirit to assist in this endeavor. The bible warns of worshiping idols and as history shows it, it is the men who fall prey.

The power of human sexuality is explained in this video, so I invite you to explore this energy at a deeper level.  Then take this understanding to the experience of masturbation, either by yourself using your imagination or by using an image on the page of a magazine or monitor.  It is like opening a door and releasing a vastly powerful healing energy.  Focus on the healing aspects, the release of vital hormones, and brain chemicals that revitalize the body.  Feel Love as you are doing it.  Express Love in every action you take.  This is where all is transformed to a higher vibration.

While having a partner makes the experience more profound, masturbation still serves its purpose and can be beneficial.  Same sex partnerships can be beneficial as well depending on the energies of the partners.  Remember that all attraction is magnetic in nature so the polarity will be opposite, even if the physical sex of each person is the same.  Give the experience to Higher Spirit and allow this energy to guide the experience, surrendering to the forces of nature.  A positive loving intention is most beneficial.

After the experience, let go and move on with your life holding no attachment to your partner and placing no demands on either yourself or them.  Remember this is not idol worship; this is a sharing of being with no expectations or attachments.  Love is unconditional… the purer the Love and the deeper the sharing – the more profound the benefits.

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Transgender and beyond

It is time we revisited Transgender, Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation so that everyone understands the meaning of certain words and concepts.  The Unitarian Universalist Church as a wonderful site (beside my own site of course) that gives a good overview of these principles, so please visit by clicking here after you have read this blog of course, lol.

First and foremost it is important to understand that gender and sex are different things and have multiple meanings.  Gender is your self-concept of who you are man, woman, transgender, androgynous or other.  Each individual is born with this, but is not aware of it till the ages of 3-6.  If a discrepancy is perceived then this awareness is often suppressed or denied in order to fit in.  I pray this is changing and from what I have observed it is.  Children are coming out and telling their parents who are actually respecting their concerns.  Cisgender is a term that describes “people who are not trans or gender variant—in other words, those whose gender identities, presentations, and behavior “match” (according to the gender binary) the sex they were assigned at birth.” (UUA.org)

Transgender and/or Trans is a person appearing or attempting to be a member of the opposite sex, such as a transsexual or habitual crossdresser.  This term is often as an umbrella term to include the entire community of individuals who cross gender boundaries on a consistent basis.  For more on terminology I cover it extensively at this link.

Sexual Orientation is also hard wired at birth and does not change, although many people now days are bisexual or pansexual meaning they are open to the individuals personality and not so concerned with physical sex.  A homosexual is attracted to their own sex and will not consider being with the opposite sex, just as a heterosexual is only interested in the opposite sex.  With Transgender individuals these definitions get blurry, so it is up to the individual to identify.  Make no assumptions because each person is different and may change their mind from time to time, especially if they are young and exploring.  The term sex can also mean physical or biological sex.

The traits of the Aquarian Age person is that of being bisexual and androgynous which explains much of the trans-revolution we are experiencing today!   We are moving from the end of the Piscean era to the new era of Aquarian!  I have spoken of this in other blogs and find that this explains much of what I have been experiencing.  I have decided not to get too drastic with my transition because I can see the bigger picture!  I am exactly the person I was meant to be straight from birth!

Does this mean I was not to transition?  Of course not!  That is the purpose of these times and my life is a mirror of the greater whole just as your life is!  All I am saying is I have chosen not to have sex change surgery.  Your path is up to you and if you have questions I am happy to assist!  Please visit the website below and explore the Gender Learning Center.  It goes into gender at length as well as sexual orientation and the different aspects of each of these.  The eBook “Sex and Sexuality” is available free on this website also.  The eBook is an extensive look at gender, sex, orientation, sexuality, and more.  So please give it a look see.   The website below lists the info in several formats -video, powerpoint, written, quiz, and eBook, so you can find what works best for your learning method.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Sexual Taboos

A taboo is “proscribed by society as improper or unacceptable behavior.” (Dictionary.com)  Thus, depending on the society, what is acceptable may vary.  Each society has a prescribed set of rules of conduct which evolve over time.  We all follow these constructs either consciously or unconsciously. 

Sex is often a volatile subject which goes way back depending on the founding society concerned.  In the USA, we are very conservative when it comes to issues of sex behavior stemming from our strict Christian foundations.  The sexual revolution of the sixties and beyond has tipped many of societies norms on their proverbial head!  In my humble opinion this is a very good thing although it has come at a price.  Anything surrounded by fear will create challenges.  AIDS was born of this fear!  It will be undone by its opposite, Love. 

A few of the taboos that have been set aside are homosexual sex and polyamorous relationships.  In some more conservative communities these remain taboo, but for the most part (esp. cosmopolitan cities) it is no longer taboo.  The level of acceptance varies by community of course.  Society can be thought of as a tribal consciousness and as this consciousness shifts so do the taboos.  This consciousness will vary by community, but is still connected to the greater whole, like clouds on the horizon. 

The consciousness which you embrace will be the governing factor in your acceptance.  Let’s say you grew up in the Catholic Church which says it is taboo to have same sex intimate relationships, so as long as you remain in that community or consciousness you are bound by those taboos.  Sometimes the community changes to embrace the consciousness of its members.  For example DignityUSA is a catholic LGBT organization which embraces those life styles.  This to me demonstrates the interdependency of the individual with the larger tribal consciousness. 

Polyamorous relationships have been taboo until recently because frankly I don’t think the average person was mature enough.  Polyamorous means having multiple consenting Lovers /intimate relationships.  It means all parties are aware of each other and respect each other’s freedoms.  It means the individuals have to be mature enough not to slip into jealously or possessiveness.  I see this as being common in societies of the future, because it is natural for most humans.  Unfortunately, the ego based ruling society of yesterday did not support this behavior and often suppressed it though the media, education, and social/religious avenues.  However, as your individual consciousness shifts, so does the greater tribal consciousness.  (which came first the chicken or the egg is an ongoing debate that I will not address at this time)

The bottom line here is that we each have choices that we make every day and these choices determine our individual path, but also influence the greater tribal consciousness as well.  If you wish to explore a sexual taboo, then by all means do so, but do so with caution in an environment that is supportive and safe.  If you do a little searching and this is important enough to you, then you will find those who support you. 

Some sexual taboos are still too far out there at this time and cannot be embraced by society at large.  Till the day comes where society is more accepting, there remains constructive methods of dealing with the compulsion to go beyond the law.  Prison is not one of them.  I would suggest contacting a professional sex counselor if you need guidance on these issues.  There is nothing wrong with you or these acts per se, but staying within the law is conducive to a healthy life (for everyone). 

What I do know is that God loves everyone, no matter who they are and no matter what they have done.  Forgiveness comes from within your own heart and is supported by actions that put everyone’s safety first.

 😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Are You Man Or Woman?

Do you feel like a man or like a woman?  What is a certain gender supposed to feel like?  How do you know?  I realize that most cisgender people have not considered these questions, but for a transgender or transsexual individual it is of constant concern.  Gender incongruency is something that ~98% of the population can’t even fathom.  What if the concept of gender as taught in the schools the last 100 years is inaccurate?

First understand the difference between sex and gender.  Sex is determined by the parts between the legs and gender is determined by the parts between the ears.  At least this is the modern or current understanding by science. Consider the possibility that each person is here in this reality for a purpose and they have chosen the roles they are to live before they are even born.

What if in fact gender is determined by consciousness, the field which surrounds the body and everything in creation.  What if no one is born with a gender and instead they acquire it.  Much like sexual orientation must be discovered by the individual.  I cannot tell my brother that he is gay or straight or if he is man or woman.  These are things he must discover.  Life is a discovery!  And we are explorers. 

The prevalent teaching about God or Great Spirit or Universal Mind or Infinite Intelligence (or whatever you choose to call this energy) is that it has no sex or gender.  Eastern philosophies have known this for centuries and in the past few centuries the western philosophies are accepting that God is not a man sitting on a throne up in heaven, some people more than others.  I do not have actual statistics on this, but from what I gather this concept is changing. 

The idea I present here today is that God is all there is and since God is all, so are we.  This means that no one has a gender or a sex in reality!  Those things only exist in this reality we call life on earth.  We are indeed all androgynous beings of light!  You may have seen this image presented before as alien life, for instance in the movie Cocoon (1985) or in episodes of Star Trek and in multiple instances in the media.  Everything is energy.

I mention the idea of androgyny here because I feel this is the truth of nature.  I believe that hetero and homo sexuality are creations of the human mind or the mind of man.  This goes for what makes up a man or woman, male or female also.  How do you know what a man or woman feels like?  You do not, anymore than anyone else does.  Just because you seem to have been born male or female does not mean you know what a man or woman feels like. It is what you say it is.

In the end you feel like YOU.  Accept this feeling and get comfortable with it; it is all you will ever have in this lifetime.  No matter what you change on the outside, the inner core remains the same.  The experience will change and this is the point of the material world anyway.  Enjoy the ride and only act with authenticity in your life.  Live with pride!  This is your role in life and it is mine.

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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Celebrate Diversity

Sexual expression comes in many different flavors, and is possibly as unique as the number of people on our beautiful blue planet.   The old school wants us to conform to the old ‘boy meets girl, girl has baby’ scenario and while that does serve its purpose as a race we are moving beyond that.  Relationships are so much more than adding one more baby to the rising population, or even the aspect of replacing the self.  The world may appear to be a binary system with only men and women, but I can assure you it is not. 

Sexual orientation is an aspect of gender that Dr. Carl Bushong describes as “Brain Sex”.  “Our love/sex patterns, and how we relate to others on a social and interpersonal as well as sexual level, often referred to as our “Sexual Orientation”.” (1995) This aspect, like gender identity, is hard wired from birth, which means our brains, being much like a computer, are programmed to be attracted to certain physical attributes, genders and personalities. 

To restrict every person on the planet, all 6.8 Billion +, to being either heterosexual or homosexual is unrealistic.  Instead it is much more feasible that each person on earth has their own unique sexuality which falls into several categories.  The categories as they exist today are, heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, bisexual, and pansexual.  There are a few other words being used but overlap these so I will stick with this list.  Within each category will be a sliding scale so that each person falls somewhere on the scale and is not necessary stuck exactly in that spot, although they will stay within a category. 

Just briefly hetero means opposite sex attraction, homo means same sex attraction, the (a) in asexual means no sexual attraction, the (bi) in bisexual means both sexual attraction, and the (pan) in pansexual means all sexual attraction.  I do not like the term bisexual because it implies there are only two sexes, male and female.  This is the old world paradigm and no longer works (if it ever worked).  Pansexual includes everyone and applies to anyone that is sexual but not strictly attracted to the opposite or same sex.  This term is far more appropriate in today’s society. 

The whole labeling game gets a little absurd after a while because the terms become contradictory and putting people into boxes is both confining and inaccurate. For instance, a transwoman who is attracted to women is lesbian or are they heterosexual since they were born into a male body?  And what about the woman who was attracted to this person not realizing they were transgender?  Does that make them a lesbian?  So what if it does? 

The world is coming out!  We are becoming more aware of gender identity and sexual orientation, which is leading to more understanding and eventually to more acceptance.  I ask only that you stay away from the labels as much as possible and simply love the person.  This is why I like the Pansexual label best because it is defined as “A sexual orientation characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love and/or sexual desire for people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex.” (http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/pansexuality#English, 2010)

Who you are attracted to should not be grounds for discrimination. (In reality there are no grounds for discrimination) Could you imagine if the world judged you on the grounds of your attraction to hair color?  “Oh you like redheads, uggg or ewww”!   Actually Blondes often get joked about and while it may be in fun, it is only fun to the person joking.  Sexual orientation is just another of many category’s that are used to separate or define humans.  Being unique is a gift, and it makes us lovable and desirable.  Just think of a rare diamond or rare flower.  Uniqueness is a desirable trait in our society, so why not extend that to your relationships.  Celebrate differences and LOVE the person – stop separating!  We are One – one big family of Human. 

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Sexual Orientation

Sexual expression comes in many different flavors, and is possibly as unique as the number of people on our beautiful blue planet.   The old school wants us to conform to the old ‘boy meets girl, girl has baby’ scenario and while that does serve its purpose as a race we are moving beyond that.  The world may appear to be a binary system with only men and women, but I can assure you it is not. 

Sexual orientation is an aspect of gender that Dr. Carl Bushong describes as “Brain Sex”.  ‘Our love/sex patterns, and how we relate to others on a social and interpersonal as well as sexual level, often referred to as our “Sexual Orientation”.’  (1995) This aspect, like gender identity, is hard wired from birth, which means our brains, being much like a computer, are programmed to be attracted to certain physical attributes, genders and personalities. 

To restrict every person on the planet, all 6.8 Billion +, to being either heterosexual or homosexual is unrealistic.  Instead it is much more feasible that each person on earth has their own unique sexuality which falls into several categories.  The categories as they exist today are, heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, bisexual, and pansexual.  There are a few other words being used but overlap these so I will stick with this list.  Within each category will be a sliding scale so that each person falls somewhere on the scale and is not necessary stuck exactly in that spot, although they will stay within a category. 

Just briefly hetero means opposite sex attraction, homo means same sex attraction, (a) means no sex attraction, (bi) means both sexual attraction, and pan means all sexual attraction.  I do not like the term bi sexual because it implies there are only two sexes, male and female.  This is the old world paradigm and no longer works (if it ever worked).  Pansexual includes everyone and applies to anyone that is sexual but not strictly attracted to the opposite or same sex. 

The whole labeling game gets a little absurd after a while because the terms become contradictory and putting people into boxes is both confining and inaccurate. For instance, a transwoman who is attracted to women is lesbian or are they heterosexual since they were born into a male body?  And what about the woman who was attracted to this person not realizing they were transgender?  Does that make them a lesbian?  So what if it does? 

The world is coming out!  We are becoming more aware of gender identity and sexual orientation, which is leading to more understanding and eventually to more acceptance.  I ask only that you stay away from the labels as much as possible and simply love the person.  This is why I like the Pansexual label best because it is defined as “A sexual orientation characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love and/or sexual desire for people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex.” (http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/pansexuality#English 2010)

Who you are attracted to should not be grounds for discrimination.  Could you imagine if the world judged you on the grounds of your attraction to hair color?  “Oh you like redheads, uggg or ewww”!   Being gay or lesbian is no different since you have no business what they do behind closed doors.  LOVE the person and stop separating!  We are One, one big family of Human. 

😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Sexual Attraction

Sexual orientation is sometimes confused with gender identity, so I would just like to make it clear that they are different aspects of every human.  It could be that they are aspects for dolphins and apes too, however since I don’t speak those languages I really have no way of knowing. 

The big difference with Sexual orientation (SO) is who we are attracted to and gender identity (GI) is who we feel ourselves to be.  Neither is determined by anyone but yourself, so do not let anyone, doctor, parent, partner or friend tell you your S.O. or G.I.  It is up to you to tell whomever you are comfortable telling and only when you are ready.  Attraction is an innate function of our being that we do not have to do anything to have, however sometimes knowing what it is can be confusing, especially for young adults.   

Friendship attraction is different than sexual attraction and I believe many people confuse them.  I make this statement based on internet sites like yahoo.answers.com.  So many young folks are asking if they are gay or lesbian because they are attracted to a person of the same sex.  As a transsexual woman I can relate to this more than you know.  There are so many beautiful people in the world, it is hard not to be attracted to them.  During the young years when our libido is revving up this is especially so. 

Knowing the difference can be a level of degree.  Meeting someone and having a good feeling inside, but not necessarily intense feelings is the first stage of attraction.  This is common and can be felt with every person you meet.  Finding a person visually attractive, pleasantly smelling, and fun to be around is the second degree which I will call friendship attraction.  Sexual attraction is the overwhelming desire to touch another person, either with your hands, by a kiss, through sexual intercourse or a combination of all the above!  It is important to understand that this attraction is unmistakable, and if you doubt your feelings then they probably fall into the friendship level of attraction.  

My new book will be going into more detail about attraction, love, sex and sexuality, so keep an eye open for that.  I realize that this is an over simplification of the levels involved.  Attraction, like gender can be put on a spectrum scale where one end has repulsion, and range all the way to obsession.  The points of this blog are not to place judgment on where you fall on this scale and instead give yourself permission to love whomever you choose.  Love is the way.

Along with Loving whomever you choose comes responsibility and with that levels of maturity.  Love is a two way street so if “the apple of your eye” is not responding, then what you are feeling is ego love or manmade love.  True love is of Great Spirit or God and when you feel this it is returned to you 10 fold.  This is how you will know when it is true Love.  One of the roughest transitions we go through is maturing enough to know true love when you experience it.  There is no limit to whom or how many times you can have this experience.  Joy is the key and is felt within your heart. 

😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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What if?

What if no one had any gender at all?  We would still be exactly as we are now, but gender would not be a trait.  Sex would still exist.  We would still love one another and have intimate relationships, just without any gender attachments.  There would be no taboos or societal constructs as to moral behavior. 

There would be only one rule, Do no harm.  This is much like the Hippocratic oath, and since this is the only rule, easier to follow.  Another way to think of this rule is “do onto others as you would have done onto you”.  Yes, the Golden Rule is the only rule we need. 

Each person is treated like an equal, no matter what their age, sex, gender identity, race, nationality, abilities, health, religion, behavior, or intelligence.  Just imagine equality!  Complete equality, but also complete diversity.  No two people, animals, places or things are the same.  Some are similar but none are the same.  What would life be like?  Is this truly what we desire?  Why is this not the reality now? Or is it? 

“Imagination is more important than knowledge. For while knowledge defines all we currently know and understand, imagination points to all we might yet discover and create.” Albert Einstein 

The process of dreaming is how our lives are created.  Think back over all the dreams you have had.  Now consider which ones have manifest?  Did these dreams serve your highest good?  This may be why they have not manifest.  The dreams that are in the Highest and Best good of everyone are the ones that materialize.

 Nothing happens unless first we dream.” Carl Sanberg

I am inviting you to dream of the life you wish to be living right now.  Why aren’t you living it?  Consider the possibility that you are living the life of your dreams, only you have not been dreaming very big.  Let go and Let God.

“Imagination will often carry us to worlds that never were. But without it we go nowhere.” Carl Sagan

😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Creative Tools of the Mind

In developing a Spiritual practice there are several tools that are instrumental in creating an open space for growth.  The one I use most is creative visualization and I recommend Shakti Gwain’s book with the same title.  I will summarize here so that you can get an idea of how to use this tool. 

We are taping in to the power of the imagination by creating a vision of that which we desire.  Say you need a new car and so you are visualizing the new car you are desiring, make the vision as real as you can by seeing the shiny gold paint and sleek styling, feeling the soft leather seats and firm steering wheel, and smelling the new car smell and the fresh air blowing in the window as you are driving down a deserted country road.  The more real you make the experience the stronger your emotion of joy becomes and the greater the probability of the experience manifesting.  Put no limits on the manifestation of this experience, simply hold the feeling of knowing that it is true. 

The technique can be used for anything and for instance I used this method to assist my transition from male to female.  I still use it often by visualizing my body as I know it is, I can feel my womb and I hold a vision of the rams horns which make up my internal sex organs of the coiled ovaries (the horns), and the head of the ram (my uterus), sits behind the mouth of the ram (my vagina)!  I visualize this as often as I remember and it helps to set up a schedule for meditation at least once a day.  Use this technique with every aspect of transition, voice, breasts, hair, face, etc. 

To energize the visualization place yourself in society interacting with others and if you are so inclined creative visualization works very well in loving relationships and sexual encounters.  How many times have you been making love and think of someone else?  What happens to this relationship down the road?  Be careful how you use visualization and intend that it be in the Highest and Best good of yourself, your partner and everyone everywhere. 

The secret to making this work is to ignore what appears to be true and know without a doubt that which is true!  Reason with yourself if you like and explain to yourself why you know this is true.  When you have a deep experience that pleases you greatly, use your memory to revisit this experience over and over.  These are each tools of the mind; imagination, perception, will, reason, memory and intuition.  Consider how you use these six tools of the mind and be aware of the possibilities!  If we only realized just how powerful we are in creating the life we desire, the world would be a much more joyous place.  🙂  Sequoia Elisabeth

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