The art of observation is our best tool in transition. Children and babies use this technique and so should we. So what do I mean “the art of observation”? It is really very simple and it goes like this. Of course we must know what our desired result is to start with. It is like writing a good book, you start with the ending!
Let’s use the example of male to female transition. I know I am a woman in a male body, so I hold a vision of the woman I feel myself to be. I may even get a picture and keep it with me. I share my vision with others who are supportive. I desire to express myself more appropriately as the woman I am, however since I have a male body I have learned how to be a man not a woman. By using the art of observation I simply observe women in action, walking, talking, getting angry, laughing, smiling, working, dressing, shopping etc. It is good to choose a woman who you would like to be like, a role model. Most of us use our mothers since we see them every day and this is precisely what I did. I have always known I was like mom so she is the one I learned from just as any daughter would do, even though she thought I was her son.
She taught me to coordinate colors and styles, how to cook, how to clean, and all the usual housekeeping tasks because she wanted me to be self sufficient. What she did not realize is that she taught me how to act like a lady in public, how to walk like a lady, hand & body gestures, ways of styling my hair, going to the salon every 2-3 wks, and the list goes on. You get the idea now, that we watch our role models every move and copy it! The result will be as good as our choice in role models. We will obviously have our own personality, likes and dislikes, however even most of these are learned from our parents and family or the people we are around the most. If you were raised by your grandmother then she will be who you learn from.
If there are traits you do not like, then you can pick and choose just as you would in a buffet line! You may decide that you wish to be like Lady Gaga or Madonna, it really does not matter. Just be observative and in the end you will create the person of your dreams. The secret to it all is being aware enough to make the observations consciously so that you can incorporate them into your behavior. Be very attuned to detail and notice the small things. Life is full of nuance and that is the beauty of it all. For more on awareness check out this article on Unity in Gender Diversity.
😉 Sequoia Elisabeth
Oneness Ministry 
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