So what is transition really? Ok, so it is a change, but what does that mean? Yes, change is the most constant force in the Universe! By transition do we mean a flower blooming? Or a child growing to an adult? Maybe, however to make this as simple as we can let’s go with a definition of changing from one state of being to another. Now let’s get more specific and look at gender identity. The transition I speak of today is gender transition.
In a way the transition is not about change at all, but about awareness. Just being aware of what already is. The core does not change. Instead the person moves from ones state of being to another. Like peeling the layers of an onion the transition journey reveals the deeper realization of self. This may take a lifetime or it can be done in a few years. The fact is that individuals are born with a gender identity that is innate. However it is easy to be mis-lead by appearances. Getting caught up in societies expectations is so easy with all the roles we have thrust upon us.
Authentic gender transition is about removing the false persona, male identity for MtoF or female persona for FtoM, which is created to “fit” into the world based on societies expectations. Removing the veil and allowing our authentic self to emerge is what the journey is all about. Growing up takes time so transition does not happen overnight, however transition does happen a lot faster than the first time around, unless you are one of the lucky ones who have not allowed the veil to be drawn. When you start young the false persona is not created, but you still must be aware of your authentic self and make sure this is who you are expressing. More and more kids are being allowed to transition now days which is a revolution of awakening in this authors opinion.
Transition is a natural process that really needs no assistance other than deep awareness. Are you aware of how you feel? What makes you happy? Have you walked down that road and deeply enjoyed the journey? If you are male transitioning to female then dress up and see how it feels. Know as much as you can about the journey. It is sort of like planning a trip from New York to Shangri-La. In order to get to Shangri-La one must leave New York.
If you need a tour guide then by all means, please get help. Discovering the aspects of you that are false can be a long road and not an obvious one. The most important aspect of the transition journey is to be authentic and natural. Authenticity involves following your bliss, and doing that which brings Joy to your heart. Let go of any desire to play a role or attempt to fit other people’s expectations. It is not about being black or white (male or female), but about showing your true colors!
🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth
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