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Transitions Blog Review

Transitions blog began in the last few months of 2009 after I had begun my new life as the woman I know myself to be.  The goal of transitions blog is to assist/share the process of transition in its varying forms focusing mostly on gender transition.  As different as transitions can be they share similar process.  Speaking from experience and from years of research the over 450 blog posts lay out transition into several categories, Gender having 161 posts, Spirituality 394, and Transition 444.  What I would like to do now is further define the categories and provide a review to make the various posts easier to find.

Many of the blogs are reposted several times so this is a general overview.  Spirituality is a constant theme since we live spiritual lives!  Transition is a spiritual process first and then the physical manifests (thought-word-action).  So for instance the final transition occurs spiritually before the body ever passes.  Several of the blogs discuss Suicide, since the Transgender community deals with this more than any other human group.   My take is all death is suicide because we each decide when, where, and how we pass long before we are even born.  Not that you can’t choose again, many of us do, but death need not be a mystery.  We have both fate and choice!

Gender is really about identity and resides separate from sex and orientation so this is explained in several blogs.  It is such an important topic I wrote a book about it, Sex and Sexuality – One Womans Journey of Discovery.  This eBook is available free on my website.

Spiritual principle and the Universal Laws are discussed many times since I am a minister I feel knowing these principles are a major reason for our very being!   Did you know you have 6 senses of the mind (Feb. 4, Sept 2 – 14, 2010) as tools to use on your Journey of Love?

A Love Based Society is another favorite topic of mine which ended up being an eBook, please find your free copy on my website.  The Zeitgeist movement and resource based economy captured my attention before I even started this blog and this message just grew stronger.  I see our world existing this way and being the bases for the new Age of Aquarius for which we are laying the ground work right now.  We are literally creating a new world right now, so read on and share your vision with all who will listen.  A thousand years of peace in paradise is worth focusing on, and no worries it will manifest, only the timing is in question.

Of course there are a few other various topics, but mostly transitions blog is Spiritual, Gender, or Advance Society based.  I pray you benefit from reading Transitions Blog and you will share this blog with those who are important to you.  Questions and comments are welcomed.  Please recommend topics you would like to hear more about, because frankly I have shared my vision, the rest is up to you!  It is likely Transitions Blog will be posted less and less depending on reader interest.   I write these for the betterment of mankind or at least this is my story, and I am sticking to it… just joking, the fact is all you ever do is for You, since we are all One!  Oh, yes another favorite topic… Oneness!

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The Gender Journey

What is Gender?  I know many of you have some idea but this blog invites you to take a closer look and to put gender into context of life here on planet Earth.   For a basic perspective on what gender is please visit The Gender Learning Center and review the first few pages, either the article or the Power Point Presentation.  Ok, now that we have some idea of what gender is, look closer to find both aspects of gender within yourself.

Each person is a complete and whole being, including aspects of both genders and often a combination of each in different proportions.  Accept that your physical sex is one aspect and your gender is another.  For a Transgender individual this will be different than for a cisgender person, and maybe even more important.  Before you can release something, you must first accept it for what it is and embrace this reality knowing it is only one aspect of you.   What you resist; persists.  So this is why it is so important to accept things as they are, while letting go of any expectations as to how life is going to work out.

Now allow yourself to flow to the expression of gender which feels the most natural.   There is no right or wrong way, only your way!  Others will either accept you or not as you have no control over this, however the people who are meant to be in your life will eventually come around and accept you.  Hold no attachment to who these people are supposed to be.

The next question for those who are Transgender or Transsexual is are you transitioning because it feels natural/good or are you changing because you hate the other aspect of who you are?  If you hate your body, this is resistance and it will persist.  Even after surgery if you hated your former self you will still see it in the mirror.  The change happens on the inside and is viewed on the outside, so doing your inner work of self-love is the most important aspect of transition whether you have surgery or not.

The real reason Transgender or Transsexual individual’s transition is for the experience of authenticity and self-expression.  Life on Earth is about Identity and getting to know who you are!  As I put it on my website, “We are all on a journey to discover who we are. In the process of thinking, saying, and doing, we see who we are NOT.  Along the way many personas emerge, and with each step you draw closer to who you really are.  In the end we discover there really is only one, and this is GOD.  The Journey never ends…”

I recently found a video which speaks directly to this journey (Ask Teal – Transgender and Transsexuality) so I share it with you now urging you to give it a “look see” and find the wisdom you need.  One reason I love Teal is she speaks from the heart and I see myself quite easily in her.  Her teachings align perfectly with mine, and it is so rewarding to find someone who understands life as I do.  Please share your perspective and if you have questions please comment on this blog.

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Nothing Is True

Nothing is true….     At least not in the traditional way we think of truth.  Not even God’s or Universal Truth is true.  Only what you give power to by both your innately and adopted beliefs has any truth to it whatsoever!   I am not trying to discourage you here, nor am I raining on your parade.  My intention is to shine some light on your illusions, or should I say our illusions.  You see the entire world – all that you think you know is a hologram, a fabrication of powers we do not understand.  It would be like a television set understanding the programs it broadcasts.  It is not possible for humans to understand any Truth, if it even exists.  I challenge all your beliefs as you hold them right now!

Why would I do such a thing, which many would feel as an assault on their very soul?  Because sometimes we need a slap in the face to wake up, and perhaps some cold water will shock your awareness into focus.  All you thought was true is not.  Take this literally.  The only truth is nothing….  or to say this another way, whatever is is not and whatever is not is.    Pause for a moment, let this fully sink in.  The reality you are experiencing now as you sit with your computer or tablet and read this blog; all that surrounds you is a fabrication or a projected hologram from the All That Is.  Even “you” do not exist!

We all love to watch movies because we experience things we would not otherwise experience, but the real gift is realizing you are a movie within a movie and frankly there could be infinite layers to this scenario, like two mirrors facing each other.  The image/realities go on and on for as far as the eye can see.  In fact as far as our most powerful telescopes can see, reality appears as soon as we look. (Works with microscopes too)  So there can be no limit to the worlds which lay awaiting discovery.  The simple act of looking creates them!  (The Heisenberg principle) This is what discovery is, the act of looking at the hologram and seeing it for the first time.  What if every experience was perceived as the first one no matter how many times it had happened before?

“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players:   They have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages. At first, the infant, mewling and puking in the nurse’s arms. And then the whining school-boy, with his satchel and shining morning face, creeping like snail unwillingly to school. And then the lover, sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad made to his mistress’ eyebrow. Then a soldier, full of strange oaths and bearded like the pard, jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel, seeking the bubble reputation even in the cannon’s mouth. And then the justice, in fair round belly with good capon lined, with eyes severe and beard of formal cut, full of wise saws and modern instances; and so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts into the lean and slipper’d pantaloon, with spectacles on nose and pouch on side, his youthful hose, well saved, a world too wide for his shrunk shank; and his big manly voice, turning again toward childish treble, pipes and whistles in his sound. Last scene of all, that ends this strange eventful history, is second childishness and mere oblivion, sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.” (

“Who are you without your story?” (Byron Katie, 2008)

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Redefining Masculine and Feminine

Redefining Masculine and Feminine and how they fit into society & culture.  As the human race evolves our gender roles and sexual definitions are changing.  It is fascinating to look back at things as simple as the bathing suit to see how it has changed over time, just Google the history of the bathing suit/swim suit.  Or look at women in the military and the roles they play there.  How about men’s fashion?  In some cultures the clothes are becoming more androgynous and the boundaries are breaking down.  Examples would be Europe, Japan and the more cosmopolitan cities around the world.

The purpose of this blog is to open your mind to the changes that are happening all around you right now.  I am sure this depends on the environment in which you live, but it is not restricted to just cities.  For hundreds if not thousands of years women would work around the farm performing work most men these days would balk at.  So this is not necessarily a new trend, but one which has been building over the past several hundred years.  Men are staying at home to raise the children and women are running board rooms and companies.   The business look is becoming more androgynous with women wearing pant suits and dark colors to compete with the men.

So what are these trends all about?  Why now?  Where is all this going?  I have done much research on the new Age of Aquarius and feel this is largely responsible for the changes you are presently experiencing.  There are also a few Universal Laws to consider as well.  Both of which I have blogged about before.  Focusing on the Zodiac cycles for now, it is well known that we just passed the 2012 end date for the end of an era.  We know there are 12 signs in the zodiac and the total period of the cycle is equal to 25,920 years so this makes each era 2160 years.  There is also a cusp period of transition between eras, making the period of change about 200-600 years.  From all the data I have reviewed the end of this transition period is between 1860 and 2600.  “The Age of Aquarius is an astrological age, which shifts roughly every 2,150 years. It’s defined by the sun’s position at the time of the March, or vernal, equinox. The Age of Aquarius begins when the March equinox point moves out of the constellation Pisces and into the constellation Aquarius. But there’s no definitive answer as to when that will be.” (  What this means is the influence of Pisces has been waning since about 1860 and the Age of Aquarius has been waxing.   When you look closely at the traits of each it is easy to see this phenomenon in action.

“The Age of Aquarius is the Age of Freedom, Technology (especially electricity), and the Water Bearer.” (Weaver, Sandra 2012) While ‘The Age of Pisces has been a very spiritual age. It is a time of gentleness, materialism and artistry, but also it is about impracticality.’ (Weaver, Sandra 2012)  War has been the theme of Pisces and Peace is the theme of Aquarius.  Duality has ruled the Age of Pisces with the male and female being polar but this is changing as the Age of Aquarius slowly takes over.  The Age of Aquarius is denoted by androgyny and bi-sexuality.  This makes perfect sense when you take into count the cosmology of each age.  Aquarius is all about Oneness and connection, peace, love and sharing.  Pisces on the other hand was about separation, duality, materialism, and conflict.  The lessons learned from Pisces are profound and offer a divine contrast to the world we are moving into.  Understand neither is the “right way” to experience life, but instead are simply a way to experience life.  Variety is what makes life interesting and we are moving into very interesting times indeed!

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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Mirrors of Friendship II

Transition is a long and sometimes arduous journey so it is very important to treasure each moment of Joy and each success along the path.  Doing this alone is certainly possible, but the Joy grows exponentially when there is someone who cares to share the experiences with.

Often the decision to begin the transition journey i.e. come out to your partner or parent(s) is the biggest challenge.  Will they accept you?  The real question is do you accept yourself?  The only way to know if you accept yourself is to observe how others treat you.  I know this may seem backward or strange, but this is just how it works.  Understand this… you are all there is, all else is a reflection of who you are.  This may seem odd and self-centered, but it is the Truth and it is both good and bad news.

I call this the mirror principle.  Life is often like living in a house of mirrors, and it can get pretty confusing.  This being said let’s get back to your partner who is having difficulty with your coming out news.  Each person in your life has their own vision of you… as a reflection of themselves, because from their perspective they are the only person there is!  So, be gentle with your expectations of them just as you are gentle with your expectations of yourself.  Do on to others as you would have done on to you, because they are you!  We are One.  Each person is an individuation of the whole; the One; all there is.  All those who are close to you will transition with you or they will fall out of your life.  Transition/change is like walking into a new room, if they do not come with you,… well you get the idea.

When you think about this it explains a lot about the reactions and treatment you get from others.  You may or may not be treated well, however the longer and deeper your understanding of this reality the better life gets.  Those who see themselves to be like you or see something in common are going to be supportive and understanding (and vice versa).  This is a great reason to join a support group!  The internet is a great place to look for one, or you could ask around, network with friends and if you still need help, contact me – I am here for you.  The time spent with others on a similar journey will help you to better understand yourself and give you the opportunity to grow self love.  The Love you give is the Love you receive!  Not only do support groups offer much needed information such as where to go to get the things you need, what to look out for along the path, and who can help you; they show you who you are and I find this to be the greatest gift anyone can offer!

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The Zeitgeist Movement as a Transition

Let us consider today the shift in consciousness the Solar System is now undergoing.  The earth is aligning with the galactic center and a doorway to transformation is opening.  The reality of One has never been more apparent than right now.  As we each awaken to reality a feeling of connection pervades consciousness.  The relationship each person, place, and thing have binding them together is coming into view.  One could say the veil is being lifted.

Stepping back and looking at the big picture the interlocking nature of each and every system is becoming obvious to even the un-awakened individual.  Humanity has been in the teenage years these past 50yrs and it is now coming of age.  We are growing up and thus needing to take responsibility for our actions while acting as an adult with compassion and caring.

The short video “The Zeitgeist Movement – The Transition” explains this transition quite nicely.  Look closely at the evidence they present and consider your own life within the larger community at a whole.  We are but Child Gods playing with toys far greater than our demonstrated maturity.  So far we have managed not to destroy ourselves and so the prospects are looking very good that we are about to step into a Type I status.  We are becoming adults!

The Dec. 21, 2012 date is the ending of our teenage years and the 22nd is the first day of our Adult life as the Human race on Earth – Terrains.  Of all the transitions we have each been experiencing individually this one encompasses all life on Earth!  Even Mother Earth (Gaia), the Sun and planets are shifting.

The energy has been intense and it has been difficult to stay positive as these changes are bringing to the surface many issues which must be dealt with before the shift.  For those who are facing these challenges the shift will be smooth, and for those who have been ignoring them or actively suppressing them the shift will be sudden and violent.

It is in your best interest to stop and take a look around.  What is calling for your attention?  Do you understand where you stand and why?  Are you holding on by tooth and nail?  It is time to let go.  Fear not, instead have Faith all is well.  This is not a blind Faith, but a knowing loving Faith.  The kind God has!  You are made in her image and likeness so now is the time to act like it!

What would Love do now?  How can you offer compassion and caring in each thing you do?  Are you considering how your actions affect those around you including the plants and animals?  Consider your actions carefully and proceed with knowledge which harmonizes with your heart and not just your head.  If it doesn’t feel right simply don’t do it.  Research the Zeitgeist Movement, the Occupy Movement, a resource based economy, and a Love based society.  We are all changing, so look ahead with excitement!

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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Life of Pi

“Life of Pi” the movie just came out and the reviews are very positive.  I saw the movie recently and think the story is very applicable to the transition journey.  In fact, the main character Piscine Molitor Patel or Pi for short experiences a profound transition in the story and the main gift to the audience is this same transition of discovering God.

Spoiler alert – From this point on the plot and “message” will be discussed so if you have not seen the movie, go see it first and then read this blog.

“Pi is raised a Hindu, but as a fourteen-year-old he is introduced to Christianity and Islam, and starts to follow all three religions as he “just wants to love God.” He tries to understand God through the lens of each religion and comes to recognize benefits in each one.

Eventually, his family decides to sell their animals and move to Canada due to political concerns in India. In the second part of the novel, Pi’s family embarks on a small Japanese boat to Canada carrying some of the animals from their zoo, but a few days out of port, the ship meets a storm and capsizes, resulting in his parents’ death. After the storm, Pi regains consciousness in a small lifeboat with a spotted hyena, an injured zebra, and an orangutan.

As Pi strives to survive among the animals, the hyena kills the zebra, then the orangutan, much to Pi’s distress. At this point, it is discovered that a Bengal tiger named Richard Parker had been hiding under the boat’s tarp; it kills and eats the hyena. Frightened, Pi constructs a small raft out of flotation devices, tethers it to the boat, and retreats to it. He delivers some of the fish and water he harvests to Richard Parker to keep him satisfied, conditioning Richard Parker not to threaten him by rocking the boat and causing seasickness while blowing a whistle. Eventually, Richard Parker learns to tolerate Pi’s presence and they both live in the boat.

Pi recounts various events while adrift, including discovering an island of carnivorous algae inhabited by meerkats. After 227 days, the lifeboat washes up onto the coast of Mexico and Richard Parker immediately escapes into the nearby jungle. The significance of 227 days is from the common approximation of π using the fraction 22/7.

In the third part of the novel, two officials from the Japanese Ministry of Transport speak to Pi to ascertain why the ship sank. When they do not believe his story, he tells an alternate story of human brutality, in which Pi was adrift on a lifeboat with his mother, a sailor with a broken leg, and the ship’s cook, who killed the sailor and Pi’s mother and cut them up to use as bait and food. Parallels to Pi’s first story lead the Japanese officials to believe that the orangutan represents his mother, the zebra represents the sailor, the hyena represents the cook, and Richard Parker is Pi himself.

After giving all the relevant information, Pi asks which of the two stories they prefer. Since the officials cannot prove which story is true and neither is relevant to the reasons behind the shipwreck, they choose the story with the animals. Pi thanks them and says, “and so it goes with God”.” (, Nov. 26, 2012)

The two significant messages offered the viewer are as follows, in the movie it is the reporter who makes the observation of the parallels in the two stories, the animals to the humans, so this is a slight plot change.  The officials assume the first story about the animals is true because it just sounds better and they have no way to prove one or the other, “and so it goes with God”.  We each have the choice of choosing our story and then living it!  Your life is a story and how you live your life is your choice.  It is your gift to God and vice versa.  Since life is a gift why not make it your own!

The second profound message in this movie is the transition Pi makes on this long journey as he discovers God.  Following the animal analogy he is the Tiger and the Tiger represents his ego.  The other animals are simply characters representing different aspects of the ego world.  The hyena represents the cruelty in the world, the zebra is the victim or common man, and the orangutan represents mother earth or the maternal spirit.  The hyena is strong and only thinking of itself.  It takes what it needs and attacks the weak common man/zebra killing it.  It then turns on mother nature and like man it attacks.  Even though mother nature/orangutan fights back it too dies, symbolizing what we are doing to mother earth.  At this point the Tiger comes to the rescue and kills the hyena.  Thus the ego is the hero!  …At least so far.

This is where Pi’s journey of Spirit commences and at first he is afraid of his ego/tiger and then he reaches the point of survival and confronts the ego/tiger again loosing.  He needs to feed the ego/tiger and God provides by supplying fish in a fantastic show of flying fish and tuna that “accidently” end up in the boat.

Reading the survival manual found in the boat he devises a way to train the ego/tiger using the waves and a whistle.  So eventually he and the ego/tiger are able to live in peace and he actually develops a love for the ego/tiger.

When they reach the beach of Mexico though the ego/tiger demonstrates he has no love for Pi and walks into the forest without looking back, even though he does pause.  The message here is profound in my view.  Pi is left with the only thing he ever really has, God.  God is his very nature and cannot be taken or lost.  Pi goes on a new man and lives a very rewarding life always remembering who he is as he discovered in these most fantastic 227 days.

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Ownership Revisited Part II

So you think you own something, such as a gold watch.  You wear it proudly and use it every day.  One day it disappears, you have no idea what happened to it.  Did you really own it?  Do you still own it?  As the definition reads from yesterday’s blog you did own it, but now you do not.  Possession is 9/10th of the law, or so it would seem.  I would say that it is 100% the law of ownership.

Say you met with a friend and notice they are wearing the watch you once owned.  Whose watch is it?  Does it matter that your friend found the watch in the company bathroom?  Do you automatically assume they stole the watch from you?  I hope not.  If you still wish to enjoy the watch, you could explain what happened and ask them politely to give the watch to you.  Since they are in possession of the watch, they own it.  If you are compassionate and caring you may get the watch back. It is like the watch is making the decisions and choosing the person to be with.  And in a way this is exactly what is happening.  Remember like energy attracts like energy and if you are resonating a match to the watch it will come back into your life.  I once lost and found a ring over three times before it decided I did not want it.  I never found the ring again.  It is not about owning certain objects; it is about enjoying the use of them and then gratefully passing them along when you are done with them.

I used to have a camera that I was getting tired of and wished to get a better one, but I would not spend the money.  A few days later someone stole my camera and my prayers were answered!  I now had the excuse I needed to go buy a new camera and I did.  I owned the camera while it was in my possession and then I did not.  The important point here is that I always have what I need.  The resources present themselves as the need arises!

It is also important to know that ownership as most people understand it today is an illusion.  You do not own the land, your car, or anything really.  But you do have the use of anything you desire to claim in a way that honors the Best Interests of all concerned.

Right now this means paying for certain items so that you have permission to use them.  Of course you are not paying for the item, but the honor of using it!  If someone gives you a gift card, they are transferring their honor to you, thus making it a gift!

Ownership then is really a Spiritual Agreement made energetically between two individuals or Great Spirit herself.  Whether energy is exchanged in the form of money, labor, barter, or Love does not matter.  The water you drink, the land you walk on and the trees you sleep under were given to you as a gift from Great Spirit.  Are you using them with honor?

Ask not – what do I own, but do I have what I need?  I bet the answer is Yes, because Great Spirit is a wonderful provider (as long as you allow it).

The etiquette of ownership is another topic so please do not assume from this blog that I condone taking anything without asking first!  Get permission, either verbally, in writing, or by (sales) contract.  Even in a cashless society, the rules of etiquette still apply.  Stay tuned! Ownership concludes in the next blog.

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Ownership Revisited Part I

This is a three part series which I am reposting as a reminder to myself and my readers.  Maybe you missed it last time.  I welcome you to scan back through the blogs and explore.  The main topic of this blog is Transition, and the accompanying topics are Spirituality, Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation.

Ownership is purely a man made concept that has existed for thousands of years in some form or another.  The question I ask here is simply this, “How does ownership serve you”?  Is it in the Highest and Best Good of the Human Race & Earth?

Ownership as defined by the Encyclopedia Britannica is, “the legal relation between a person (individual, group, corporation, or government) and an object. The object may be corporeal, such as furniture, or completely the creature of law, such as a patent, copyright, or annuity; it may be movable, such as an animal, or immovable, such as land. Because the objects of property and the protected relations are different in every culture and vary according to law, custom and economic system and the relative social status of those who enjoy its privileges, it is difficult to find a least common denominator of “ownership.” Ownership of property probably means at a minimum that one’s government or society will help to exclude others from the use or enjoyment of one’s possession without one’s consent, which may be withheld except at a price.”

What do you own?  Think carefully here.  Are you sure?  Is it because you paid for it?  Or is it simply that you claimed possession?  Can you do with it as you please?  Does it bring you joy?  Is it time to re-assess your viewpoint on ownership?

Is your partner, wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, child, pet an object?  Of course not, so please do not treat them as one.  Human relationships sometimes slip into ownership situations and this is regrettable and unhealthy.  I simply mention this as a reminder of what you already know – you cannot be owned, and neither can anyone else – at least not without their permission.  If someone is a slave they have chosen this experience for the advancement of their soul, but this diverts from our topic today.  Suffice it to say there are no victims, only volunteers.

Copyright is a legal construction so the person with this legal right can claim profit.  I ask for you to consider this carefully.  Who really owns the words written here or the electricity that brings them to you?  The reason copyright law exists is so money can be claimed; however it is not always the person who made the copyrighted material who profits from it.  Copyright law is simply a construct under which some get wealthy and others do not.  It is a limitation imposed by the powers at be.  I choose not to copyright my writing, because these words do not come from me but from Holy Spirit.  Anyone who wishes can wade in the river of knowledge!  This goes for any creation, a building, a computer, a book, a recipe, you name it – the idea came from Holy Spirit!  The resources came from Gaia and your part in the process is the hands to mold it.  Just because you played a part of a Divine process does not mean you own the creation!  If I make the muffler for a car, do I own the car?  If I make a book cover do I own the book?  Not hardly.

What is “real” about real estate?  What are you paying for?  Could it be that you are paying for the right to use the property as long as you abide by certain rules and pay the proper taxes and fees?  Why are you giving your power to some official or banker?  What will happen if you claim your inner power and God given right to live as you see fit?  Is what you are thinking in the Best Interest of Everyone involved?

The blog will continue tomorrow so we will meet again soon and complete our story of “ownership”.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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What Is Your Story

We are each on a carousel ride, the same carousel.  The ride goes round and round while we each view and experience things differently.   Even if you are sitting in my lap, you experience it different.  What this boils down to is we each have our own story, the story of our lives.  The part we share is the carousel!

What if you were to take your story and toss it in the trash?  You think it is inseparable?  You are not your story, just as I am not my story.  What makes a story?  Is the story ever complete?  Is it ever over?  Do the stories interconnect?  You know, like a TV series with successive stories, one episode after another?  The characters are the same in each episode, just as they are in your story.  If a character loses a contract they are written out of the story, just as people sometimes leave our lives either by dying or by situation, like divorce or simply moving away.

The stories will interweave as characters cross paths, sometimes staying for a while and sometimes only for a brief smile.  The paths can pass close without touching or they can collide head on!  What does it all mean?

The answer is up to you because there is no meaning until you give it some.  The simple fact is there is no story but the one you create by living your life!  So is your life living your story or your story living your life?  Which came first the chicken or the egg?  Funny how we love that question, or at least I do.

I wrote my gender focused story and published it as part of a larger story of Sex and Sexuality.  It was therapy for me because I did not understand my own story.  I needed to step back and get a bigger picture.  It all seems like a dream to me now, in some ways maybe a nightmare.  None of it seems real anymore, because I have awoken to a different reality and yet I have only awoken within a dream.  A dream within a dream!

Love to hear your story or at least your comments on these thoughts.  Maybe you have shared these thoughts or parts of them.  I love how a million people can see a beautiful vista and see it differently every time!  Maybe your story is more meaningful when it is shared.  Maybe it is not yours till you give it away!

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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Are You Transgender

How does one know they are transgender?  The answer to this question is both easy and complex.  Easy in that only the individual knows they are transgender by how they self-identify and complex in that identities often blur together.

Transgender – A person appearing to or attempting to be a member of the opposite sex, such as a transsexual or habitual crossdresser.  This is an umbrella term often used to include the entire community of individuals who cross gender boundaries on a consistent basis.  Dressing as the opposite sex for a school play, at Halloween, or once or twice as a youngster does not make you transgender.

A person can identify with many others who are important in their life.  Gender is not always important, meaning they may identify with both men and woman and sometimes other beings as well, such as animals, plants, or insects.  We do it all the time, it is called anthropomorphication, projecting human characteristics on to things other than human.  Pets are a favorite subject for this.  Identity is a fluid thing, because we are all connected through Great Spirit.

Getting back to self-identity, gender identity is usually apparent by the age of 3-6.  For this reason historically the Native Americans and recently some modern families are choosing to allow their child to tell them how they identify instead of looking between the legs and then pasting them with an identity of boy or girl.  Certain characteristics such as toys chosen, behavior in certain situations, and how the child interacts with others can be indicators of masculine or feminine characteristics.  However just because a boy likes to play with dolls does not make him transgender either.

Gender is a spectrum not a binary and in fact 80% of the population falls somewhere in the middle of the bell curve.  It is rare to be totally male or completely female in gender.  Just think back about your life and whether you enjoyed doing things which were considered opposite of your gender?

The main gist of the growing numbers of Transgender identified individuals is equality.  Everyone no matter their gender, race, orientation, status, finances, appearance, mentality or any other characteristic deserves to be treated as an equal.  Each person in their own way is an expression of God, Great Spirit, or Infinite Intelligence.  And it is up to the individual to decide how they identify!  Our job is to lovingly accept them.

Doctors, Lawyers, or parents do not have the right to impose their interpretations on any other person.  Now they can and will offer their expertise, but it is still up to the individual to take that information and do with it what they will.  Even a child 3-6 years old can tell their parents how they feel.

The parent can then provide opportunity for the child to explore their feelings, and with love and support the child will fulfill their destiny.  And for those individuals who have suppressed these feelings for decades it is never too late to give yourself permission to be true to you!!  Ultimately, Love is the answer to every question.

I encourage those with gender doubts or questions to explore their feelings by looking deep within the heart.  The only way to know for sure is to try different gender role expressions.  When you arrive at a conclusion it will feel right.  Of course, this is for the moment because life is filled with moments and this feeling may change, although the wiring of the brain is fixed at birth.  Ultimately life is an exercise in discovery and forgiveness.

🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Cleanliness is Godliness

On this wonderful transition called The Journey of Love, a few practices are important to understand and respect.  By now if you have been reading my blogs you know that energy makes up everything and can be thought of as God.  Everything vibrates at a certain frequency which is inherent within its structure.  So what is cleanliness?  How can anything be dirty in God’s world?

First of all, this is not God’s world!  It is man-made; every blade of grass, every animal and every person is created by the ego of man, as described in A Course in Miracles (ACIM).  It is worth the effort to figure out what I am speaking of, but it is too complex to explain in a few paragraphs, ACIM is a yearlong course.  Just know that your “reality” is created by your ego mind and each person see’s their own version of the same thing. Earth is often considered dirt, and the state of being dirty is any substance, liquid, or semi-solid that is located where it is not wanted.  Being dirty changes the overall appearance of the object it (solid, liquid, or vapor) rides on.

Dirty on a basic level is a decrease in energetic frequency which then attracts particulate matter similar to its energy.  This usually occurs over time (entropy), unless energy is being expended to clean or increase the areas’ energy vibrations.  If you ask three people if something is dirty, you will get three different answers, because the state of being dirty is subjective.  Dirty is simply a lower vibration.

Take your body for instance, washing it removes any foreign materials and thus raises the bodies overall vibration to a more natural state.  The soil can come from the environment or from within (thoughts taking form – sweat, mucus, tears just to name a few).  So to wash anything raises its vibrational signature to a more natural state or close to original state.  The original state is unattainable in this world because of the many energetic influences being exerted on all matter.  Once matter is changed, it cannot be changed back, only taken to a similar state.  Think of this at the molecular level, so while it may appear good as new, it has been changed.

Looking at dirty from the spiritual point of view, it is impure, soiled, tainted, unclean, and viewed as sinful.  Thus anything in this world could be considered impure or sinful.  Not that purity does not exist, for it certainly does, however it is not of this world.  Ever since Eve ate the apple and Adam & Eve where thrown out of the Garden of Eden, this world has been impure or sinful.  Of course this is a perspective which was taught long ago by religious leaders to explain the world they saw around them.

Energetically speaking the 3d dimension, where we all live, is a dense world made up of matter at a low vibrational frequency.  As energy vibration increases, cleanliness becomes a natural state.  If the body can be vibrated at sufficient frequencies it too will move to attain a state that cannot be dirty or sick.

Metaphorically speaking cleaning is a kin to forgiveness, because forgiveness is how one raise’s above sin.  Keeping your body and your environment clean is thus a conscious act of forgiveness! 

Cleaning is also a way to increase the vibration of anything, your body, house, yard, etc.  Living in an energetically vibrant environment is crucial to higher living.  But don’t take my word for it, just notice the next time you are in a “dirty” place and see how the space feels.  Energized?  Depressed?  The same goes for a place that is immaculately clean, or someplace brand new/never used.

The secret to moving to higher states of existence comes in creating an energized space by keeping it clean.  As you grow, you will find yourself in places that are ever more energetic, clean, and beautiful.

😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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Ps. Cleanliness is vital in creating a Love Based Economy, because it is a higher state of energy vibration.  Try keeping your space clean and see if your life changes for the better.

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Gender Incongruency Part 2

Gender Incongruency part 2 is the continuation of the simple straight-forward definition provided previously and now we delve into why Gender Incongruency is the preferred term verses Gender Identity Disorder.

The documentation provided on the different views of Gender Identity Dysphoria sound complex, but really it is not that complicated when you break it down.  I will do my best to provide clear reasoning to explain it.  First of all everyone has Gender Identity, just as they have a sexual orientation.  When this identity is incongruent with the natal sex and established stereotypes a diagnosis of Gender Identity Disorder is given.  Since this is really an issue of incongruency and not necessarily a dysfunction the term disorder is inappropriate.

Think carefully about the term disorder.  Most allopathic treatments use a chemical and/or a surgical approach by prescribing a medicine or surgically altering the body to treat the illness or disorder.  Medicines are intended to be temporary till the body heals itself.  Gender Dysphoria is based on an incongruency from birth.  Some feel it is a birth defect, depending on how it manifests.  Often, if the patient is born completely male or female they do not deal with the issue due to societal and peer pressure until later in life. They have dealt with this condition all their life because they do not know any better.  Since there are many things in this world that do not make sense we all deal with incongruences.  Is it so hard to believe that a person cannot live with these feelings?

“Principle 18 of The Yogyakarta Principles states that “Notwithstanding any classifications to the contrary, a person’s sexual orientation and gender identity are not, in and of themselves, medical conditions and are not to be treated, cured, or suppressed.” According to these Principles, any gender identity of a transsexual or transgendered person is neither “disorder” nor mental illness, thus the diagnosis “gender identity disorder” can be contradictory and irreverent.” (, 2012)

Given this fact and the fact that physicians need a way to treat patients who request it the term Gender Incongruency seems very appropriate, thus the Concerned Professionals proposal.  The other issue is treatment and payment.  In our present system insurance usually picks up the bill but many specifically exclude transgender/transsexual treatments.  This trend is shifting however and it is because they have a diagnosis in the DSM to use along with the ICD-10 that insurance is willing to cover hormone therapy, although most do not cover surgical interventions.  Lobbying by activist groups, LGBT awareness groups, and allies have helped increase awareness of the need a great deal.

Eventually Gender Identity will not be pathologized and people will be free to live outside the gender binary.  This is another trend that is promising at the moment.  However there will still be individuals who feel they need to change their sex and who benefit from hormone treatment, so the health care system needs to be prepared to address these needs.  Insurance needs to cover this simple and relatively inexpensive treatment, esp. when compared to other sophisticated medical treatments.  Gender Incongruency conveys the essence of this condition quite nicely.

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Gender Incongruency

Gender Incongruency may be unfamiliar to some of our readers so I will take the next two Transitions Blogs to explain it further.  I will first give the simple straight-forward definition of it and then in the next part explain why it is the preferred term now verses Gender Identity Disorder.

Incongruous or Incongruent:

— adj

1. incompatible with (what is suitable); inappropriate

2. containing disparate or discordant elements or parts (

Thus applied to gender it means the individual feels certain parts (gender and/or sex) are incompatible, inappropriate, disparate, or discordant.  The definition of transgender varies a little from transsexual so I will simply say that transgender is an umbrella term that covers all gender non-conforming identities, while transsexual is more specific to a feeling of marked incongruity requiring both hormone therapy and sexual reassignment surgery.  The diagnosis of gender incongruency would apply to all transsexuals, and some but not all transgender individuals.

Treatment is the way I discern the difference between transgender and transsexual.  Many transgender individuals need no treatment at all other than the acknowledgement of their gender expression and role.  Sexual orientation or sexual pleasure type are separate issues and are not discussed here.  The following definitions from the American Psychiatric Association, Concerned Professionals, and The Yogyakarta Principles are offered in regards to Transsexualism mainly, but also pertain to Transgender, esp The Yogyakarta Principles.

First let us consider in the United States, the American Psychiatric Association permits a diagnosis of gender identity disorder if the four diagnostic criteria in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4thEdition, Text-Revised (DSM-IV-TR) are met. (There is a proposal to change this GID diagnosis term to Gender Incongruence in the new DSM-V, of which I will discuss further in the next blog)

The criteria are:

  • Long-standing and strong identification with another gender
  • Long-standing disquiet about the sex assigned or a sense of incongruity in the gender-assigned role of that sex
  • Significant clinical discomfort or impairment at work, social situations, or other important life areas.
  • The diagnosis is not made if the individual also has physical intersex characteristics.

If the four criteria are met under the DSM-IV-TR, a diagnosis is made under ICD-9 code 302.85.   The International Classification of Diseases (ICD-10) list three diagnostic criteria:

Transsexualism (F64.0) has three criteria:

  1. The desire to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex, usually accompanied by the wish to make his or her body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex through surgery and hormone treatment
  2. The transsexual identity has been present persistently for at least two years
  3. The disorder is not a symptom of another mental disorder or a chromosomal abnormality (Intersex).

Mental health and medical professionals, clinicians, researchers, and scholars are concerned about psychiatric nomenclature and diagnostic criteria for gender-variant, gender-nonconforming, transgender, and transsexual people in the Fifth Edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), and call themselves Professionals Concerned About Gender Diagnoses in the DSM. Below are their suggestions for the Gender Incongruence (in adults) diagnosis in the DSM V.

A. A distressing sense of incongruence between persistent experienced or expressed gender and current physical sex characteristics or ascribed gender role in adults, as manifested by at least one of the following indicators for duration of at least 3 months. Incongruence, for this purpose, does not mean gender expression that is nonconforming to social stereotypes of ascribed gender role or natal sex.

1. A distress or discomfort with living in the present gender or being perceived by others as the present gender, which is distinct from the experiences of discrimination or the societal expectations associated with that gender.

2. A distress or discomfort caused by deprivation of gender expression congruent with persistent experienced gender. Experienced gender may include alternative gender identities beyond binary stereotypes.

3. A distress or discomfort with one’s current primary or secondary sex characteristics that are incongruent with persistent experienced gender.

4. A distress or discomfort caused by deprivation of primary or secondary sex characteristics that are congruent with persistent experienced gender.

B. Distress or discomfort is clinically significant or causes impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of functioning, and is not due to external prejudice or discrimination. (Professionals Concerned with Gender Diagnoses in the DSM, 2010)

The Yogyakarta Principles on the Application of International Human Rights Law in relation to Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity is a set of principles relating to sexual orientation and gender identity, intended to apply international human rights law standards to address the abuse of the human rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people, and issues of intersexuality.

“The Principle 3 of The Yogyakarta Principles on The Application of International Human Rights Law in Relation to Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity states that “A person of diverse sexual orientation and gender identities shall enjoy legal capacity in all aspects of life. Each person’s self-defined sexual orientation and gender identity is integral to their personality and is one of the most basic aspects of self-determination, dignity and freedom” and the Principle 18 of this states that “Notwithstanding any classifications to the contrary, a person’s sexual orientation and gender identity are not, in and of themselves, medical condition and are not to be treated, cured or suppressed.” According to these Principles, any gender identity of a transsexual or transgendered person is neither “disorder” nor mental illness, thus the diagnosis “gender identity disorder” can be contradictory and irreverent. As well, The Activist’s Guide of the Yogyakarta Principles in Action states that “It is important to note that while “sexual orientation” has been declassified as a mental illness in many countries, “gender identity or gender identity disorder” often remains under consideration.” (, 2012)

To read the entire publication “An Activist’s Guide to The Yogyakarta Principles” please click here, although be warned it is quite lengthy.  More on Gender Incongruence in Part 2, pleasant reading till then.

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What Transitions Blog Is All About

Transitions Blog is dedicated to assisting the Journey of Love called “transition”.  This journey can and does take many forms.  It can be multi-layered and dynamic, and often it is.  It often feels like a wave that picks you up and thrusts you forward.  It can feel outta control and scary, although it also can be fun like an amusement ride also.

The experience will be different every time, and unique to the individual experiencing it even though others are experiencing it with you.  They have their own interpretation and experience which they need to grow.  Yes, transition is ultimately about growth -emotional, physical, and spiritual.  There is no way to go through life with it!

“Transition: movement, passage, or change from one position, state, stage, subject, concept, etc., to another; change: the transition from adolescence to adulthood.” (  There are always others on the journey with you to assist in your passage, whether you see them or not, so take comfort in this fact.  Even if you feel totally alone, you never are!  Ask and ye shall receive.

Unity in Gender Diversity is all about being there with you on the journey, offering techniques to deepen the experience, ways to cope, and smoothing out the ride.  Please read over the website, explore your feelings, and contemplate your “transition”, whether it is physical as in moving to a new place, or emotional as in falling in or out of Love, or Spiritual as in ascending in consciousness!  Yes, it could be all three at the same time!

Gender transition is about all three and often takes years if not an entire lifetime.  The physical is obvious and often takes center stage, esp. at the beginning.  The inner feelings need to express and they do, one way or another.  As the individual comes to terms with this expression they realize it goes deeper than a whimsical adventure.  The emotional shift is then allowed to take place.  This in turn begins the Spiritual shift.

The emotional feelings the person has felt, but denied or suppressed all their life come flooding out, sometimes explosive and sometimes a simple oooz.  Tremendous relief is felt as a balance and harmony is restored to the person’s life.  Like waves on the beach the feelings will come and go, and may never reach a total calm or balance, but then this is life on Earth.

Spiritual transition involves a change in the individual’s perceptions and beliefs or at least a deeper realization of these.  Once again this is often a lifelong journey and yet it can simply be a realization of what already exists.  Transition for most people is about discovering who they are and what can be more Spiritual than that?

Thank you for taking the Journey of Love with Unity in Gender Diversity, may your journey be a Joyous one.

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Be-Aware Of What You Say

How often do you stop and listen to your thoughts?  I mean really listen to what you are telling yourself?  It is called self-talk and we all do it.  What we all need to realize is that your unconscious mind is hearing everything said and saying YES, this is true and so it is.

This means that on a subconscious level you are creating everything in your life and often it is done in casual conversation like when you tell a stranger that the weather sucks today as you are filling your cup with coffee at the corner market, or when you say to someone in a discussion in the checkout lane at the supermarket you “have to go to work” after this.  If you carried a recorder around all day and then listened to everything you said that day you would be astounded!

Even little self-talk like “I am cold” or “I am hot”, etc. make a profound effect on your life.  I do it myself and have noticed this habit of thinking I am cold, which is in effect creating the experience, which then becomes a feedback loop (Think it, say it, feel it, think it, say it, feel it, etc.).   In order to break free from this habit takes a great deal of attention and living in the moment.  With practice anyone can do it and it gets easier the more you pay attention.

When you are focused on The Now and what you are doing at this moment, how your body feels, and every little detail of now the mind cannot be off getting into trouble!  When you contemplate the words you use, before using them, then you become empowered instead of being a slave to habit or whim.  The power comes from being conscious and thinking of what you desire – imaging the results you require.

Speak as if you are writing a book or a part in a play.  Be conscious of what you are creating with those words.  Put emotional intent into the words as well, which simply means “say what you mean and mean what you say”!   Speak with purpose even when in a casual situation.  For example, when at the market getting coffee, you could say “I look forward to the sun coming out” or “This coffee is so good”.

Using the words “I am” is particularly powerful as this is the name of God.  You may be aware that when Moses spoke to God, he was told that God’s name is “I am that I am”.  Translated into today’s terms this means that God is all there is; I am (God is) this and I am (God is) that.   When you use these words “I am” you are allowing God to operate through you and experience the world as God.  In effect, God is experiencing God.  So yes, this means that you are God.  You are made in God’s image because God is all there is!

The next time you utter the words, “I am” consider what follows and create with intent.  Feel the Love that is God and allow it to flow through you!  Speak consciously with authenticity and humility, while staying focused on your desires.  What you say is True!

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Why Transition?

Recently I was asked why anyone would want to take hormones and have surgery to change their sex.  They were curious about the personal benefits involved.  We often hear the costs involved, such as $$$, social status, and sexual dysfunction, however what a cysgender person cannot know is the pain, dysfunction, and inner turmoil that exists for a transgender person.  The very question demonstrates a lack of understanding.  So let’s set the record straight by explaining a few things.

First of all, incongruency exists for a transgender person, because they live in the opposite body of which both their brain and identity have aligned.  They are operating without the proper chemistry and attempting to work with the wrong tools.  You can use pliers to hammer nails but it just does not work very well.

Hormones assist in the regulation of brain function.  What determines Gender Identity is the effect of hormones on the fetus in the earliest stages of development.  “Scientific evidence has been growing that somehow certain brain-structures in the hypothalamus (the BSTc region) determine each person’s core gender feelings and innate gender identity. These structures are “hard-wired” pre-natally in the lower brain centers and central nervous system (CNS) during the early stages of pregnancy”.  (Dennis, Carina 2004)

Further, “Six years ago, the Netherlands Institute of Brain Research published the results of a study they had been conducting…. A subsequent report was published last year in the leading international journal for neurological studies, The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism [85 (5): 2034-41; May, 2000]….  What the researchers found were significant differences in the brains of men and women relevant to reproductive hormones, cognition, emotions, and our body’s responses to them. The differences were both in magnitude and consistency and involve a region of the hypothalamus identified as the BSTc. Human males average about twice as many neurons within the BSTc as do females. In both males and females, transsexuals did not have the neuron number typical of their gender, but, instead, had the number typical of the sex they always believed they should be.” (Niedermayer, Grace 2004)

The relief a transgender person feels from the proper hormones is usually a euphoric experience.  The beautiful thing about contra-hormone therapy (CHT) is the effects are reversible completely for about the first six months and even after years of therapy if the person decides to revert, although sterility is likely.  In only a few weeks it is clear if CHT is the right choice.

Testosterone in a body wired for estrogen or vice versa will create dysphoria, agitation, and irritability.  So if euphoria and a general peaceful feeling are not experienced then CHT is not the answer and other treatment is indicated.  Yes, CHT is a treatment for a medical condition, gender incongruency (formally known as Gender Dsyphoria).

As in any medical condition it is best to have specific medical guidance by someone with experience in gender therapy!  It is possible to treat yourself, just as anyone with any medical condition can do, however the results very drastically.  Hormones are not a recreational drug!  I find this almost comical that someone would think so, and yet invariably people do.  If you would like to know more about hormones, their effects, what to expect, other gender and sexual info please read my eBook, Sex and Sexuality, One Woman’s Journey of Discovery.

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Discipline, a tool for better living

Discipline is key to success in just about anything you do in life.  Now there will be serendipitous successes, however in the larger picture a person must be disciplined to achieve anything of greatness.  Think back through your life and notice the big successes.  Did they take planning and fortitude to complete?

Building a career, a house, completing a gender transition, making a move to a different country, etc. all take discipline, because they are major undertakings.  Even small tasks such as cooking dinner or washing laundry benefit from forethought and planning.  We have all tried to do things without planning and ended up doing the task over and over before it was done correctly.  Research pays off!

Thought, word, action is the process in any transition. First you visualize the goal or the end product and then you write down a plan and/or discuss the plan with someone you respect and trust.  Once the vision has been created and the process is firm within your mind and those helping, action is the next step.  It is important to believe in yourself and actually take action or it will simply be a pipe dream.  Un-acted on dreams tend to morph into resentment and become destructive, so this brings us back to discipline.

Building discipline takes time and effort, but with determination and the power of intention there is nothing you cannot achieve.  Martial arts are a good way to practice discipline as is any sport.  Arts and crafts are also a way to build discipline.  Any activity that requires repeated practice to perfect is an exercise in discipline.  Little do you realize learning an instrument or foreign language is actually building a skill that serves in many ways.

When you are faced with a major transition the discipline you developed in our younger years will pay off in spades!  This is the point behind 12+ years of school, years of sports, or music lessons.  It all leads up to greater consciousness.  This is what education is all about anyway, growth of the soul, and spiritual consciousness.

Discipline is a tool used on the path, the better your discipline the stronger the growth.  So don’t get caught up in the details and the seemingly menial tasks along the way.  Discipline develops over time and when used consciously it empowers you to manifest all your dreams!

😀 Sequoia Elisabeth

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An Expression of Inner Self

The essence of gender transition is an expression of inner self.  A process of living authentically as the person you are.  It is throwing societal dualistic expectations to the wind and being true to your soul.  It could be described as a deep spiritual experience accented by physical changes.  The journey is painful, loss is always involved, and the rewards are felt deep within your soul.

Gender transition is much like any transition.  Take ultimate transition for instance, the above paragraph could just as easily be describing what happens at death!  There is no choice about it, once you realize that your destiny is to transition it is a forgone conclusion.  The choice becomes, “How will I experience the transition”.

A common statement I have heard over the last few years working at the Gender Identity Center coming from new people who are inquiring of their services.  “I want to be a woman, do you provide hormones?”  A clear demonstration of misunderstanding!  It is not about wanting anything; it is about being who you are!  It is not fixed by taking a pill or having surgery, those are treatments for symptoms that may or may not be apparent at this point.

Gender Incongruency is the present terminology for describing “an incongruence between, on the one hand, what identity one experiences and/or expresses and, on the other hand, how one is expected to live based on one’s assigned gender (usually at birth) (Meyer-Bahlburg, 2009a; Winters, 2005)”.  Gender Identity is self-determined; meaning the person seeking treatment must tell the provider how they identify.  There are personality tests, feedback from family and friends, and general behavior markers that give a clue as to the gender identity, but those are only guidelines.  The individual must look within their heart, see the path they are already on, and then choose to walk it.  Meditation is a great tool for achieving this.

Once the choice is made to walk the destined path, then treatment is appropriate!  Professional guidance makes the journey much easier and more rewarding as does treatment with hormones and surgery.  A person can walk this path alone and many have, but that is like crossing the Himalayas on your own, instead do your homework, make the appropriate preparations, and then with the help of a guide make the journey a fun and exciting one that leads to Shambala!

Please remember that everything we do is ultimately for the feeling it brings us.  In the case of gender transition for the gender incongruent it brings relief, contentment, and joy!

😀 Sequoia Elisabeth

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