The life you were given is a gift. Don’t mess it up by thinking you can improve on things. Simply be grateful for what you have and play the cards you are dealt. Of course there is no better teacher than experience. Just be warned, gender transition, unless immediately life threatening, is ill-advised. How does one know when it is necessary? A few pointers are as follows.
Notice the pronouns you use for those who are not human. Do you use “she” for your car or house? Is the bird in the tree a “she”? How about the cute froggy you saw last week? Or are they all “he”? We tend to anthropomorphise all that we see, because ultimately we are projecting self everywhere. You see either yourself or “not me” wherever you look.
Do you dream of yourself as male or female? Can you see yourself in your dreams? Since we are Spirit after all, we have no body in reality so if you don’t see your body in your dreams it means you are closer to the truth. Pay more attention to whom you are attracted to in your dreams. While there is nothing wrong with being homosexual, it is not natural. If you are born female, nothing will change this, not even surgery. All surgery really changes is the game you are playing. While you cannot change who you are, you do have the choice of whether to act on it or not. Much has been written on this and I am taking the Spiritual approach, since we are Spiritual beings after all. The heart loves who it loves, but this does NOT mean you have to act on it. True Love does not discriminate. Attraction is more about polarity than love. Think of yourself has an election or a positron or a neutron and you will be attracted appropriately irregardless of physical form. So this means as long as you are true to your attractions and not form then you are on the right track. You still have a choice whether to act on those attractions or not. Just don’t shame yourself for whatever you choose. Make it all good. The point is furthering your Spirit on its path.
So…The answer is simple, just be yourself, LOL. Who the heck is that!?! If you have the desire to crossdress then do so, don’t be ashamed. It is more normal than you would suppose. No need to “transition” for you are exactly who you are meant to be without any mumbo jumbo about surgery or hormones. My theory is that gender dysphoria occurs in those having past life confusion. See, we are not our bodies or our minds for that matter. We are actors on a stage or characters in a dream. “All that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream” Edgar Allen Poe.
Distressing over gender makes the whole dream real and it also makes it impossible to escape. CHT and Surgery are irreversible. So you have dysphoria, join the club! Everyone in this world has it in some form. This is a dream, we are not supposed to be here! We are Not Here!! We are having a delusion!! So you say prove it. LOL I say prove that you are alive! Prove anything beyond a doubt! It is not possible. We simply choose an answer which is acceptable. We play our role!
Having walked this road I can say with confidence that transition is not necessary. Loving yourself for who you are definitely is necessary and this is the crux of the issue. Are you transitioning to fit in or find love outside yourself, by others? I would say 99% of us are looking for love in all the wrong places! Love is found within. Yes, you are a unique person and lovable just the way you are. Whether you wear clothes meant for the opposite gender or not. Whether you are attracted to the opposite gender or not. No matter your circumstance Love is within you and it is yours to share!
Love and Light,
Sequoia Elisabeth
It’s Pride weekend once again here in Denver CO. As per my annual tradition I ponder the meaning of the word Pride and what it means to me. How does this serve me? (my favorite and most useful question) As an existentialist the answer would be there is no “Me” only “Us”. We are One after all!
I see my life easily centered around a greenhouse, growing exotic plants, and keeping fish, etc. This is my dream home! A pond, tropical plants, growing space for exotics and all the life which goes with it, fish, reptiles, amphibians, and beneficial insects. Sounds primal doesn’t it? Perhaps it is and perhaps this represents my connection to Mother Earth. She expresses through me. In the end perhaps I am just too connected to nature to be a human being. From the mystical POV, I would be an “ent”. (look it up if you don’t know what this is). I chose the name “Sequoia” for this very reason. This tree is the largest living thing on earth and is a plant. So inspiring and God knows… I need my inspiration.
Learning to love is just like any other learning. One step at a time. It is a process. One starts with basic life and learns to love the mineral. Minerals are the most basic form of life on Earth and makes up the Earth herself. Appreciate the landscape! Let her beauty infuse your mind and body. Crystals are the enlightenment of minerals and come in thousands of forms, colors, and makeups. See the beauty in a salt crystal, discover where they come from, and experience them in their native habitat. Ice is water in crystalline form and is found everywhere! The beauty of enlightenment is found wherever you are. Rare minerals are also beautiful and should be appreciated also, but don’t fall into the trap of one is more special or beautiful than another. Each has its own beauty and gift to share. This goes for snowflakes all the way to human beings. Love is found everywhere as you will discover.
Loving others is a challenge we all must face so when you are ready jump right in. This is usually done with the family or those closest to you. As one looks out to others they are actually seeing themselves projected but that is not what we experience at first. We are fooled into believing they are separate from ourselves and what they do does not affect us. This is not true. What is true is you have no control over what they choose. Not directly anyway. Since “they” are a projection of you, then control becomes the choices you make about both you and “them”. See their beauty and you will find your own. What you see in them is actually what is in you. Do not let this disturb you, but this is really a good thing. Since you have learned to care for yourself, now simply care for them also. Just do it in a way that does not violate free will. This is a topic all in itself, but suffice it to say when helping others make sure you have their permission directly or in the form of a request or question. This love progresses to the point of Loving all there is. As I mentioned above, We are One and this means all there is. Love is all there is. Don’t sweat the details 😉