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Variety Is The Spice Of Life

Perspective is as diverse as the observer.  Each individual is unique on to themself.  And with that said consciousness also tends to group with like perspectives attracting like.  Thus we have Tennis Clubs, Christian bookstores, and Alcoholics Anonymous.  Gender and Sexuality are no different.  Those of like mind tend to socialize together with each person adding their own unique perspective.

Gender Identity is one’s own personal, inner perspective of who they are in terms of gender, i.e. man, woman, or other.  Gender is best described as a spectrum or scale.  Just as a rainbow has many colors, shades and grades so does gender.  This also works for sexual orientation, while physical sex is more concrete, however even this is a spectrum too.  Human beings are complex creatures indeed!

When a child is born the doctor looks between the legs and declares male, female or gee I don’t know!  It is not till DNA chromosome and other medical testing is done does the doctor know if the child is truly male, female or intersex.  The external genitalia are sometimes ambiguous, or not fully developed.  The genetic, physical and mental traits this child is born with are the filter through which they see the world – their perspective!  As this child grows into adulthood the filter is constantly being shaped and polished by the world.  The amazing fact is that it is less the world outside this person that shapes them than it is the individual’s responses, reactions, and thoughts.

The important factor to understand and always remember is that each person is individual and offers something unique to every situation.  It is your job as an individual to listen and learn who this person is and then honor them for the uniqueness they represent.  Accept them for their perspective and refrain from pushing yours on them.  This is a free will society so you are certainly free to offer your perspective and in fact you are obligated to do so, however whether and what others do with this perspective is entirely up to them.

Some may see you as a crossdressing gay male, others as transgender woman, all while you identify as a transsexual.  Others may simply think that you are crazy.  Each person will see you as they choose and understand.  This does not change who you are, although it may have you questioning who you are, which is a good thing, because part of the human experience is constantly questioning reality.

One last point here is groups that think alike can sometimes have beliefs that seem opposed to other groups.  If some believe that chromosomes and genitalia determine a person’s gender then it is their right to believe that.  It is other group’s obligation to share their perspective so that each individual can more intelligently determine which group they are aligned with.  This is not about right or wrong, because that does not exist.  It is about expressing individual uniqueness in a way that is constructive to the greater whole of society and life on earth.  We all know that variety is the spice of life!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Appearances Can Be Deceiving

Transition from male to female or vice versa is a drastic physical change and is often difficult not only for the person transitioning but for the entire family and if the person is famous then the entire community.  The further removed this person is the easier it is to accept, however when it is a person you admire or even idolize it becomes a whole different story.

Why are things so difficult you may ask?  Because each person has a concept of whom they think that person is.  You know your brother, right?  Or whatever role that person plays in your life, you think that is who this person is, but is that reality?  If your brother becomes your sister or your father becomes your second mom does this lessen the relationship?  How does this reflect on you?

The pride cometh before the fall!  Maybe the biggest issue is that your ego is bruised from the whole affair.  Someone in your family is different and this embarrasses you.  You did not even know this person whom you were so close to and oh my goodness this could rub off on me!  Does this mean I am queer too?  A member of your “team” has fallen in your eyes… or have they?

Maybe what is amiss is the mistaken notion that families know each other better than the rest of the world knows them.  Maybe everything happens for a reason and contains a gift for all involved.  Maybe each person need be on the lookout for gifts and when drastic events such as one family member transitioning occur this is the greatest gift of all.

The lessons are many and are different for each person involved, however a few themes are “we are not our bodies, we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience, do not judge a book by its cover, and Love has no limits.”  The human race is in a pivotal stage of evolution.  The physical body is being surpassed by the mental and Spirit.  It is a case of the jar no longer containing all the juice.  The body no longer defines who we are (if it ever did).

Appearances can be deceiving!  Just because someone looks big and strong, does this mean they are?  Or maybe they are beautiful to the eye; does this mean they have depth of character and compassion?  The saying, “do not judge a book by its cover” applies here.  However just because you have read the book (think you know your brother) does not mean that someone else could not interpret the story differently.

Love has no limits!  Unconditional Love is the only true Love!  This means that no matter what this person does that you still Love them and accept them for who they believe themselves to be!  It means you do not judge them for doing something you disagree with or goes against your moral values.  It does not mean that you must join them!  Pain comes from resistance and is often connected to ego; it is not Love!

So what is a person to do when it comes to family, friends or enemies?  The spiritual teachings tell us to Love thy neighbor as thyself.  See beyond the “cover” or physical body and perceive the soul, because when you see each person as a brilliant soul, child of God.  The world changes… it becomes Heaven.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Be The Change

What is this thing called transition and why do I care?  The basic term is fairly simple and broad in meaning.  It simply means a change from one state of being to another.  The key word here is being.  This is a state of being not doing.  Doing is not involved in transition.  There is nothing you can “do” to transition.  As you be that which you are, that which you are reveals itself. 

Once you think about this for a few minutes you will realize the profoundness of this statement.  I will repeat it so you can get your head around this, there is nothing you can “do” to transition!  It matters not what type of transition you are experiencing either.  The transition can be gender related, work related, life style related or whatever.  Transition is about being, not doing.   This can appear to be shifting, and you may have different experiences and points of view, but your essence does not change.

Mahatma Gandhi is quoted as saying, “Be the change you desire to see in the world”.  So what does this mean?  It means that your state of being is a product of your desires.  If you are being a woman then you are one and what you “do” follows this.   If you move to a new home far away does this change your state of being?  If you wear the clothes of the opposite sex does this change who you are being?

What I am saying here is transition involves a lot more than just changing your behavior, location or circumstances.  Transition is a change in being-ness at the very core of who you are.  As an example the transgender community often talks about all the physical changes involved, but rarely do they discuss the deep inner changes required to fully transition.  Getting SRS or Breast augmentation does not change who you are or who you are being!

Cis-gender women and men rarely even consider their gender, because it is a perfectly natural state of being to them.  To a transgender person however their state of being seems off and they desire to change or transition to a state that is harmonious.  In order to fully transition then a person must change from one state of being to another.

Gender Transition is more than changing appearances; it is an awareness of the inner self and then simply being it.  The exterior conforms to the state of being.  This comes back to what we discussed earlier, As above so below. (see last blog)  The physical, mental, and spiritual are connected and as one changes the others follow.  This happens in the order of Spiritual, Mental and then Physical.  This means that it is not a conscious choice to change genders, but it is a Spiritual one!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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As Above So Below

As above so below; as below so above!  What exactly does this mean?  Why is it important?  I have been thinking about this Universal Law of Correspondence and how it relates to Gender Transition.  So let’s start with the first question, what exactly does this mean?

The Universal Law of Correspondence tells us there is “harmony, agreement and correspondence” between the physical, mental and spiritual realms. There is no separation since everything in the Universe, including you, originates from the One Source. The same pattern is expressed on all planes of existence from the smallest electron to the largest star and vice versa. All is One.

The why is this question important, is a no brainer!  This is the essence of our being; the nature of our very existence!  “It is possible that each of us is a function of what the whole cosmos is doing at a point called here and now. In effect, each of us IS the whole universe looking at itself through our eyes. The universe is conscious and self-aware, a.k.a. God, and this awareness and consciousness is within each of us. In other words, what happened to Jesus was NOT a unique experience that only happened to one man in all history and prehistory, but something that EACH of us can experience directly when we tune in to the consciousness that is the base of our existence.” (Watson, Chris 2007)

Just how this quote (As above so below; as below so above) relates to gender transition is the meat of this blog.  As always I would love to hear your take on how this relates to gender transition.  Here is my take on it.  We are experiencing an enlightenment on the scale of Jesus, Buddha, Babaji and many others.  We are realizing that gender is a human construct and simply does not exist at higher frequencies of existence.  It is necessary in this world to facilitate propagation and fully experience the duality of this world.  Gender supplies balance in a world that requires it, but is rarely in balance.

You may remember me saying, I am a Spiritual Being having a human experience.  This explains this law quite succinctly and adds profound meaning to the saying, as above so below.  This means that here in the below world we are coming into realization of the Oneness with above.  As we do this we experience enlightenment!  I am one with my creator, and in fact I am my creator experiencing a unique aspect of myself, known to me as (insert name).

Gender transition is me knowing myself as more than a simple body, singular dimension, limited animal in a cruel world.  Everyone in this world is experiencing the opposite of who they really are!  As we awaken to the Truth we are set free!  Each person awakens in their own way experiencing life from a unique perspective.

The physical changes experienced in this world do manifest in the higher frequency realms because we are all connected in Oneness.  Seeing the perfection in this is my goal.  What I do in this world impacts my evolution in many dimensions, just as what I do there affects me here!  I am BOTH male & female and Neither!  Love is the answer.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Transgender and beyond

It is time we revisited Transgender, Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation so that everyone understands the meaning of certain words and concepts.  The Unitarian Universalist Church as a wonderful site (beside my own site of course) that gives a good overview of these principles, so please visit by clicking here after you have read this blog of course, lol.

First and foremost it is important to understand that gender and sex are different things and have multiple meanings.  Gender is your self-concept of who you are man, woman, transgender, androgynous or other.  Each individual is born with this, but is not aware of it till the ages of 3-6.  If a discrepancy is perceived then this awareness is often suppressed or denied in order to fit in.  I pray this is changing and from what I have observed it is.  Children are coming out and telling their parents who are actually respecting their concerns.  Cisgender is a term that describes “people who are not trans or gender variant—in other words, those whose gender identities, presentations, and behavior “match” (according to the gender binary) the sex they were assigned at birth.” (UUA.org)

Transgender and/or Trans is a person appearing or attempting to be a member of the opposite sex, such as a transsexual or habitual crossdresser.  This term is often as an umbrella term to include the entire community of individuals who cross gender boundaries on a consistent basis.  For more on terminology I cover it extensively at this link.

Sexual Orientation is also hard wired at birth and does not change, although many people now days are bisexual or pansexual meaning they are open to the individuals personality and not so concerned with physical sex.  A homosexual is attracted to their own sex and will not consider being with the opposite sex, just as a heterosexual is only interested in the opposite sex.  With Transgender individuals these definitions get blurry, so it is up to the individual to identify.  Make no assumptions because each person is different and may change their mind from time to time, especially if they are young and exploring.  The term sex can also mean physical or biological sex.

The traits of the Aquarian Age person is that of being bisexual and androgynous which explains much of the trans-revolution we are experiencing today!   We are moving from the end of the Piscean era to the new era of Aquarian!  I have spoken of this in other blogs and find that this explains much of what I have been experiencing.  I have decided not to get too drastic with my transition because I can see the bigger picture!  I am exactly the person I was meant to be straight from birth!

Does this mean I was not to transition?  Of course not!  That is the purpose of these times and my life is a mirror of the greater whole just as your life is!  All I am saying is I have chosen not to have sex change surgery.  Your path is up to you and if you have questions I am happy to assist!  Please visit the website below and explore the Gender Learning Center.  It goes into gender at length as well as sexual orientation and the different aspects of each of these.  The eBook “Sex and Sexuality” is available free on this website also.  The eBook is an extensive look at gender, sex, orientation, sexuality, and more.  So please give it a look see.   The website below lists the info in several formats -video, powerpoint, written, quiz, and eBook, so you can find what works best for your learning method.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Law of Vibration Revisited

This 3rd Universal Law is an elemental and immutable Universal Law, meaning that it is fixed and will not change.  Vibration is the fundamental nature of all energy in the Universe.  Transition is the process of shifting this vibrational frequency on a fundamental and permanent level.  Some change is temporary and other changes are permanent, so be aware how this Law works so that you may fully harness its benefits.

“The Law of Vibration: “Nothing rests; everything moves; everything vibrates”. The third and last of the immutable Universal Laws, tells us that “the whole universe is but a vibration”. Science has confirmed that everything in the Universe, including you, is pure energy vibrating at different frequencies. The axiom that “like energy attracts like energy”, upon which the Law of Attraction is based, has its foundation in this Law. Everything that we experience with our five physical senses is conveyed through vibrations. The same applies to the mental realm. Your thoughts are vibrations. All your emotions are vibrations where “unconditional love” is the highest and most subtle of the emotional vibrations and “hate” is the densest and most base. You can learn to control your mental vibrations at will. This is true thought power.” (Kotsos 2011)

There are some wonderful videos online that go into the specifics of energy or vibrational frequency, although most are over simplifications.  This is a complex process that exists at many levels from quarks to Universes.  Movement is our nature, so understand this and work with it.  The density of the object is relative to the vibrational frequency of the molecules within the object.  The slower the vibration the more dense it is.  Energy is neither created nor destroyed it merely changes form.  The process of forming diamonds from coal takes immense pressure and heat (two kinds of energy) combined to shift the vibrational frequency of the coal to that of a diamond (Lower to Higher Energy).  Man has figured out how to create diamonds through external mechanical means using intense heat and pressure energy.  We are becoming Masters of our environment.  With this awesome power comes responsibility.  This same power can destroy us as we have witnessed in the Atomic Bomb.

Thought is energy that vibrates and combines with the molecules of our body to manifest shift in expression.  All healing and changes in appearance begin as thought.  The scale of this thought determines its power.  Aging for instance is a Universal Conscious thought, so everyone on earth ages.  In order to forgo aging one must vibrate above the frequency of this Universal Consciousness.  Spiritual Masters can do this, and many have done so.  You too can do this!  Your physical structure can be changed by aligning your bodily vibration with that which you desire.  This of course applies to any healing, cosmetic changes, gender transition, body building, etc.  You may have heard the saying, “If you wish to be a millionaire then think like one”.  The same applies to whatever it is you desire; Be It.  In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, “Be the Peace you desire in the world”.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Ps. The word “Be” implies both action and non-action.  The idea behind gender transition is to be yourself and allow your inner self to emerge, by simply “being”.  Of course, since you were born in the opposite body, action is required to embody this “being”.  It is important to remember that God is all, and has no gender.  You are an expression of God!

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Law of Polarity Revisited

This 4th of 7 Universal Law is one that we face every day and when we understand this Law and how to transmute it so many doors open that lead to Joy, Peace and Love.  On the transition journey seeing the polarity, knowing that they are two parts of a whole and embracing both parts leads us to freedom.

“The Law of Polarity: “Everything is dual, everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree”. The first of the mutable Universal Laws tells us that there are two sides to everything. Things that appear as opposites are in fact only two extremes of the same thing. For instance heat and cold may appear to be opposites at first glance, but in truth they are simply varying degrees of the same thing. The same applies to love and hate, peace and war, positive and negative, good and evil, yes and no, light and darkness, energy and matter. You can transform your thoughts from hate to love, from fear to courage by consciously raising your vibrations. This is what in the ancient Hermetic Teachings is called the Art of Polarization.

Neutralizing the Law of Polarity: This Principle of Duality may appear to be very real in your life but it operates only in the physical and mental realms, not in the spiritual realm where All is One. As it says in the Bhagavad-Gita “God is Above the Opposites”. By always placing the all-powerful, all-knowing Great Spirit of which you are a part behind your every thought, statement and action, and by always focusing on the “good”, even when things appear to be going “bad”, then in time you will neutralize the Law of Polarity such that it ceases to operate in your life.” (Kotsos 2011)

Relating this Law to gender transition, male and female are parts of the whole and when you see this transition becomes so much easier.  Take a paper sack and turn it inside out, notice the similarities and the differences.  Now turn your paper sack into a plastic bag.  Having difficulty with that?  Paper and plastic come from different elements and are thus not the same.  We are able to transition from male to female or female to male because each is a pole of the same thing, Human.  We are not turning coal into gold here; instead we are turning the sack inside out.

Focus on embracing both parts of the whole and putting them in place respective to your personal gender identity.  In essence you are showing the world who you are, not who they expect to see.  This is done by Loving all of your body, not just the part you identify with.  How can you only Love a part of God?  Or Love only a part of your Partner?  True Love and complete transition are total Love of all aspects of who you are, good or bad!

🙂  Sequoia Elisabeth

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Ps. When I use capital letters with words like Love, I refer to Divine Love, not ego love.  If you don’t know the difference read my eBooks or write to me, I am happy to explain.

Pss. Know that you have free will, so changing any aspect of your body is your choice and does not affect Polarity, you are always both male and female.  It is simply a matter of which is being expressed.

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The Law of Gender Revisited

We are revisiting the 7 Universal Laws which I first blogged about a year ago.  These are vital to understanding the Universe and working with life, instead of against it.

There are 7 Universal Laws that apply equally to all things in this universe.  The sacred teachings of all traditions touch on these Universal Laws in some way.  To better understand these laws and how to apply these to our lives the next seven blogs will be a countdown of 7 Universal Laws.  Knowing the law is one thing, applying this law is another thing altogether.  Add these tools to your notebook so that the transition journey is all the more fulfilling.

Tania Kotsos in The Seven Universal Laws Demystified lists the seventh law as,

The Law of Gender: “Gender is in everything; everything has its Masculine and Feminine Principles”. The last of the seven Universal Laws is evident throughout creation in the so-called opposite sexes found not only in human beings but also in plants, minerals, electrons and magnetic poles to name but a few. Everything and everyone contains both the masculine and feminine elements. Among the outward expressions of Feminine qualities are love, patience, intuition and gentleness and of Masculine qualities are energy, self-reliance, logic and intellect. Know that within every woman; lay all the latent qualities of a man and within every man those of a woman. When you know this you will know what it means to be complete.”

Many people would consider this law to include the duality of nature, however this law is about gender only and duality is considered in a different law.  This law is about the whole and the aspects of that whole.  To express gender fully one must embrace both masculine and feminine energy.  The fullness of being contains both.

Let us consider this in regards to people.  A man has both energies and expresses masculine energy primarily.  Situations will arise that he will need to express feminine energy, for instance while caring for children.  In an emergency situation where people are injured and swift action is needed to save lives and respond to environmental stresses the man will need both masculine energy and feminine energy.  The injured need the feminine energy of caring and compassion while the swift action and problem solving skills of masculinity will also be necessary.  Without both he is not going to be as effective in his response.  A woman in the same situation has the same energies at her disposal, but will most likely tackle the situation differently.  It is simply a matter of using the same energies differently.

Society needs to get over its identification with men are this way and woman that.  There are no rules, unless you make them or accept the rules others offer you!  Allow these energies to flow naturally through you and know that all is well.

I will point out here that gender identity is how the brain is wired and follows the same Law of Gender.  Transgender individuals are wired such that the traditional male/masculine or female/feminine is reversed.  There is nothing “wrong” however; it merely is what it is.  Each person is comfortable expressing themself in one fashion or the other.  The physical body need not dictate how the individual expresses themself.  The important thing is that each individual feels the freedom to allow the Law of Gender to express through them as it needs to.

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Who Are You?

Identity is an important aspect of human life for several reasons.  It is how we all relate to one another and the world around us, it is how we discover our self, and it is how we discover God.  I am not sure we ever really “know” God, especially in one human lifetime.  Unity in Gender Diversity is a website that celebrates this journey of self discovery from the perspective of one individual.

UGD has two main parts, the Gender Learning Center and the Spiritual Learning Center.  Each explores an important aspect of what I call the Journey of Love, which is really a journey to discover the self, God and all that is.  Along this journey identity changes and evolves to the point where deep insights are discovered.  It really never stops though and when this lifetime ends another one begins and the process is repeated in a slightly different way.  Some say that when you lay down at night you die and are reborn the next day in a slightly different way.  I have this experience often, so maybe I can say I have lived many lifetimes within this one lifetime, maybe we can all say this!

I love the infinite expressions of life that constantly shift and change, but in essence never change.  No matter what you identify with, be it an object, animal, or person, the core essence never changes.  Thus the saying, As much as things change, they stay the same.  Meaning all things are Unified as One in infinite variety.

In essence we are all made of the same thing and this includes everything you can sense around you, the people you meet, the chair you sit on, the food you eat, the stars you see in the sky, the ground you walk upon, everything!  Carl Sagan called it “Star Stuff”, Plato called it “Aether” and Aristotle called it the “Fifth Element”.  (Wikipedia.org)

This knowing can make your life both interesting and fulfilling.  Since all things are of the same source, no harm can really take place.  Things appear to change all the time, the experience is constant change!  This is the way it was meant to be.  This is how the source discovers itself!  All that I am not, leads to what I am.

The Journey then is “notness”.  It is being what you are not so that you can truly experience who you are!  I pray this means something to you, if need be please read over the website and discover who you are not.

Ok, I will spill the beans right here… all that you can see, touch, taste, hear, and smell is NOT who you are.  You are not your pet cat, your favorite Barbie doll, or even your car,  nor are you, your name, a man, blonde, short, stupid, wealthy, etc…  At some point you will identify with just about everything that crosses your path in this life… it is NOT who you are.

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Gender Surgery Other Options

On the topic of surgery related to gender transition there are many options these days.  Each person will have different desires and resources so this blog is very general.  Be sure to discuss more specific concerns with your gender therapist or contact me.  I am happy to answer questions.

Gender Dysphoria is the medical term assigned to transgender and transsexual individuals who are uncomfortable with their birth sex.  The issue is the gender identity and the physical sex are non-congruent (do not match).  Thus the new medical term of Gender Incongruency used now.

The treatment for this has evolved over the years and it has been found that while the genitalia are important other areas of the body are even more important in successful gender transition.  The face and breasts are key attributes of being female or male!  So it makes sense to alter these first and foremost to alleviate the dysphoria.

It is also important to remember the reason for any gender surgery is to alleviate the dysphoria and align the individual with their perceived gender identity.  Everyone deserves to be comfortable in their own skin!  Facial Feminization Surgery (FFS) and Breast Augmentation Surgery are two methods of treating Gender Incongruency which may be more important than even the GRS, although some individuals have it all.

Some of the other more minor surgeries being done are trachea shave, liposuction, buttocks enhancement, rhinoplasty, hair implants, botox, and lip enhancement.  The list is only limited by your imagination!

For the Female to Male transition breast reduction and hysterectomy are the important surgeries.  FtoM transgender transition well with CHT and some only have the “top” surgery (breast reduction) depending on the level of dysphoria.  Removing the ovaries is important to CHT making treatment more effective.

Another option of treatment for the MtoF is Orchiectomy.  This is the surgical removal of the testis without any cosmetic changes.  This procedure is inexpensive comparatively speaking at around $3,000-4,000 USD, it may be available for less depending on the surgeon and geographical location.  The purpose of this surgery is to remove the production of testosterone and thus eliminate the need for anti-androgens in the transition thus avoiding the cost and side effects.  Estrogen is still used in varying amounts depending on the timeline of transition.  The first three years are critical for a successful transition, so it is vital to remain on estrogen continuously for that period.   Those who are on and off CHT do not feminize well.  They are left requiring surgery for all their feminizing.  (The patient is taken off all CHT several weeks before surgery and then resume afterwards depending on doctors orders, this is unavoidable and has minimal long term effects, i.e. the benefits outweigh the costs/risks)

The CHT when used properly and as early as possible will preclude the need for FFS and Breast Augmentation in most cases.  So these surgeries are mostly for individuals who transition later in life.  Great care must be exercised in deciding the need for surgery!  It is a trap that many are falling prey to now days with the explosion of cosmetic surgeries being done.  The addictive qualities of almost instant gratification are not to be underestimated.  Proceed with caution.

The transition journey is about learning to love yourself for who you are.  Drastic surgeries are helpful in some cases; however it is easy to abuse technology!  It is recommended that gender therapy be sought out first before any thoughts of surgery are seriously considered.  Once you are sure surgery is right for you do the research to find a surgeon that can deliver the results you desire.

The number of qualified surgeons specializing in gender surgeries is growing all the time, so look locally and consider all your options.  Just as in any surgery consider your motives, the consequences and the costs (not just money).

Imagine the results you desire and stay focused on this.  You can also use your imagination to decide what exactly you desire, although actual experience has no substitute.  If you feel like being with the same (birth) sex then do so and then decide if you desire GRS or other surgery.  Be as clear as you can because there is no turning back!  (Even though some have tried).   When you are intimate with your partner how do you feel?  Is this different than other times?

Blessings on your Journey of Love!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Gender Surgery

Continuing from the previous blog post, doing research concerning transition and Genital Reassignment Surgery (GRS) is very important.  The older term SRS (Sexual Reassignment Surgery) is still used by some.  Please review this page in the Gender Learning Center (Click here) for assistance in your research.

SRS/GRS is not as complicated as one would think.  The procedure has been done now for over 50 years and lately the surgeons are getting very good at it.  Some of the issues to be concerned with are logistics, cost and convenience.  The skill of the surgeon is a very hot topic and while this is important, it is not as big an issue as it would seem.  Depending on where the surgery is done, most countries have strict standards doctors must abide by, especially since surgery and medical care has become a commodity that brings in big money.  Thailand and India are emerging as world leaders in this market so they definitely deserve a close look and your consideration when it comes to choosing your surgeon and location.   The price you pay is many hours in a plane traveling across the world to save a few thousand dollars.  When you can barely sit down, being in an airplane for 20+ hours is not appealing.  Of course there are options to cope with this such as meds and cushions.  From what I hear it is worth the trip.

The USA has several very good surgeons now doing SRS/GRS, so look closely at the local options.  Most gender therapists will know who they are as do the gender support groups.   I will not list them here because I would leave some out and that is not my purpose here.  The informational sites I list on my website do include several surgeons, however I chose them on the basis of information provided, not on how good the surgeon is.  If you have questions or need help finding someone close to you I am happy to assist.  See the website Unity in Gender Diversity.

Logistics includes things like travel, housing, post care, assistance during recovery, preparations before surgery, documentation (passport, proper ID, surgery letters from your therapist), and medical records.  Each surgeon will have requirements for you to meet, and they give ample advanced notice in most cases, however it is prudent to research this, so you are prepared.  Call it peace of mind.

Cost is an issue that we all are acutely aware of.  Many options exist however it is recommended that you get references from the surgeon you choose and make sure the location has the resources to provide safe and effect treatment in the event of an unexpected emergency.   The costs include, travel, housing, food, surgeon fees, hospital fees, operating room fees, anesthesia fees, and medicines.  Most surgeons have package deals so make sure exactly what you are getting and what will be extra.  The recovery time is at least two weeks and many take as much as six weeks, so another cost is time off of work.

Convenience is the last but not least concern when choosing a surgeon and location.  It is not to be under estimated. From the many post op transsexuals I have talked with, being able to travel a short distance to the surgery center and home again is a real plus.  The horror stories of being on a plane for hours and hours is something to consider carefully.  Take into consideration your age, possible side trips, who will be with you, and your travel experience.  Those who are seasoned travelers will be more inclined to go far to save a little money.  I also hear that sightseeing in places like Thailand can make it all worthwhile.  Don’t rule out locations such as Europe, Mexico, Caribbean, India, or Canada.  Check with your local Gender support group for those surgeons who are close to you and be sure to check credentials and review customer satisfaction of others who have experienced their services.

Sequoia Elisabeth

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Trans-Gender Expectations

The usual course of transition for a Male to Female (MtoF) Transgender is to first dress as a woman and to socialize with peers prior to taking the major step of CHT (Contra-Hormone Therapy).  (HRT is hormone replacement therapy and since transition is about change and not replacement this term does not apply to the trans journey). Socializing as a woman is very different than as a man so getting used to that aspect is greatly beneficial in both determining if you desire to progress (going full time) and gaining the skills necessary to be successful.  Many things will come naturally because they are innate such as mannerisms, emotional behavior including needs and desires, and mental processes.  The learned traits may not be natural such as movement, social expectations and relationships.  Gender transition is basically the process of breaking down learned “male” persona and allowing the natural female self to emerge.  This will be easy for some; however, it is a big road block for most.  Only 5% of those who attempt transition fully complete the journey from male to female; the larger percentage end up somewhere in between, which for many is perfectly acceptable and may in fact have been the goal all along.

It is important to be patient with the transition process and allow these things to occur naturally through counseling, feminine coaching, and voice therapy.  A skilled gender therapist/counselor guides the path and provides a third person perspective to facilitate getting in touch with the authentic self.  The feminine coach is valuable in helping to get in touch with feminine energy and develop its expression.  I must say the first time I felt my feminine energy vs. my masculine energy it was a revelation!  Being aware of the body’s energy and what it projects is very important.  To truly express feminine energy do not project energy instead simply center in the divine feminine and this energy will attract others.  I have posted a link on the transgender links page of Unity in Gender Diversity to The Yin Project.  The feminine coaching here is highly recommended.

Voice therapy is vital to MtoF transition.  Start this process as soon as possible, even before transitioning if you are planning that far ahead.  I also recommend getting electrolysis started as soon as possible and depending on your age, I recommend doing laser first to clear the dark hairs and let the electrologist focus on the light hairs.  It will take 6-10 laser treatments.  Don’t let the electrologist tell you that laser is not permanent because I know that it is from experience.   There is a page on this website that goes over the whole process of transition planning.  Expect laser to work and with the proper hormone regimen the face is the only area that needs treatment unless you are unusually hairy and I know that some men are.  Not to worry, this is a part of the journey, so plan for it.

The hormones do a remarkable job of reducing body hair and stopping male pattern hair loss.  Find a doctor who specializes in CHT for transgender/transsexual persons, because doing this yourself or using a doctor with little or no experience is inviting failure.  Getting periodic lab testing done to monitor liver function and other factors is vital to maintain a healthy transition.  Plus working with a skilled professional assures the desired results.  It can be done on your own, but that is contrary to what this whole journey is about in my opinion, which is to fully and completely experience the transition.  This journey can be lethal so take it very seriously!

Many transgender/transsexual persons want to jump straight to the result and if that was meant to be then don’t you think you would have been female from birth?  I can hear all the opinions flying as I write this which is great, remember this is from my experience and if you desire a different experience then make it so.

Surgery is a step that many desire and is the only known successful method of treating severe gender dysphoria.  It is not for everyone though and will be addressed in the next blog.  So stay tuned 😉

😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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The Gender Sexual Connection

Sex: The physical sexual organs, what is between the legs. This can change due to sexual reassignment surgery; includes male, female and intersex.

Gender: Separate and different from an individual‘s physical sex or sexual orientation (hetero, homo, bi, or asexual), it is an individual‘s perception of the inner self as man, woman or some combination of both, transgender.

Operating from the above definitions we now know that gender and sex are very different and yet from experience we also know that they are intimately connected.  How do we work out this connection?  Is it meaningful?

Sexual Orientation is the trait we give the most attention because it involves others.  Who are you attracted to?  Why?  Does gender really have anything to do with this attraction?  How important is appearance?  What about body parts?  Some people are turned on by toes and if this is the case does it matter what is between their legs?   What if ears are a turn on, the same question applies.  You are probably saying that what it leads to is very important and this is where the genitalia come in.  I agree completely.

In the transgender world we offer a contradiction to this process.  Our parts do not match the majority of the human race.  So do we have GRS to conform or is it more practical than that, simply to enjoy sex in a manner which supports our mental functions?  Many transgender women have surgery just because they cannot bear having male genitalia.  It is like having a large growth on your body which causes you distress.  It could just as well be a tumorous growth!  In this case having surgery is medically necessary, as much as any person with a tumorous growth.  When the result is a happy well adjusted individual post op it is hard to argue against GRS/SRS.

“As an effective treatment for a specific mental disorder, sex reassignment surgery is as deserving of public funding as any other psychiatric treatment.” states Dr. Ray Blanchard, head of the Clinical Sexology Program at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health. (Egale Canada ©2011)

“The reported 68%-86% overall success rates for sex reassignment surgery must be viewed cautiously; the lack of long-term follow-up studies makes these statistics misleading. There is evidence suggesting that some gender dysphoric patients benefit primarily from sex reassignment surgery. Most such patients, however, are secondary transsexuals who can benefit from various modes of psychotherapy. Sex reassignment surgery should only be considered as the last resort for a highly select group of diagnosed gender dysphoric patients. As physicians learn new ways to diagnose and treat transsexualism, either sex reassignment surgery will be abandoned as a routine treatment modality or new predictive variables for choosing suitable patients for sex reassignment surgery will be established.” (Lothstein, Am J Psychiatry 1982; 139:417-426)  The above quote is a bit out dated now and this author finds it interesting that its prediction is far from correct.  SRS has grown in popularity as surgical techniques have been perfected.  It is now the best treatment known for severe gender dysphoria.  The question remains, what if the dysphoria is mild?  What constitutes mild?   This is between the patient and their counselor or therapist.

The final point or question I wish to raise is, does sexual orientation figure into ones decision to have surgery or not?  From the clinical perspective, the answer would be no.  Dysphoria is separate from sexual behavior and needs to be treated regardless of sexual orientation.  The practical side of the issue is a personal one.  Transsexuals often start off in same sex relationships and to have surgery would destroy the identities associated with the relationship, so unless both individuals are flexible the relationship ends.  This is even the case in heterosexual relationships since it would be homosexual after surgery.  Those relationships that do survive often forgo sex altogether.

One of the most difficult aspects of the transgender journey is relationships and the changes they must go through along the way.  The losses are often heart breaking, but this is not necessarily a bad thing.  It can lead to more loving and authentic relationships!  The road has many potholes, so it is best to proceed with caution.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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To Be Or Not To Be

To have GRS (Genital Reassignment Surgery) or not, is sort of like the question “to be or not to be”?  It is a choice all gender variant individuals must answer.  Of course we could get into the terminology game and define the different stages of the transition journey, but we will not. (Please see how I define terms here) Take me for example, (because I don’t like to speak for others) I have identified as no less than 7 gender identities including man, woman, androgynous, crossdresser, transvestite, transgender, and transsexual.  I am not sure many others even exist, except for maybe queer or genderqueer and in my day that was a very undesirable label.  I hated that label almost as much as being called Lurch.  To say I have an identity crisis is an understatement; my life is an identity crisis!  Or is it?

The reality is life is always growing, changing, and experimenting with various forms of existence and humans are no different.  How many people do you know who are happy with only one outfit, one flavor of cake, one of anything in their lives?  It sounds absurd to me to even think of living in the same house all your life, from birth to death.  Many have done this and that is the beauty of nature.  If it is possible then it has occurred at least once.

Variety is the spice of life!  So how you identify is up to you and it does not have to be set in stone.  Crossdressers identify as their birth sex, but like being the other from time to time, so they dress in the clothes of the opposite sex.  To me this is not necessarily a gender identity issue.  It certainly is not an illness or disorder.  It could however be classified as a fetish.  The point being here is these individuals have no desire to have GRS.

I like to think of gender as a rainbow or sliding scale.  The scale runs from male to female and has many degrees in between.   It looks like the graph to the right.  The other factor which confuses things is a person can fluctuate on the scale from day to day and even moment to moment.

So how does one decide that GRS is right for them?  This is the million dollar question!  It is not a decision you can reverse.  So taking it seriously is highly advised.  Getting in tune with your inner feelings and experimenting with different lifestyles and roles is important in reaching this decision.  How do you feel most comfortable?  Are you sure?  Is is always this way or does it fluctuate?  If it fluctuates to any degree then maybe you should wait on GRS.  I have seen several different statistics indicating that most GRS candidates are happy post op and the numbers of people feeling they had made a mistake are few in comparison.  WPATH guidelines were design just for the purpose of assuring only true transsexuals or severe gender dysphoric individuals get the surgery.

So what do you do if you are in the middle somewhere?  Gender Dysphoric but only mildly and able to live in the birth sexes gender role.  This is a choice for the individual ultimately, but a professional specializing in gender issues should be consulted for at least 3 months and preferably for a year or more.  From my experience it is often other issues that depress the individual making gender dysphoria a secondary condition.  Again this is why it is so important to have professional help.

Next time we will discuss sexual orientation and its role in the GRS question if it has one which I feel it does.  Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation are different, yet connected, like much of life!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Gender Diversity

What does this mean?  The title of this website is Unity in Gender Diversity so it may help to have a concept as to what this means.  In this blog I will break it down into each component so you have a deep understanding of the message behind this title.

First of all, Unity is self explanatory.  It means Oneness and interconnectedness of all things.  You are intimately connected to every aspect of your life like a bubble of sea foam on the surf is connected to the ocean.  Separation is a concept, not a reality.  The reality is Unity.

Gender is also a concept which has been created by society.  The reality is gender has several aspects some of which are fluid and some are not.  Sexual expression or human sex includes – male, female, and intersex.  However sex is NOT gender!  Gender is an individual‘s perception of the inner self as man, woman, or some combination of both, transgender.  Gender and sex are hardwired into the brain at birth, however what is not hardwired is social conditioning and this accounts for much of our behavior.  (For more in depth explanation, please read – Sex and Sexuality)

At birth each child is labeled as male or female and in a few cases intersex.  So society treats this child according to certain unspoken guidelines, boys are treated with privilege, while girls are pampered and the intersex child is often treated as a mistake or disease.  The fact about intersex children is simply that they are a natural variance.  There is nothing “wrong” with these children!  Unfortunately what often happens is the physician, family or both decide what is right instead of allowing the individual to choose when they are old enough to make this decision.

The gender rules are constantly changing so I admit that the above description is only one perspective.  The point I make here is that gender is a social construct layered upon the natural, hardwired gender of the individual.  The way I see it is simply that I was born with male sex and a female brain, while my social conditioning was male the hardwired gender is female.  There is nothing “wrong” with this, it just is.

I do contend that nature knows best so this means I am transgender!  I am not man or woman, I am a combination of both.  The funny thing about gender is that it occurs on a spectrum like a rainbow so very few individuals are fully man or woman, most people are somewhere in between.  When combined with sex and a few other factors our self image emerges.  As you grow this self image may change and thus the title of this blog, Transitions Blog.

The diversity aspect is also somewhat apparent, so I will simply say that the world is a rainbow.  Each and every aspect that makes us human comes in a spectrum and thus the infinite expressions of being a Human Being.  Even twins are not the same although they are more alike than any other humans.
When combined, Unity in Gender Diversity, means that we are all interconnected human beings with diverse gender identities and social presentations.  Just as snowflakes are all similar but different, Human Beings are too!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Balancing Act

This blog is a reminder about being centered in your body and living consciously.  It is a re-post from Feb. ’11.   Please let me know what you would like to know more about.  In this time of drastic changes, upheavals, and shifts it is more important than ever to stay balanced within.  Jesus Christ literally means “I am Centered” or balanced within.  Jeshua Ben Joseph reached that state and earned the title Jesus Christ and so can you. The following is a quote from the eBook Sex and Sexuality.

“Both masculine and feminine energy are a part of every person on earth.  Because these are energies and not traits per se, they behave like energy.  In each moment we are expressing either one of these energies depending on both our situation and the situation surrounding us.  Let’s start by getting a better idea about what the rod and receptacle represent.

Feminine, the receptacle, is the energy of a woman such as soft, curvy, voluptuous, receptive, attractive, subtle, gentle and serene. Often this energy is slow moving and emotional.  It is equated with the Yin in the Eastern philosophies.  This term can be somewhat ambiguous and depends on use, location and nationality of user.  It can be referred to as a feeling or an appearance. The word feminine is used to describe energy not the person.  It is the behavior of the person which could be innate or could be learned and is most often both.  It does not necessarily mean man or woman, although feminine traits are associated with women.  Men have feminine energy too and in order to live a happy life they need to balance this feminine energy with their masculine.  The receptacle is designed to receive a rod.

Masculine, the rod, is the energy of a man, such as strong, hard, angular, rough, aggressive, giving and active.   The rod is designed to give to the receptacle.  They work together and cannot be separated.  Masculine energy is often fast moving and less emotional than the feminine.  It is equated with the Yang in the Eastern philosophies.  It can be referred to as a feeling or an appearance. Women also have this energy and it can be an important part of a woman’s life.  Being the active energy masculinity is how we get things done.  So everyone uses this at some time or another.  If you are constantly doing things then your energy is weighted (think of a scale) to the masculine.” (Sex and Sexuality

Working with this energy takes practice and awareness, which is why I think it is so important.  Anything that holds us in awareness is a good thing.  Awareness is part of being alive, centered within your body, and living in the now.  Take a moment to feel your body.  One function of pain is to keep you aware and direct your attention to some aspect of your life.  Louise Hay has a wonderful book on this subject, You Can Heal Your Life, which I highly recommend. 

Taking this exercise to the next level; be aware of the masculine and feminine energy within your body.  Remember the traits above and know that Masculine energy is held in the arms and shoulders, while feminine energy is in the pelvis, hips and legs.  As you go about your daily activities, notice where your energy is.  The task you are engaged in will often determine the energy brought forth.  This is done unconsciously and automatically.  I am asking you to be aware of it.  Once you notice where it is and how you use this energy you can use this energy consciously to help with your desires and goals.  This is especially important in relationships, working, and in playing.  Women radiate attractive energy (femininity) when they desire to attract attention for personal or professional reasons.  Men use masculinity in the opposite fashion a woman uses her femininity.  The man uses giving and action when in a relationship to a woman.  So men if you wish to find a woman be active to the point of aggressive and giving. Don’t forget that everyone has both energies and be ready to balance your energy depending on the situation.  This same dynamic works for homosexual’s only one individual will be in the opposite and balancing energy.  One is feminine, attractive and the other will be masculine, giving and active, this dynamic can shift back and forth as well.  Once again a reason to stay aware!  Blessings on your Journey of Love ♥

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Hair or There

Gender Transition is a major transformation that takes the help of more than one professional.  For those who identify as the opposite gender from their birth sex it is not a question of whether to transition, but how to.  The consequences are far reaching and profound.  However on a very basic level the decision was made before you were born. 

One of the issues all Male to Female transgender individuals deal with is hair removal.  So this blog is dedicated to the many options available.  This is by no means all inclusive.  I am still finding new methods!  So be inquisitive and do your research.  The old stand-by is electrolysis, so give this serious consideration and find out why most girls use this and why some do not.  Transgendercare.com has a good review of electrolysis.

Laser is the new kid on the block and is not to be discounted.  It is faster, cheaper and less painful than electrolysis.  The results when done properly are permanent, especially when coupled with CHT (Contra-Hormone Treatment). 

This leads to the next method, Contra-Hormone Treatment, which means replacing the body’s genetic hormones with the opposite sex.  Once again some great info is available online about this.  Be sure to review the website, Unity in Gender Diversity – Gender Learning Center

Epilation comes in many forms so please do your research and use a hair growth inhibitor afterwards.  I recommend Kalo lotion or spray, but there are others that work also.  The method I used was Nad’s to remove the hair and then Kalo lotion afterwards.  This works especially well on the legs.  Do not attempt this on the face. 

For the face tweezing works, followed by Kalo, however if you are going to this pain you may as well have electrolysis, which can also be followed with the use of Kalo or similar product.  Please know that tweezing hurts as much as electrolysis and is not permanent.  Any method that simply pulls the hair is undue punishment in this authors opinion. 

Even electrolysis can be a simple hair pulling if not done correctly and the male face requires special care.  So please review the sites on the website Unity in Gender Diversity and Transgendercare.com

The general rule is if it sounds too good to be true then it probably is, however I would like to point out that if you don’t try you won’t know.  Be prepared to fork out considerable funds!  Do your research in advance!  One electrolysis method I would like to mention is E-3000.  I have heard good reports that it does work if you are willing to endure the procedure.  It is done by two individuals in two days and completely clears the face once.  It requires 3-4 treatments and is very intense.  For more see this website and search the internet.  I recommend talking with others who have had the procedure before choosing this path. 

To wrap up this blog, I would like to stress that hair removal is more important than GRS/SRS in the gender journey, although both are important.  Start hair removal asap upon your decision to transition.  The sooner it is done the better!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Meditation and Transition

As a method of coping with the challenges of transition I can think of no better way than meditation.  Without it my journey would have ended long ago.  So this blog is a short look at meditation and how I got started along with several suggestions for you.

Since childhood I was fascinated by those who meditated, especially monks.  I could see the benefits but when I tried my mind was too wild and difficult to tame.  I fidgeted or fell asleep.  I tried biofeedback as a way to calm my mind and to control it which did help a bit however I did not have the discipline necessary to really make it powerful.  These things take constant daily practice with determination and confidence.  I had neither.

What I did have was sports, not really by choice but by necessity. Basketball was forced down my throat and so this became my meditation.  On retrospect my coach was helping me meditate whether we knew it or not!  You see meditation is not simply sitting on a mat in the lotus position and putting your mind in a theta brainwave state.  Although that is the end result desired.  Brainwave amplitude and frequency are the key. 

“The brain is an electrochemical organ using electromagnetic energy to function. Electrical activity emanating from the brain is displayed in the form of brainwaves emanating from the brain is displayed in the form of brainwaves. There are four categories of these brainwaves. They range from the high amplitude, low frequency delta to the low amplitude, high frequency beta.

BETA – 13-30 cycles per second – awaking awareness, extroversion, concentration, logical thinking – active conversation. A debater would be in high beta. A person making a speech, or a teacher, or a talk show host would all be in beta when they are engaged in their work.

ALPHA – 7-13 cycles per second – relaxation times, non-arousal, meditation, hypnosis

THETA – 4-7 cycles per second – day dreaming, dreaming, creativity, meditation, paranormal phenomena, out of body experiences, ESP, shamanic journeys.

DELTA – 1.5-4 or less cycles per second – deep dreamless sleep

During meditation brain waves alter. A person who is driving on a freeway, and discovers that they can’t recall the last five miles, is often in a theta state – induced by the process of freeway driving. This can also occur in the shower or tub or even while shaving or brushing your hair. It is a state where tasks become so automatic that you can mentally disengage from them. The ideation that can take place during the theta state is often free flow and occurs without censorship or guilt. It is typically a very positive mental state.  (http://www.crystalinks.com/medbrain.html)

Now that you know what meditation is you know that it is hard not to meditate.  We all do it every day so why not use this tool constructively.  You can see if you go too far you slip into sleep, but I have learned that it is not a bad thing.  Meditate anyway and with practice you can get what you need from the exercise.  This is key – it is an intentional exercise that you do daily.  Focus on some aspect of your life that you wish to change or need help with, focus is good, but try not to think too much.  I start off with a situation or dilemma I am working with and then let my mind go.  Ask a question and then relax.  Allow your thoughts to flow.  Don’t judge them or try to direct them, just observe. 

One thing I do now days to help the process is binaural beat brain wave therapy.   It is simple really and can be very effective.  Lots of material is available on the internet now, so explore this further.  I started with Centerpointe Research Institutes program of meditation recordings and was very pleased.  I used them for about 3 years till they just got too cost prohibitive so I looked elsewhere.  Be sure to use stereo headphones to get the full effect.  I recommend doing your research on this because I don’t have the space to explain it all and this is important.  Start with this link.

The important thing is that you consciously meditate every day!  Read my free eBook Methods of Raising Our Energy for more techniques.  And know that you cannot mess-up or even avoid mediation.  It is a natural part of daily human life!

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Sexual Taboos

A taboo is “proscribed by society as improper or unacceptable behavior.” (Dictionary.com)  Thus, depending on the society, what is acceptable may vary.  Each society has a prescribed set of rules of conduct which evolve over time.  We all follow these constructs either consciously or unconsciously. 

Sex is often a volatile subject which goes way back depending on the founding society concerned.  In the USA, we are very conservative when it comes to issues of sex behavior stemming from our strict Christian foundations.  The sexual revolution of the sixties and beyond has tipped many of societies norms on their proverbial head!  In my humble opinion this is a very good thing although it has come at a price.  Anything surrounded by fear will create challenges.  AIDS was born of this fear!  It will be undone by its opposite, Love. 

A few of the taboos that have been set aside are homosexual sex and polyamorous relationships.  In some more conservative communities these remain taboo, but for the most part (esp. cosmopolitan cities) it is no longer taboo.  The level of acceptance varies by community of course.  Society can be thought of as a tribal consciousness and as this consciousness shifts so do the taboos.  This consciousness will vary by community, but is still connected to the greater whole, like clouds on the horizon. 

The consciousness which you embrace will be the governing factor in your acceptance.  Let’s say you grew up in the Catholic Church which says it is taboo to have same sex intimate relationships, so as long as you remain in that community or consciousness you are bound by those taboos.  Sometimes the community changes to embrace the consciousness of its members.  For example DignityUSA is a catholic LGBT organization which embraces those life styles.  This to me demonstrates the interdependency of the individual with the larger tribal consciousness. 

Polyamorous relationships have been taboo until recently because frankly I don’t think the average person was mature enough.  Polyamorous means having multiple consenting Lovers /intimate relationships.  It means all parties are aware of each other and respect each other’s freedoms.  It means the individuals have to be mature enough not to slip into jealously or possessiveness.  I see this as being common in societies of the future, because it is natural for most humans.  Unfortunately, the ego based ruling society of yesterday did not support this behavior and often suppressed it though the media, education, and social/religious avenues.  However, as your individual consciousness shifts, so does the greater tribal consciousness.  (which came first the chicken or the egg is an ongoing debate that I will not address at this time)

The bottom line here is that we each have choices that we make every day and these choices determine our individual path, but also influence the greater tribal consciousness as well.  If you wish to explore a sexual taboo, then by all means do so, but do so with caution in an environment that is supportive and safe.  If you do a little searching and this is important enough to you, then you will find those who support you. 

Some sexual taboos are still too far out there at this time and cannot be embraced by society at large.  Till the day comes where society is more accepting, there remains constructive methods of dealing with the compulsion to go beyond the law.  Prison is not one of them.  I would suggest contacting a professional sex counselor if you need guidance on these issues.  There is nothing wrong with you or these acts per se, but staying within the law is conducive to a healthy life (for everyone). 

What I do know is that God loves everyone, no matter who they are and no matter what they have done.  Forgiveness comes from within your own heart and is supported by actions that put everyone’s safety first.

 😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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The Nature Of Consciousness

The word consciousness is being used often these days, so I think to fully appreciate the depth and meaning of this word and this age we now live in we should take a closer look.   Transition has been and will always be a major part of life.  Are you prepared for it? 

Gender transition is one aspect of a much greater change or transition that is occurring right now and has been taking place over the last 150 years or so.  I find it interesting that so many transgender individuals are coming out these days as the environment or consciousness evolves to a greater acceptance level.  So much of the fear, guilt and angst surrounding any deviant or anti-social behavior has been given rise by the religious institutions of the past.  Once again this is a product of the level of consciousness at the time. 

The Mayan calendar is not a calendar of time, but of consciousness!  The last wave of consciousness begins today Mar. 9th starting an awakening of Universal Consciousness.  The calendar ends on Oct. 28th 2011, meaning this cycle of consciousness is coming to an end.  Many of you have probably been aware of this consciousness before, because the previous cycles have prepared us.  Those who were firmly rooted in the other levels of consciousness may have missed this preparation and thus are being introduced to it now.  This is a good thing.  Nothing is required other than being open and receptive. 

While this sounds easy, if you are firmly rooted in the old ways you will first have to release yourself from its grip.  A purging must occur!  Before a cup can be filled it must be emptied first!  The good news is that consciousness is expanding and growing so there is no going back.  There is no more nightmare!!  Let it go!  Carefully consider what is serving you and be honest with yourself.  Step into the new world or new earth with your heart open and your mind quiet.  The only way to hear Great Spirit’s guidance is to quiet the mind and listen with your heart.  The first time I heard this I said, “What?”  That seemed absurd to me, but after some introspection and research I discovered how to do this.  WOW, what an awakening!  With this final wave of consciousness this will be so much easier than in the past.  Try the meditation at the bottom of the page.

A few suggestions to make the shift easier, stop using fluoride toothpaste, stop drinking soda and esp. the diet ones (artificial sweeteners block your mental function), stop using white processed foods (like sugar, flour, etc.), and move your body (be active).  The only way to know if this works is to experiment.  Use whole wheat, natural sugar, and grains for a whole week and see how you feel.  The same goes for the other items to remove.  Try it for at least a week, up to a month and notice how you are feeling.  Write a diary if you like.  I did this and was amazed at the difference it makes.  I also did a colon cleanse and fasting which is a great way to get started.  Once the toxins are removed from the system it is much easier to introduce new foods.  Remember like attracts like, so the more you eat these natural foods the easier it gets. 

Getting back to consciousness I will close here with a recap.  Firstly consciousness is a thought energy that embodies a level of awareness.  The Arabic describe it as layers of veil.  As each veil is removed the individual is that much closer to the mind of God.  I will add that it is like an onion, as the skins are removed your consciousness is that much closer to the Prime Creator.  When you get to the center, you discover nothing.  There is no central core to an onion, just as you cannot see the Prime Creator.  The connection is through your feelings, and thus the importance of listening with your heart!  The mind is a tool for connecting you to this world and it is perfect for that, but if you wish to connect to consciousness itself or Prime Creator/God then open your heart and feel.

Let go of what no longer serves you and look closely here.  Embrace the new earth by changing your diet and being aware of your awareness!  Seek higher awareness, and your dreams come alive!  For me this is about living from my soul or soulful living! 

 😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Ps. Try imagining that you are whatever you see.  See life from the perspective of a beetle, tree, flower, table, Moammar Gadhafi, Jesus, your Mom, Barack Obama, a cat, etc… this is the perspective of GOD, I am that, I am…

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